Not liking someone in the way they might like you

Explain what you mean by "fool around." I'm assuming you mean goofing around in a friend way, but...

 

I don't think you should go for it unless you have feelings for her. Also she still has a boyfriend so I'd have reservations about that.

 

Just go with what comes naturally and intuitively, don't feel pressured to "make a move" or anything like that. Boyfriends come and go, and maybe you'll be one of hers, or maybe not.

In any event, I assume you're a young guy, and learning how to talk naturally to women is a skill that requires constant sharpening and exercise, so even these interactions you are having with her are very valuable for you should you meet someone else outside of work maybe.

 

She's with a boyfriend who wants to dump her, but for some reason she's still with him? Sorry, I don't look too highly on stupid people....

Then again I'm not a dude with a little dude down below rarin' for some attention.

 

Yep, 26 is very, very young. If you went to college, for instance, then you've really only been in the adult world for 4 years! Now pipe down and listen to this grizzled old veteran with adamantium bones ...

Best not to broach the discussion, and definitely do not feel guilty about "leading her on" or anything like that. Now, if you engage in intimate contact with her, that's less honourable, but verbal flirtation is fine. I think you know full well what "too far" looks like, so I won't bother mentioning it further.

Women do it all the time to men they have no interest in, just to practice and to prove to themselves that they can still do it. And not only do they not feel bad about it, there is an entire sub-industry of the entertainment sector that tells woman and girls that doing it is okay.

 

26 is still technically young, but IMO still too old to deal with stupidity.

But yes, women do like to flirt with guys just to prove to themselves that they're still attractive. As long as it's just flirting, it's no harm, no foul. Might as well have some fun with her even if she's too immature/dumb for relationship material.

 

I could go for some good flirting.

 

How you doin'?

 

I wouldn't worry about it. People create their own problems by spending confusing and muddled messages and feelings. Whenever you act like that, someone's going to get screwed over eventually.

Just be precise, intelligent, and to the point on your end, and don't worry about nothing else.

 

I'm gonna give you some advice that a wise man once told me: "Don't trust crazy *****es"

 

Yeah, that Lao Tzu was one deep brother.

 

Well, it happens at times. It's like in Johari's Window. Only that, it's about liking someone. They may like you because they see something good from you but you don't like them.