Binker
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Has anyone experienced something like this, and could tell me what my brain is trying to tell me, or if I should make my own mind up?!
Okay, so theres this girl at my work; we talk, fool around a bit, we have each other's number, and she really likes me, even going as far as to say (only when I'm around) that I'm her bf and future husband (she already has a bf, but he wants to leave her for some stupid reason, and there's someone who came back into her life but they hardly talk from what I understand). This could be flirting, or just simply joking around, but what if it isn't and it's something more? What if it's like: she really likes me, and once her bf is out of the picture (he is a scumbag by what she has revealed to me), and would like to be with me because I'm better than him, for example? That's what it kinda feels like, and it might just be in my head (from my POV), but if it isn't, then there's this slight problem: I don't feel interested in her like she probably is to me if this is the case.
I mean it's not like I tried to see if I felt something for her in that way (it comes, but then it goes away y'know?), but I don't. I'm interested in certain girls, or had crushes on them, but not her. I wouldn't think of her in that way, or as one of the women I imagined myself being with. Maybe I don't know her better than I do, and maybe I should before passing judgment? But doesn't that feel like giving her a screen test if we were to, I don't know, hang out with her or something? I don't want to put her through that; especially if, again, either she's just fooling around and it's all in my head or she likes in that way but I'm not for her. Sadly, the only way would be to ask her, but I don't want to embrass her or myself once the cat is out of the bag.
I really don't know; has anyone ever went through this that could help me out in what it is, or what I should do?
Okay, so theres this girl at my work; we talk, fool around a bit, we have each other's number, and she really likes me, even going as far as to say (only when I'm around) that I'm her bf and future husband (she already has a bf, but he wants to leave her for some stupid reason, and there's someone who came back into her life but they hardly talk from what I understand). This could be flirting, or just simply joking around, but what if it isn't and it's something more? What if it's like: she really likes me, and once her bf is out of the picture (he is a scumbag by what she has revealed to me), and would like to be with me because I'm better than him, for example? That's what it kinda feels like, and it might just be in my head (from my POV), but if it isn't, then there's this slight problem: I don't feel interested in her like she probably is to me if this is the case.
I mean it's not like I tried to see if I felt something for her in that way (it comes, but then it goes away y'know?), but I don't. I'm interested in certain girls, or had crushes on them, but not her. I wouldn't think of her in that way, or as one of the women I imagined myself being with. Maybe I don't know her better than I do, and maybe I should before passing judgment? But doesn't that feel like giving her a screen test if we were to, I don't know, hang out with her or something? I don't want to put her through that; especially if, again, either she's just fooling around and it's all in my head or she likes in that way but I'm not for her. Sadly, the only way would be to ask her, but I don't want to embrass her or myself once the cat is out of the bag.
I really don't know; has anyone ever went through this that could help me out in what it is, or what I should do?