The other major problem I have is Iron Man vs Captain America.
On one side you have Iron Man, who while aloof and somewhat conservative in nature is not so right wing that he would devestate a friendship over it (Although Cap is known for much harder stances - see Captain and Nomad). Iron Man has been close friends and allies with Captain America since a fateful "Tales of Suspence" comic several decades ago. Iron Man has always been gracious with his fellow heroes and Avengers. Providing technical support to the X-Men, Fantastic Four and Alpha Flight. Providing his home and services to his Avengers, and stealing the hearts of almost every female to cross his path. And while he hides his own problems behind an iron mask of shame, he is not afraid to help others with their own.
The fight reminds me of an issue of Green Lantern/Green Arrow gone horribly, horribly wrong. (It is about as fair a fight as well). Green Lantern and Green Arrow faced social/economic issue after issue after issue. And while they tended to disagree it was a give and take between the two. They learned from eachother rather than bickered. But THIS ONE issue, this ONE massacre of a school (out of incidents of Goblins raiding New York, Alien Invasions, Maximofs going crazy, mutant scares, Ultrons and Visions going nutty, Acts of Vengence and tidal waves crashing over Broadway) causes a public panic and a friendship torn asunder. If this is Iron Man's "moment of clarity" then his super intellect is slower on the uptake than we thought.
Spider-Man, Reed Richards, the X-Men, Avengers and Fantastic Four have lived with the personal knowledge that their pressence and efforts have created villains and caused uneeded destruction in the past. But not once have they ever considered blaming eachother for it.
Green Goblin II, Apocalypse, Mr Sinister, Dr Doom, Ultron, Magneto, Titanium Man and many others would never be threats had the heroes never dawned costumes. So what is the big issue now? Why now. I don't remember people wanting Phineas Horton's head on a platter when his andriod creation battled it out with an invader flooding half of New York City.
Furthermore this bi polar disorder characters have appears elsewhere. After 3 decades of Havok and Lorna being the next highest mutant couple. Bobby immediately starts pursuing Lorna in a childish and inane manner. Behavior not seen from Bobby in years. Totally flushing down the toilet all the maturing he had since the mid eighties.
Ann Nocenti, Chris Claremont, Steve Englehart, Stan Lee, John Byrne and several others could write rings around the Miller/Morre/Morrison wanna bes of today.