1) How do you know what went on in the two years after Spider-man 1? Peter was obviously still in love with MJ and she knew it...she was trying to get him to be honest with himself and admit that he loved her. How frustrating do you think that must have been for MJ? To know that someone truly loves you but is not willing to admit it (although Peter had a good reason in doing so).
Because the opening lines by Peter is him reminding the audience that he rejected MJ two years ago because his life as Spider-Man was too dangerous.
Being still in love with her doesn't mean he's been stringing her along with constant rejections. In fact the movie makes the point that she hardly ever sees him anyway because his life is too busy.
People are always getting into relationships that just don't make sense. This was one of those times.
People are always committing murder, too. That doesn't make that right either.
She was just trudging along in a relationship with John and his consistent support of her and courting her, led her to believe that being with him was a good thing, even though it really wasn't. This is a common error that people make. Have you seen the divorce rate?
Again, this doesn't justify what she was doing. The world is full of selfish people who use others just to fill a void in their life.
MJ was one of those people. You pointing out it happens in the real world doesn't make it any better.
2) Nah. They are good reasons but it's cool that you disagree with them.
How are they good reasons? Explain to me how you can justify using someone in a loveless relationship because she can't get over someone who rejected her TWO years ago makes what MJ did not selfish.
3) Well that's the problem now isn't it. She 'thinks' that she is in love with him and even tells her friend that in one of the added scenes in SM 2.1.
Of course she doesn't...she loves Peter. But what's the point of continuing to chase someone who won't be there for you. John was the next best thing. The heart is a complicated thing especially when the mind gets in the way. All MJ wants is to be happy in love in a relationship.
You're just re-enforcing my point. She was only being with John because she couldn't have the guy she really wanted. "The next best thing" is not someone you don't love.
And let's not forget that Peter was also playing mind games with her...
He did no such thing. After he quit being Spider-Man he could live a normal life and then went to her and offered her his love.
She was already engaged to John and everything by this point. If MJ had the slightest inkling she didn't love John and wanted Peter, which he obviously did especially after doing the upside down kiss on John and then going to meet Peter behind John's back, then she should have ended things with John then and there like any decent person would.
4) I agree that those are crappy things to do to another person but the heart wants what the heart wants.
Two things:
1. Her heart didn't want John and she knew that
2. It doesn't give her license to use someone else to fill an emotional void she can't get over even after 2 years
She would have been doing more damage in the long run had she just stayed with John and ignored her feelings for Peter.
Which she was clearly intending to do if she had not learned Peter was Spider-Man. I mean even after she learned Peter was Spider-Man she let the wedding proceed anyway, and of course had to wait until the last moment to run out on John and leave him a little card note.
Classy.
I do agree that MJ handled the whole thing pretty poorly but then again she's not exactly devoid of problems herself. She had a horrible upbringing and suffers from lack of self confidence. This leads to her lack of properly dealing with issues I guess.
That doesn't alter or excuse her selfish behavior. You don't mis treat other people just because you have personal issues.
MJ is painted as some paragon of virtue in these movies. Some kind of wonderful girl who Peter can only hope to dream of having. Yet she is one of the most selfish people ever to grace a comic book movie.
She throws her feminine wiles around like ninja stars.