The Virginity Question

[B.A. Baracus]

A persons Virginity is a funny old thing, Some men feel it's like a weight on their shoulders and would like to try and get rid of it at any chance they get. For some it actually has a stigma attached, the older you get with your virginity intact is often frowned upon by most.

Then theres the other side of the coin, some people wear purity rings, holding out for there first real sexual experience until they are married.

For me i lost mine with someone i loved at 21, but i did feel it was a burdon being that age and still a virgin. Though maybe if i did lose it earlier i'd have regretted it.

How did you feel about your virginity? was it something sacred? something special or something you just wanted to get rid of as soon as possible?

How do you view people that choose to save their virginity? or those that are still virgins at a later age?

Do you feel you lost your's at the right age? do you wish you waited, or maybe you feel you waited too long. Or maybe your still one. Discuss.

 

[The Squirrel]

I'm a virgin. (booo hiss get him!) And it doesn't really bother me at all. I mean sure sometimes I wish me and my ex had done it, but then I realize that would have been a mistake.

Edit: I just turned 24 if that matters.

 

[B.A. Baracus]

Can i ask how old you are?

 

[The Squirrel]

Haha, I just edited that in before your post showed up.

 

[Angry Monkey]

I'm 22 and still a virgin...I uphold abstinence and it is a requirement for my future husband

How did you feel about your virginity?
was it something sacred?: to me it is
something special or something you just wanted to get rid of as soon as possible?: I am no hurry

How do you view people that choose to save their virginity?: I view them as mature

or those that are still virgins at a later age?: they save themselves allot of heartache and pain

Do you feel you lost your's at the right age?: I still have mine

 

[B.A. Baracus]

I personally dont think it matters unless it matters to you, with it does not.

 

[E-Man]

I'm 22 and still a virgin...I uphold abstinence and it is a requirement for my future husband

Ummm Will Smith lost his virginity a long time ago.

 

[Angry Monkey]

Ummm Will Smith lost his virginity a long time ago.

Just because you admire someone's acting doesn't mean you have a romantic love interest in them...

You can like someone but not want to bang them.

Granted Will is adorable..but I don't want to sleep with him...

besides I want my first to be with someone who's faithful...Will is a swinger...he's disqualified.

 

[Gunga Diner]

I'm 18, I lost mine over the summer to somebody that I'd known for about a month but really really cared for. I was sure it was love. I have some regrets now, because the girl wound up screwing me over when she went to college. I got way too attached and so the break-up was really, really tough. I also regret it because I can't think about sex without thinking of "her," but I guess that'll change when and if I hook up with somebody else.

Funny story about that girl? I was the second guy she'd been with. She decided that when she lost her virginity, she wanted it to be with somebody she'd always love and never lose. She didn't want to lose her virginity to somebody she would break up with and have regrets. (Irony.) So she lost it to her gay best friend. Now on the one hand, you could say that was a good idea, because they'll always be friends and they'll always be able to look back at that experience and laugh. On the other hand, you could say that her decision was stupid, because she saw losing her virginity as something she could "get out of the way" and "get over with."

Now I'm dating a girl who's Catholic and is waiting until Marriage. That's fine by me, because she's interesting enough as a person for me to be able to live without the physical part of that relationship. But we'll always have the roadblock of me NOT being a virgin, no matter how comfortable with it she acts. We've made it work though. I understand that sex means a completely different thing to her than it does to me, and I respect that. I respect her.

But I went to a high school where there was an enormous amount of stigma attached to not having your virginity lost by the end of senior year. I lost mine after graduation. I waited (unintentionally) until we were both legal and it was with somebody that I felt comfortable with, and it was worth the wait.

In the end, it's different for everybody. It really depends on how you view sex. Is it something purely physical? Is there something more emotional to it than that, something you should save for somebody you love and can be vulnerable with? Is it something you want to save for marriage?

 

[Catman]

"People confuse sex with love making. Sex is what you do to be good at love making. You can't just magically give some an orgasm. It takes time and practice. So, before you get married and experience the honeymoon, make sure to have as much sex as possible."

- Colossal Spoons

 

[Erzengel]

I was never pressured by my friends about it. I think I put my own pressure being one of the last of my friends. Welcome to Virgin Town, Population: 1. So while I was in college, I pretty much did it with the first woman who offered. We shared a brief 3 month relationship and I didn't tell her she was my first initially.

I respect other's beliefs of abstaining until a certain time or even marriage, ironically I thought that too in high school. How things change. But, I don't think I could be with someone who wanted to wait til marriage. That's my belief. But if you have 2 people who are willing to do all that, more power to them.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

I don't think being a virgin is nearly as much of a big deal as it used to be. I also think not being a virgin is that big of a deal anymore really, either. Maybe that's because I've grown up and it's been years since high school. Maybe those pressures are the same, I wouldn't know, but it shouldn't surprise me. But they shouldn't exist. Virginity's really only a problem if you make it one.

Have sex when you're ready. And that's never sixteen.

 

[Erzengel]

Unless it's the early 1800s.

 

[Aesop Rocks]

Have sex when you're ready. And that's never sixteen.

 

[JStorm]

Lost at 13, but understood the stigma throughout high school.

Actually, I don't think any of my friends were virgins, so we didn't poke fun. And to boot, most of the girl we hung out with were not either. Now that I think of it, I don't believe I've EVER had a friend that is still a virgin, or didn't lose it before 15/16.

I'm on par with Erz. More power to the two people that wish to wait, but I would never date a girl that was a virgin and wanted to wait - I'd ruin her.

On point, with a bit of a derail, I tend to think people look upon this ideal differently around late 20s, as close to early 30s. I'm not saying girls just jump in bed at those ages. But I've noticed that women tend to be more open and secure with their past and how they handle their present. Meaning, instead of teasing a guy for weeks, or months, I've had women just flat out tell me - "I like sex" on the third date. That didn't mean we went straight home. But it as almost like a disclaimer that I made it to round three, she liked me, and if I kept up the pace date four or five might end "happy."

 

[JStorm]

I don't think being a virgin is nearly as much of a big deal as it used to be. I also think not being a virgin is that big of a deal anymore really, either. Maybe that's because I've grown up and it's been years since high school. Maybe those pressures are the same, I wouldn't know, but it shouldn't surprise me. But they shouldn't exist. Virginity's really only a problem if you make it one.

Have sex when you're ready. And that's never sixteen.

I had a blast being a whUre in HS.

 

[E-Man]

Just because you admire someone's acting doesn't mean you have a romantic love interest in them...

You can like someone but not want to bang them.

Granted Will is adorable..but I don't want to sleep with him...

besides I want my first to be with someone who's faithful...Will is a swinger...he's disqualified.

Ahh so you don't want to do him because he's black. That's pretty messed up. I never pegged you as one of those types. I don't feel safe around you anymore. I'm calling Black Dynamite to handle this.

 

[tzarinna]

I wish I had waited a little later in life.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

I had a blast being a whUre in HS.

I'm sure you did. And I'm not necessarily saying the ****ishness may be the reason, but you're not the most mature 25-35 on the forum. Perhaps there's some connection?

 

[S.A.A.D.]

I'm 27 and I haven't lost my v card. I hate it!!

 

[Erzengel]

I do agree it's not as as a big of a deal anymore, which might actually be a fallout from the refusal to grow up of youth today.

I didn't get however, the posters in the other thread about "Getting to Know You", and this question came up and it was like none of your business. And true while it wasn't any of our business, the most common conclusion I came to was embarrassed virgin who didn't want to say it. But in the end, who cares?

 

[The Original Bamfer]

I'm 27 and I haven't lost my v card. I hate it!!

You're 27?!

 

[Gunga Diner]

I'm sure you did. And I'm not necessarily saying the ****ishness may be the reason, but you're not the most mature 25-35 on the forum. Perhaps there's some connection?

That was a pretty inappropriate and uncalled for thing to say, especially for a Mod...

 

[JStorm]

I'm sure you did. And I'm not necessarily saying the ****ishness may be the reason, but you're not the most mature 25-35 on the forum. Perhaps there's some connection?

I honestly took offense.

 

[The Original Bamfer]

I do agree it's not as as a big of a deal anymore, which might actually be a fallout from the refusal to grow up of youth today.

I didn't get however, the posters in the other thread about "Getting to Know You", and this question came up and it was like none of your business. And true while it wasn't any of our business, the most common conclusion I came to was embarrassed virgin who didn't want to say it. But in the end, who cares?

I still kind of think of the first time as like Christmas, you know? It's a special and meaningful event... or else it it's supposed to be. I find it difficult to talk about my story because it involves a ***** who was cheating on me with my best friend at the time. So, while sex is fun, the memories of my first times aren't so pleasant.