Sex, Virginity & Growing Up

[The-Dark-Knight]

It seems in thisday and age children are children for a lot less, When did having sex become a past time and losing your virginity to anyone become nothing?

I remember the 'shame' of still being a virgin at 16 when everyone else was losing it (when in reality most were stil in the same boat as me, yet less honest) But when did it become shameful to be a virgin at 16, when did losing your virginity mean so little? Granted there are those who hold out not till marrage but until they feel its right or with the right person, but there is still a large amount ready to jump into bed with anyone just so they can say there not a virgin.

There was a tv show on BBC 3 a few week's ago about a girl who at 14 has a 8 month old baby, she got pregnant the first time she had sex, when she was 13. Maybe i'm just old fashioned in my ways, maybe its that i'm a dad watching my children slowley growing up before me, that i still believe that losing your virginity should mean something, sex is not just a bit of fun you do with every tom dick and harry. I'm not saying wait till your married until you have sex, but at least wait until your old enough to understand what it entails, at least lose it to someone that really means something to you (though the teens think the person they lose it to does mean something)

Am i alone in thinking children are growing up way too fast?

 

[Halloween]

I think it's funny to see 11-12 year old kids with cell phones and laptops and their iPod classics.

My kid is in 8th grade and always tells me of kids that she knows that are having oral and actual sex. At least she understands the fact that it is "understood" that if a girl has sex, she is a ****. But if a guy has sex, he is a stud. She doesn't want to be in that category. She realizes that whatever she might do with a guy, that everybody will know about it. So she stays away from that. She says her friends come up to her with all that talk and she tells them to tell somebody else that. She doesn't want to be a part of that drama.

They do grow up faster now, but not all. I think if they are parented right, they will do ok in that department. My wife has shown her books on the diseases, etc. that you can get from sex, especially unprotected sex. I have faith in her she will wait.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm waiting for that special someone to give my flower to.

 

[Untilteld]

I'm young as you all know and everyone around me has had sex, and has bragged about it being amazing, I'm waiting.

 

[mightiest_mortal]

At least she understands the fact that it is "understood" that if a girl has sex, she is a ****. But if a guy has sex, he is a stud. She doesn't want to be in that category. She realizes that whatever she might do with a guy, that everybody will know about it. So she stays away from that. She says her friends come up to her with all that talk and she tells them to tell somebody else that. She doesn't want to be a part of that drama.

I think that that's the right idea actually.
Rather than sex ed teaching how people should wait for it to be special and for marriage, they should just teach everybody that whatever they do, everybody in the whole school will know that they're a big skanky ****.

 

[Halloween]

I think that that's the right idea actually.
Rather than sex ed teaching how people should wait for it to be special and for marriage, they should just teach everybody that whatever they do, everybody in the whole school will know that they're a big skanky ****.

For kids, what you are known for/about in school in everything to them. They dont care about marriage or their future yet. It's all about today. She knows girls in school that are ****s and she knows how everybody talks **** about them. She knows that guys only date them to get what they want and dump them. I'm just glad she realizes this. It is sad that it is like this, but that is the way it is.

 

[CorpusBlack]

Man, ****s are great!

 

[The-Dark-Knight]

I think it's funny to see 11-12 year old kids with cell phones and laptops and their iPod classics.

My kid is in 8th grade and always tells me of kids that she knows that are having oral and actual sex. At least she understands the fact that it is "understood" that if a girl has sex, she is a ****. But if a guy has sex, he is a stud. She doesn't want to be in that category. She realizes that whatever she might do with a guy, that everybody will know about it. So she stays away from that. She says her friends come up to her with all that talk and she tells them to tell somebody else that. She doesn't want to be a part of that drama.

They do grow up faster now, but not all. I think if they are parented right, they will do ok in that department. My wife has shown her books on the diseases, etc. that you can get from sex, especially unprotected sex. I have faith in her she will wait.

Sounds like a smart girl, you should be proud

 

[Halloween]

Man, ****s are great!

haha!


But not when it is your own daughter.

 

[Tron5000]

For kids, what you are known for/about in school in everything to them. They dont care about marriage or their future yet. It's all about today. She knows girls in school that are ****s and she knows how everybody talks **** about them. She knows that guys only date them to get what they want and dump them. I'm just glad she realizes this. It is sad that it is like this, but that is the way it is.

It's rampant in high school, but gets much worse than that.

When you're in college, on your own, and you live in a co-ed dorm, it's just so damn easy to do. And when you turn 21, and you're out drinking with the buddies, you see lots of hooking up for 1 night only. It's not that way with everyone, but my friends are mostly in the 24-28 age bracket, and it's just a fact of life that these folks are having sex with lots of people, and mostly just once or twice.

 

[Halloween]

Sounds like a smart girl, you should be proud

Definately! The kid is pretty cool.

 

[CorpusBlack]

haha!


But not when it is your own daughter.

God, I hope I never have a daughter. I'll be greeting every boy she brings over with a tire iron.

 

[Halloween]

God, I hope I never have a daughter. I'll be greeting every boy she brings over with a tire iron.

I tell her mom that when she is going to bring a boy over, I will be watching a bloody war movie with a shotgun next to me.

One thing I have done with a past boyfriend of hers, I always said his name wrong on purpose. His name was Brandon. I always called him Brian or something else. She hated that. haha!

 

[Tron5000]

God, I hope I never have a daughter. I'll be greeting every boy she brings over with a tire iron.

Dude, I have a 16-year-old sister. She thought she was dating a 21-year-old. Till big brother showed up one night and made it painfully clear that that was not going to happen.

 

[CorpusBlack]

I tell her mom that when she is going to bring a boy over, I will be watching a bloody war movie with a shotgun next to me.

One thing I have done with a past boyfriend of hers, I always said his name wrong on purpose. His name was Brandon. I always called him Brian or something else. She hated that. haha!

Dude, I have a 16-year-old sister. She thought she was dating a 21-year-old. Till big brother showed up one night and made it painfully clear that that was not going to happen.

Gotta teach these young punks.

 

[Majik1387]

I do agree kids are growing up way too soon, but it's not like it's just happening now. I mean, on myspace, I've actually been approached by these little teens(13-15) for sex; This all started around 2005. When I say not interested and that they should do some other things instead of sex, they go on to tell me they lost their virginities at 12-13 years old and there's nothing for me to worry about.

I mean I am open about sexuality and all, and it's fine to have curiosities about it, but I don't believe anyone should engage in anything unless they're truly ready for it, emotionally, mentally, and physically.


On a happier note, 6 days to my year anniversary of my loss of virginity.

 

[Tron5000]

On a happier note, 6 days to my year anniversary of my loss of virginity.

You should celebrate by having crazy sex with a random stranger. t:

 

[Majik1387]

You should celebrate by having crazy sex with a random stranger. t:

Just like I lost it.









jk, he wasn't a random stranger, but I didn't know him very well.

 

[ROBOCOP CPU001]

Just like I lost it.









jk, he wasn't a random stranger, but I didn't know him very well.

Was it different for you though cause your gay.. did you wait until you were 18?

 

[Majik1387]

I was 19. Though I had my first ever sexual experience a week before my 19th b-day.

 

[ROBOCOP CPU001]

I was 19. Though I had my first ever sexual experience a week before my 19th b-day.

Dude, what the hell were you doing 19????

 

[Majik1387]

 

[ROBOCOP CPU001]

no worries..i was just surprised..i mean you hadn't even kissed someone..that considered sexual.

 

[Majik1387]

That's right. I would've kissed earlier on if I didn't have so many closet cases at my school.

 

[ROBOCOP CPU001]

That's right. I would've kissed earlier on if I didn't have so many closet cases at my school.

indeed, i feel so sorry for you.

Thank god you made up for lost time.