What are your dating "dealbreakers"?

[Chris Wallace]

The things that will make you just say "Oh, Hell no! Go no further. I am outta here!!!!"

 

[Erzengel]

Ugly hands.

 

[Wolfwood]

If we go see a movie and she insists on talking the entire time through the movie. Or she's texting during the movie.

 

[Darthphere]

If we go see a movie and she insists on talking the entire time through the movie. Or she's texting during the movie.

Texting in general. If we're at dinner and you're texting while I'm talking to you it shows that you're not interested. Pay for your own damn meal.

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

B.o.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Here's a few. I'll come up with some more later

1. Being a grump or depressing (I.e. 'Wow you steak looks great' 'it's alright I suppose')

2. Complimenting too much (I.e. 'Did I tell you you have amazing eyes?' 'Yes... 20 times already... Now it's just weird)

3. Bragging about being 'hard' (I.e. 'Was that waitor just rude to you? I'll punch his lights out! Back when I was in prison, I knocked someone out just by looking at them).

4. Agreeing with everything I say (I.e. 'Do you like red wine?' 'No, can't stand the stuff' 'Really, I love it!' 'Oh... I mean I love it too... Did you say red wine, I thought you said red VINE lol...').

5. Asking/talking about how the date is going ('Are you having fun? Do you like this restaurant? I've never gotten this far in a date before, how am I doing?)

 

[THE MR. TERRIFIC]

Here's a few. I'll come up with some more later

1. Being a grump or depressing (I.e. 'Wow you steak looks great' 'it's alright I suppose')

2. Complimenting too much (I.e. 'Did I tell you you have amazing eyes?' 'Yes... 20 times already... Now it's just weird)

3. Bragging about being 'hard' (I.e. 'Was that waitor just rude to you? I'll punch his lights out! Back when I was in prison, I knocked someone out just by looking at them).

4. Agreeing with everything I say (I.e. 'Do you like red wine?' 'No, can't stand the stuff' 'Really, I love it!' 'Oh... I mean I love it too... Did you say red wine, I thought you said red VINE lol...').

5. Asking/talking about how the date is going ('Are you having fun? Do you like this restaurant? I've never gotten this far in a date before, how am I doing?)

I couldn't come up with this many. I've been out the game to long. I'm glad I don't have to worry about dating crap anymore.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I couldn't come up with this many. I've been out the game to long. I'm glad I don't have to worry about dating crap anymore.

I haven't been on a 'date' in years! I'm just using my imagination

TBH I think I've been on 2 proper dates in my entire life. I tend to just fall into relationships (and not many at that).

 

[Erzengel]

It's funny as your dealbreakers increase as you get older. In college, dating a girl who bartends or waitresses is alright. When you are pushing 30, you would like someone who actually has a job with a future.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I think that depends on whether you have a decent job yet yourself

And I'd be fine dating someone without a career... As long as they WANTED more. It's the people with no ambition beyond being kitchen help in the town they grew up in that put me off personally.

And that's not being snobbish (the majority of my friends are like that to some extent), it's just - I want more... So if you don't, then we don't have a future really.

 

[Wolfwood]

When she/he starts comparing you to their ex.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

When she/he starts comparing you to their ex.

Yes, that's a good one.

Any talk of ex's is bad. Especially if they were recently dumped and blatantly rebounding.

 

[DarthDaveBanner]

Saying I LOVE YOU on the first date...

 

[AndThePickles]

Biggest one - smoking. Yuck.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

If she's (a) a dead fish in bed that just lies there joyless... or (b) she wants to wait until marriage. I'm sorry, sex isnt the be-all-and-end-all, but it's definitely a huge factor. If you're a prude or have weird hang-ups about the act, I'm gone.

Also, anyone who nags or criticizes too much. The occasional argument can release some tension and be constructive towards building a stronger understanding, but not if they're over little things and every day. And I hate games. If I send you a text in response to a text you literally just sent me, then please don't take hours to respond.

There are other things, but I'll save that for another post.

 

[Spidey220987]

Since being with my girlfriend, I haven't been out with another woman lol, and I have no reason to.

BUT when I was single, the 1 thing that would be the "dealbreaker" as you put it was if they smoked. There were many girls/women who were gorgeous, ticked all the right boxes...THEN I'd see them with a "deathstick" lol, and that just ruined the appeal.

 

[Spidey220987]

Biggest one - smoking. Yuck.

Didn't read the whole thread, just the thread title and first post lol.
Until I started reading the rest of the thread
Glad we agree

 

[Wolfwood]

I used to absolutely hate smoking, it would give me a headache. Then I didn't a woman who smoked and I sadly became accustomed to it haha.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

6. Blatantly checking out other woman

7. Taking me on a 'date' to the bar where all your friends hang out and then spending the entire evening talking to them instead of me (that one ended with me spending most of the evening chatting to one of his friends... who was much nicer )

8. Conveniently realising you left your bank card at home and leaving me to pick up the check... and never offering to pay me back half

9. Smiling at me too much... that might sound weird, but I can't stand it if every single time I look at the guy, he's smiling like he's trying to flirt but doesn't know how

10. Playing with your pocket knife and glaring while we're talking to a guy I know...

11. Talking about how openly bi-sexual you are and how your a big believer in free love

Okay yeah, been on more dates that I remembered earlier

Though some of those weren't real dates, just real weird nights

Actually, the date where the guy forgot his bank card ended even worse than that. As I was walking him to the taxi rank (to get him a taxi that I was going to have to pay for ) this chav guy started having a go at him... and he ran away... I mean seriously, like a little girl he ran...

Now, I'm not saying all guys have to be tough guys to have a chance with me... but he just left me there with the guy!

Luckily, i've been a barmaid and i'm pretty good and calming down drunk idiots.

Oh... and my first ever boyfriend I stopped dating not longer after he said this to me:

'If you put bread up your *$£%, would you get a yeast infection?'

... I wonder why, huh?

 

[Spidey220987]

I remember my first date, was in October 2007, just after I started my 2nd year at Uni.

I don't drive lol, so even when I left early, the bus came late.

I was in such a rush, I got off at the wrong stop, and ran to the wrong location, and got lost LOL!

Was only about 5 minutes late, but late is late in my book.

We went to the cinema to watch Rob Zombie's Halloween.

I was 20 years old, 5 foot 5 and got ID'd, and the girl was like 4 foot 8 and didn't LOL!

EDIT: Luckily for me, my 2nd date was with my current girlfriend. Will be 3 years on January 21st :-D

See, nerds can get girls lol

 

[Spidey220987]

Oh... and my first ever boyfriend I stopped dating not longer after he said this to me:

'If you put bread up your *$£%, would you get a yeast infection?'

... I wonder why, huh?

Why would he want to know that?

 

[Anubis]

Well, clearly he has a desire to become a pastry chef.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Why would he want to know that?

That was exactly my response funnily enough

To which he simply shrugged his shoulders and mumbled 'Just wondered'.

 

[Erzengel]

I think that depends on whether you have a decent job yet yourself

And I'd be fine dating someone without a career... As long as they WANTED more. It's the people with no ambition beyond being kitchen help in the town they grew up in that put me off personally.

And that's not being snobbish (the majority of my friends are like that to some extent), it's just - I want more... So if you don't, then we don't have a future really.

Like I said, if you're in your 20s going to school waiting tables, it's fine because yeah, you have ambition for something greater.

But I know women in their 30s waiting tables. It's not someone I would consider to date long term.

 

[Spidey220987]

Well, clearly he has a desire to become a pastry chef.