What constitues an affair?

[X-Chick]

That kind of falls within what jag said... it DOES depend on your partner's views but IMO if you're emotionally involved with someone else then it's almost worse than being physical with someone else IMO.

I agree with that actually. I could probably forgive a one night stand, but I couldn't forgive falling in love with someone else or even have feelings for someone else.

 

[BRUTAL]

I agree with that actually. I could probably forgive a one night stand, but I couldn't forgive falling in love with someone else or even have feelings for someone else.

To me, that would mean that the emotional tie you have to your partner means more to you than the physical attraction. That's seems like a more solid relationship...

 

[Eros]

An affair, is secret sexual relations between 2 un wed individuals.

 

[Matt]

I don't think innocent flirting constitutes anything. But flirting with the hopes of getting lucky does.

How about emotional attachment without any physical action? Like say you had a thing for someone for a long time, then move on. Later after you're married or in an otherwise committed relationship, you see or talk to this person again and the feelings are still there.

Yeah, I think that can be a lot worse than physical. Then again, having feelings for someone is one thing...if you have feelings for an ex, but LOVE your current significant other...then I think you are safe.

 

[Matt]

An affair, is secret sexual relations between 2 un wed individuals.

What if neither individual has a siginificant other outside of each other? Is it an affair then?

 

[Eros]

What if neither individual has a siginificant other outside of each other? Is it an affair then?

yea, like if a single teacher and a young student were haveing secret sex, that would be an affair to.

 

[Matt]

yea, like if a single teacher and a young student were haveing secret sex, that would be an affair to.

And if a single 25 year old man has a secret (for whatever reason) sexual relationship with a single 25 year old woman is it an affair?

 

[Eros]

And if a single 25 year old man has a secret (for whatever reason) sexual relationship with a single 25 year old woman is it an affair?

yea.

 

[Drakon]

Does physical desire for someone else, without any action count? Hardly. It'd be stupid for me to be upset at Lady Drak for lusting over Brad Pitt, just like it'd be dumb of her to be mad at me for having naughty thoughts about Milla Jovovich.

What about a strong emotional connection with someone without any physical contact?
This is somewhat situational. There's a lot of variables to consider.

What about physical intimacy, but without any feelings?
Providing you gave yourself willingly ["You got raped! You don't care for me! I'm leaving you!" doesn't apply], I'd say yes, even drunkenly. The only exception with the drunkenly thing is if you don't remember. I say that because I have a friend who got drunk and woke up next to someone, and she told him they screwed, and everyone else at the party was like, "Dude, **** no. You yakked in the ****ter, and passed out with your pants off. We just tossed you in that room beside her passed out ass."

What about a one night stand?
No, that's just cheating.

How about phone or Internet sex?
Internet sex, hell no. By that logic, everytime you *********ed to porn that has the same "star" would constitute as cheating. Does phone sex even EXIST anymore? Even so, I'd say no, especially if you call one of those sex lines, because, well, they're men.

What about distance (the different time zone thing)? Are affairs limited to only those who are married or do they apply everyone?
I'd say that if travel time was more than a few hours, it wouldn't apply. Of course, an exception would be if I were to drive back to Virginia like once a month to be with my high school crush. In terms of semantics, I'd say yes. Cheating is universal, but an affair is exclusive [married/engaged].

For that matter, how would you define "affair?"
A continuing emotional or physicial relationship with a person/persons outside of your commited relationship.

 

[vibeke_T]

The Bible teaches that the sin begins in the heart

 

[X-Chick]

Where you been, sugar? I missed you.

 

[Matt]

yea.

How so?

 

[vibeke_T]

Where you been, sugar? I missed you.

moi?

 

[X-Chick]

moi?

Drakon, actually. But you too. You're fantastic.

 

[Eros]

How so?

Affair, in lay and professional usage, does not require any of the parties to be married, though often one is in a committed relationship. Adultery refers more specifically to those in a legal married relationship.

 

[Drakon]

I've been super busy between working on my own tabletop game with some real life friends, celebrating a birth in the family, working on my website [with all 7 of it's regular posters ], and spending time with the missus. Usually when I see you online, you're either idle or sign off, so it's been a game trying to be online at the same time as you.

 

[vibeke_T]

lol

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

The Bible teaches that the sin begins in the heart

It also teaches that if your wife touches another man's testicles accidentally while trying to help defend you from his attack, you are to chop off her hand "without pity".

Ya gonna do that?

 

[Lackey]

It also teaches that if your wife touches another man's testicles accidentally while trying to help defend you from his attack, you are to chop off her hand "without pity".

Ya gonna do that?

Why is the guy trying to attack you while he's naked?

 

[Abaddon]

Does physical desire for someone else, without any action count?

No.

What about a strong emotional connection with someone without any physical contact?

no, but it might be unhealthy for your relationship with your lover.

What about physical intimacy, but without any feelings?

Yes

What about a one night stand?

yes.

How about phone or Internet sex?

not really.

What about distance (the different time zone thing)? Are affairs limited to only those who are married or do they apply everyone?

everyone who isn't open about not being exclusive.

For that matter, how would you define "affair?"

A violation of the conditions of a relationships because of the inclusion of a third-party in a romantic/sexual way.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

Why is the guy trying to attack you while he's naked?

Maybe 'cause you stole his clothes while he was in the pool.

But it doesn't mean "skin-to-skin".
Just the general Ball Area will do.
I don't know but I guess touching his Wand is cool with Jesus.

 

[BRUTAL]

It also teaches that if your wife touches another man's testicles accidentally while trying to help defend you from his attack, you are to chop off her hand "without pity".

Ya gonna do that?

Don't know about you but when a flaming pile of leaves tells me to do something... I do it... or pee on it...

 

[Lackey]

Maybe 'cause you stole his clothes while he was in the pool.

But it doesn't mean "skin-to-skin".
Just the general Ball Area will do.
I don't know but I guess touching his Wand is cool with Jesus.

the balls are where the "man's seed" resides

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

the balls are where the "man's seed" resides

except for when it's vacationing in the woman's hair.

 

[X-Chick]

I think some of you are confusing cheating and having an affair.