Yeh, bread does help, Zilla. Curries don't need to be that spicy though; you can have delicious curries that are fruity, with lots of veg like tomatoes and onions. I like either, but it's good to have options. Some meats differ the spice level, also... beef and lamb, for example, seem to soak up a lot of the spices. If I had a chicken madras, it would burn my ****ing mouth out, but if it was beef or lamb it would be much milder.
You want a nice curry that isn't gonna make you red-faced and shooting steam from your trap, go with tika masala or korma - even rogan josh. I actually don't like korma (coconut based), but it is comparatively milder.
If you go for a spicy one, don't forget to have your toilet roll in the fridge waiting for you