What Others Think of You

[November Rain]

It is important to realise your impact on others, instead of leading an oblivious life of thinking you're an ass or amazing.

Other people's opinions of yourself can keep you grounded in good or bad cases. There should be some people's opinions you can rely to be valid. You don't have to listen to everyone.

Strangers are usually good judges after a short period of time if you allow yourself to be open to them.

 

[DBella]

No. Lonely.

PDA's remind me of what I lack in life.

Kinda like when a pregnant woman shares her good news with her sterile sister.

Well, I've plenty of affection to spare. Want some?

There used to be a time when I tried to please everyone, and make everyone like me, but that was too much effort, now if you like me great, if you don't, I don't give a ****.

Exactly!

 

[UA-Archangel]

Well, I've plenty of affection to spare. Want some?

Exactly!

Appreciated, but no thanks.

I must be strong enough to do without it.

 

[DBella]

It is important to realise your impact on others, instead of leading an oblivious life of thinking you're an ass or amazing.

Other people's opinions of yourself can keep you grounded in good or bad cases. There should be some people's opinions you can rely to be valid. You don't have to listen to everyone.

Strangers are usually good judges after a short period of time if you allow yourself to be open to them.

What you said do make sense. However, there are people who are quick to judge you and have made up their minds to hate or dislike you regardless of what you do, only so that they can feel good about themselves.

But yeah, I get what you're saying and agree with you to a certain extend.

So... what do you think of me?

 

[DBella]

Appreciated, but no thanks.

I must be strong enough to do without it.

Excellent.

 

[JayCaz]

I think you're bloody smashing!

 

[Eggyman]

Appreciated, but no thanks.

I must be strong enough to do without it.

I want to read you posts whilst listening to the Incredible Hulk's David Banner Lonely Walk theme tune.

 

[Lobo]

I want to read you posts whilst listening to the Incredible Hulk's David Banner Lonely Walk theme tune.

 

[Eggyman]

UA, put that in your sig

 

[DBella]

That is absolutely smashing!

 

[UA-Archangel]

UA, put that in your sig

Done. It's an appropriate personal theme.

 

[Lobo]

You can embed the actual video in your sig

 

[November Rain]

What you said do make sense. However, there are people who are quick to judge you and have made up their minds to hate or dislike you regardless of what you do, only so that they can feel good about themselves.

But yeah, I get what you're saying and agree with you to a certain extend.

So... what do you think of me?

Well that all comes down to your ability to validate their opinion. Not all opinions are valid so they can't be counted but general personality stuff isn't too bad. Besides A real bad insight is more of an opener into others than yourself.

Dbella, in all honesty, I don't really know you so i don't have a personal opinion. You do come across as well liked on the hype though and hopefully in real life too.

I do notice that people that tend to be well liked on the hype are either well liked in real life or don't make it socially in the real world. I would assume you are the former but can't tell.

What do you think about me (November rain + Odin's lapdog)

 

[knowsbleed]

Eggy, the embryonic pimp.

 

[DBella]

Well that all comes down to your ability to validate their opinion. Not all opinions are valid so they can't be counted but general personality stuff isn't too bad. Besides A real bad insight is more of an opener into others than yourself.

I agree with you there. I think if those who are comfortable with themselves and know themselves well, realize that they have tried to live their lives to the best of their ability, I think they can pretty much tell which opinions should hold weight and which ones shouldn't matter.

Dbella, in all honesty, I don't really know you so i don't have a personal opinion. You do come across as well liked on the hype though and hopefully in real life too.

Thank you for your honesty. I appreciate it. It shows you are not one to judge or the kind to make grand assumptions of those whom you are not familiar with. I am the same way here as I am in real life. I know some like to put on a different persona when they are behind the computer screen, I just want to be true to myself regardless of my 'audience' or company.

I do notice that people that tend to be well liked on the hype are either well liked in real life or don't make it socially in the real world. I would assume you are the former but can't tell.

It's hard to tell, isn't it? I won't be able to tell either.

What do you think about me (November rain + Odin's lapdog)

I am familiar with both names, but in name only. Unfortunately. Therefore, it's hard for me to say what I think of you. However, from the few posts that I've read of your as November rain, I find your posts to be thoughtful and that you are someone is not afraid to voice your views, even if they are not the same as the majority's. I can respect that.

 

[knowsbleed]

I do notice that people that tend to be well liked on the hype are either well liked in real life or don't make it socially in the real world. I would assume you are the former but can't tell.

How do you figure this? Do you know anybody IRL from the Hype that brings you to this assumption?

 

[UA-Archangel]

How do you figure this? Do you know anybody IRL from the Hype that brings you to this assumption?

People tend to be consistent. In an internet forum, they may be a little more open and a little more of a jerk, but overall, they don't change that much.

 

[knowsbleed]

I've honestly never asked people what they thought of me, not that I don't care... I just find it in bad taste to ask strangers or acquaintances what they thought of me. I may have asked people I've been intimate with what they've thought of me, but that's different.

 

[November Rain]

How do you figure this? Do you know anybody IRL from the Hype that brings you to this assumption?

No, I don't really have a hunch on this but there are dudes who know alot of their stuff and are valued for it on the hype. They know their comic book film knowledge, they know their politics, they know their finance etc

However in order to obtain that level of detail in areas of expertise where interaction isn't really necessary, you have to wonder how much time these individuals spend interacting with others socially.

 

[DBella]

How do you figure this? Do you know anybody IRL from the Hype that brings you to this assumption?

I do a few IRL who are like that. I wish they'd be as confident and self-assured as they are while they're on message boards, and have many times told that that's a part of them too and they should try to bring that out when they are away from the computer screen.

I've honestly never asked people what they thought of me, not that I don't care... I just find it in bad taste to ask strangers or acquaintances what they thought of me. I may have asked people I've been intimate with what they've thought of me, but that's different.

It is in poor taste to ask. I posed the question to November Rain as a jest, just to pose the question of the thread. I appreciate his answer though.

 

[November Rain]

I am familiar with both names, but in name only. Unfortunately. Therefore, it's hard for me to say what I think of you. However, from the few posts that I've read of your as November rain, I find your posts to be thoughtful and that you are someone is not afraid to voice your views, even if they are not the same as the majority's. I can respect that.

Ha, I am actually known for being 'contraversial' in real life. I'm forever playing devil's advocate and thinking outside the box (or most people's boxes).

Opinions are very important and powerful things, Alot of people have certain opinions and don't know why they do. When people have somewhat irrational opinions, I like to step in to see whether they can be justified or not to validate it.

If you asked someone for an opinion on something, they could probably give you something, continuing asking them why or break down what they are implying and most get stuck in realising the implications of their thoughts.

It's the unravelling I'm interested in.

I'm glad you picked that up

 

[Ronny Shade]

I'm way more concerned with my reputation on this website than I am in real life


:facepalm

 

[November Rain]

It's not in poor taste. I think it's important to know where you stand with people. In a workplace you need regular (quarterly and bi-annual) appraisals to know whether you are going in the right direction and what you may need to progress further.

In real life however, it's not that structured, and you may come across as needy. Realistically though, you can tell if you are enthuiative what others think about you by the contact you have with them. You can tell whether your opinion is valued, or you are weak, or knowledgeable in a certain area, or whether you are rude or commanding or the vacuum you leave when you aren't around.

However if you can't then feel free to ask but use these opportunities sparingly, or gather them from as wide an audience as possible.

on the flipside, people are less and less honest about their peers and just say what they think will get them out of the situation as soon as possible. There's too much of a comfort society where people aren't open and honest about their views. I think i'm lucky to have been brought up in a culture where your own mama can call your devil spawn if you piss her off and can admit she loved you less in your ugly teens. Again if people were more willing to tell people the frank honest truth every once in a while, you'd get less needy people.

Neediness comes in the necessity for one to reflect a view of a needy person back to them, which comes in a complacent 'don't give a crap society'. If everyone could be blunt honest (with constructive aspects included), then needy people wouldn't go around asking 400 people the same question until they get the answer they want.

No one should be afraid of being honest as long as you can see it is purely their opinion and their opinion alone.

 

[November Rain]

I'm way more concerned with my reputation on this website than I am in real life


:facepalm

I'm no longer hype cool, you can tell how cool you are by if you get dedicated a birthday thread and how many pages you get.

This is the first year people forgot mine, my best length was 4 pages back in 2004

 

[Ronny Shade]

I had like 4 threads made about me at once.