Why Men Are No Longer Willing To Marry.

[Lighthouse]

LOL! Yeah, that definitely tells me you're a virgin. If you ever manage to get laid it will destroy all that you think you currently know. I promise. And when that happens, you will immediately think "Damn, jag was right!". I promise.

jag

Great. Now after I get done getting laid for the first time, I'm gonna think of jag and his Santa prowling cat.

 

[jaguarr]

Great. Now after I get done getting laid for the first time, I'm gonna think of jag and his Santa prowling cat.

It's the gift that keeps on giving.

jag

 

[Badger]

Great. Now after I get done getting laid for the first time, I'm gonna think of jag and his Santa prowling cat.

It could be worse...

Spoiler

 

[jaguarr]

Badger has a very valid point.

jag

 

[Lighthouse]

It could be worse...

Spoiler

And now thanks to you, I will never have an erection again.

I'm thinking THAT should be Catman's avatar.

 

[kedrell]

It'll happen, dude. Seriously.

jag

Ok, but I'm not some 18 year old lamenting the fact that it's not happened yet. In fact, I hardly care if it ever happens any more. There are other outlets. But back to the topic, I don't see what drives men to get married. If porn ain't enough for some guys, are there no hookers?

 

[SoulManX]

Ok, but I'm not some 18 year old lamenting the fact that it's not happened yet. In fact, I hardly care if it ever happens any more. There are other outlets. But back to the topic, I don't see what drives men to get married. If porn ain't enough for some guys, are there no hookers?

Oh I don't know...LOVE maybe

 

[terry78]

No guy wakes up one day and decides he wants to get married. All our life we get it drilled into our head that we need to play the field, hook up with as many females as we possibly can. But then one day you find that one that makes you feel all weird. Your friends will crack jokes on you about how you're tied down, but usually they secretly wish they had someone to come home to and discuss the day with.

 

[ElToro]

Iam not getting married.I did before but now.Hell no!

 

[Varient]

Go to the Sperm Bank.

Easy answer for women who don't want to bother with a man,.. but isn't an opion for men who want to raise a child on their own,.. of their flesh,.. ALONE.

If I wanted to give money to someone I ****ing hate, I might as well save a few years and just write a check to someone I hate now. That's the thing, I work, I'm a generous person and willing to give absolutely anything and everything to a person I love, hell even people I'm indifferent to. But with an ex-wife, chances are if you're getting divorced, and for me to not make something work, then in all likelihood this is a person I despise abhor and loathe - then I have to pay them, so much for equal rights. **** marriage, I'm sure I'll get suckered in, and it's a frustrating situation.

Not always going to be about what you do,...and whether you hate someone or not.
I know too many GREAT people who got with folk who turned out to be truly twisted.

A woman willing to dump 25 years of marriage w/o giving her husband time to decide whether he can give her selfish (sound biased don't I? But the bottom line here is her disrupting a marriage because she can,.. not because he did something wrong.), behind what she wants is truly twisted in my book.

I'm sure there is a flip side to this,.. but I'm not typing about men who divorce women yet.

With that attitude I don't think you should have children.

I suppose it's relative (Pun intended.) But I believe you can be a great parent but a poor spouse,.. so a williness to be one but not the other doesn't discount ability.

I'm willing to marry.

choose carefully.

yeah i want a baby not to give a stranger a baby

Meh,... then avoid sperm banks.

(I wonder how good thier records are in relation to the donors?)

V.

 

[Superman]

I'v been with my wife for almost 15 years. I love being married.

 

[Super Kal]

choose carefully.

I will.

 

[BlackLantern]

i'm all for love and having a committed or long term relationship.....I'm just not keen on the concept of marriage

 

[Eggyman]

I'm really looking forward to getting married.

Not much more I can say on the matter

 

[jaguarr]

I'v been with my wife for almost 15 years. I love being married.

I've been with my wife for over 5 years, married for over 3 of them. It just gets better and better every single day and I too love being married. Of course, I waited until I was a little older to get married because I vowed I'd never get married unless it was absolutely the right girl. I didn't find her until I was in my thirties and I was 35 when we got married. It was more than worth the wait and I think our both having matured a bit and sorted through some of our wild oats before getting together helped.

i'm all for love and having a committed or long term relationship.....I'm just not keen on the concept of marriage

I never was keen on the concept, either, until I met the woman who became my wife. The relationship I had and have with her made me change my thinking on the idea. So, never say never; you just don't know when you'll meet that one person who will change your mind.

jag

 

[Angry Sentinel]

Socially, marriage has changed so much over the last 30 years simply because the male/ female relationship structure has also changed so much. There used to be so many guidelines and constructs that told each party what to do and what not to do. Now, it's all about ignoring those concepts and maintaining your individualism while balancing the cohesiveness of a marriage.

To be honest, that attitude is the main reason I would avoid marriage, it has been impossible for me to sustain that type of balance on the short-term, much less long-term. But, there are quite a few people who have been able to have that balance and they seem really happy... so maybe there is hope.

 

[BlackLantern]

LOL! Yeah, that definitely tells me you're a virgin. If you ever manage to get laid it will destroy all that you think you currently know. I promise. And when that happens, you will immediately think "Damn, jag was right!". I promise.

jag

I lost my virginity right after high school and honestly it did not radically change mind. the one prevailing thought I had was "this feels really good.......Id like to do more of it".

Sex has been romanticized when at the end of the day it is a physical activity that humans desire so they can mate....its really only special if its with someone you love.....

one night stand sex is certainly fun, but its not life changing unless she gets pregnant or you catch something.

as for the act itself....my philosophy is "Just because I'm sexing you doesn't mean I like you".....call me shallow.....I dont care....I just havent found the right one yet

 

[November Rain]

Taken from Black Voices website:

Link:

http://men.msn.com/articlebl.aspx?cp-documentid=5873934&GT1=10715

Excerpt:

Sudden Divorce Syndrome. You won't find it in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, that bible of psychiatric illnesses, but you will find it in life. In a 2004 poll by the AARP, one in four men who were divorces in the previous year said they "never saw it coming." (Only 14 percent of divorced women said they experienced the same unexpected broadside.) And few events in a man's life can be as devastating to his physical, mental, and financial health.


Check link ....ish is UGLY!

The only reason why i am unwilling to marry is because i've been brougth up thinking that:

I'm not worthy of being a loving being
Any spouse i have will be constantly berrated by my mother
I may turn into either of my parents
I'll be unable to love any other being except for myself
I'll beat my spouse.


It's a tough mould to break out of, so many negatives, it's almost not even worth considering. I'm too old to be sad about it though i've become very passive to the notion, it doesn't even cross my mind.

Cheers folks for the mental block

 

[jaguarr]

I lost my virginity right after high school and honestly it did not radically change mind. the one prevailing thought I had was "this feels really good.......Id like to do more of it".

Sex has been romanticized when at the end of the day it is a physical activity that humans desire so they can mate....its really only special if its with someone you love.....

one night stand sex is certainly fun, but its not life changing unless she gets pregnant or you catch something.

as for the act itself....my philosophy is "Just because I'm sexing you doesn't mean I like you".....call me shallow.....I dont care....I just havent found the right one yet

The point was that real sex with a real woman is infinitely better than jacking it to porn. Do you disagree with me?

jag

 

[BlackLantern]

The point was that real sex with a real woman is infinitely better than jacking it to porn. Do you disagree with me?

jag

I agree totally....I'm very meh about porn....I have some in the house but I can't recall the last time I even checked it out

 

[Varient]

I'm having the stone set in the ring as we speak.

Congrats.
So,... you did this w/o consulting her? I hope you've chosen correctly.

Going into a relationship with the sole intention of getting a child out of it is a horrible thing.

???
Women have done this forever,... Did I miss the change in the status Quo?
So many women who want to have kids "the right way" have been told by THEIR MOTHERS that it doesn't matter if you love the husband at first,... that the daughter would "learn to love her husband."

Unfortunate that chemical/biological science has supported that bit of wifery - that the act of being impregnated by a certain male does cause a chemical cascade that emotionally ties her to that man.

I say unfortunate because feminist do not want to know that love can be induced in a female by knocking her up.

Agreed. Do I want kids? Sure, but I have the intention of loving who I'm with.

Props.

its better than going into a relationship unprepared for a child and then having one and lets face it when a woman wants a "baby daddy" its fine but just because i want a child rather than a partner as a man its frowned upon sexism much

Ah - -

Any man who gets married, at least in CA, is a f**king fool.

w/o a prenup - I agree.

She needs to say yes first, but thanks. You guys think a Valentine's Day proposal is romantic or lame? I'm trying to pick a good date to ask her.

I'm thinking that the day you propose should be special because it's the day you propose,... not a certain day on a calendar. Her birthday or the day of a great accomplishment on her part would be better than valentines day.

Valentine's Day is popular. Be unexpected.

agreed.

V.

 

[kedrell]

The only reason why i am unwilling to marry is because i've been brougth up thinking that:

I'm not worthy of being a loving being
Any spouse i have will be constantly berrated by my mother
I may turn into either of my parents
I'll be unable to love any other being except for myself
I'll beat my spouse.


It's a tough mould to break out of, so many negatives, it's almost not even worth considering. I'm too old to be sad about it though i've become very passive to the notion, it doesn't even cross my mind.

Cheers folks for the mental block

I'll drink to that! For some people, too much time has gone by with absolutely nothing happening and it tends to set a person in one's ways.
I'm sorry, but when you're in your mid thirties and you've never even come close to actually going on a date, much less having sex or getting married, well a person's gonna stay there forever by that point.

The point was that real sex with a real woman is infinitely better than jacking it to porn. Do you disagree with me?

jag

I don't see the difference. You achieve orgasm either way.

 

[Varient]

That would be why black men are no longer willing to marry. Oh no I did'ent!

Well,.. that could be part of it. Marriage today is seen by most single men as voluntarily putting ones nads in a velvet-covered nutcracker and handing them over to a being who once a month could kill you as easily as kiss you.

Awesome. I proposed to my wife at a Bed & Breakfast in Mt. Vernon, IA.

I proposed in our favorite sandiwich shop,... with a cigar band.

i'd be perfectly happy just to cohabit. if any legal reasons made this a worse option it should be laws that change and not my marital status.

The plus of cohabitation if you "both work" is the requirement by both to make it work for fear of one of you stepping away - marriage for the immature allows people to believe that now that you are married,.. they can be as horrid as they want w/o reprecussions.

That was some seriously depressing reading

YUP.
and it's happening often enough to where men as a group are starting to turn away from getting hitched.

I could see how some would be depressed by it. It just added more support for why I will never marry

All a matter of personal choice.

Marriage as it currently stands is more benifit to females than males,...
(Hmmn,.. thats a good topic starter.)

V.

 

[Badger]

Marriage as it currently stands is more benifit to females than males,...
(Hmmn,.. thats a good topic starter.)

V.

Oh, please expound on this.

 

[terry78]

The only thing I see wrong with marriage in the media is that fictional accounts don't make it out to be something you want. Look at all the sitcoms featuring married couples...the guy wants to have fun, relax, etc. And the wife, hot as she may be, is the biggest shrew ***** on the face of the earth.