A question about compassion...

[Socrates]

I gave a homeless guy a sandwich when he asked me for money and I turned around and he threw it in the garbage.

You know, I have somebody a muffin once. And now I wonder if he actually ate it.

 

[Kable24]

Do you give money to people who'll come up to you and ask for a few bucks?

Today, I was at a Lowe's. My friend and I bought some Philly Cheesesteaks at a stand in front of Lowe's. We walk back to the car, and there is a guy who is fixing his 2 front tires. I saw this guy, when I first got to Lowe's, wondering what was wrong.

His girlfriend comes up to me and asks me for a couple of bucks. I (having 10 bucks in my pocket) say no, because I blew my load on the food in my hand. She says she was very low on money and was barely living out of her truck. (I guess she meant it wasn't the best of $ times for her) I kindly say no, say I'm sorry, and wish her and her boyfriend good luck. While I am eating in the car, I see her asking random people in the parking lot for money. I really start to feel terrible when I see her doing this, because I start to believe she really does need the money.

Later, I see that the boyfriend fixes the tires and drives off. I felt really bad. I got jipped once for being too kind, so that was in my mind. Half of me thought she was lying, because if I gave her "a couple of bucks", what would it have done? The compassionate side of me felt terrible. I start thinking that charity is always a great thing and what if I were in that position?

But the question is:

Do you give money to people who'll come up to you and ask for a few bucks?

I would have asked if she wants to earn the money by pleasuring me. If she would have said "yes", then I would feel she truly needed the money and gave it to her without her having to pleasure. If she refused then she didn't need the money that bad.

 

[sassycat]

It depends. If the person looks off their rocker and starts to get aggressive I won't. I usually give something to people who are doing something to gain it painting with crappy tools or playing music, even if it's really bad

 

[Warhammer]

"If a homeless guy has a funny sign. He hasn't been homeless that long. A real homeless guy is too hungry to be funny."-Chris Rock

Haha.
No sex in the champagne room.

 

[Warhammer]

I would have asked if she wants to earn the money by pleasuring me. If she would have said "yes", then I would feel she truly needed the money and gave it to her without her having to pleasure. If she refused then she didn't need the money that bad.

Her bf was pretty big.
He'd brake my face.

 

[Erzengel]

I usually give singles to struggling female coeds who are trying to dance their way towards medical or law school.

 

[Helghast]

I give them blank checks. Which explains why I have declared bankruptcy about twenty three times in the last four years.

 

[The Riddler]

i never give money to them.

i just say no and walk by.

 

[FRUITY]

No. If you're poor accept it.

 

[PhePhe112]

If I have the extra cash I would spare a dollar or two. Because I know if they didn't really need it, then karma would ass rape them later.

same here!!

 

[Alpha and Omega]

But the question is:
Do you give money to people who'll come up to you and ask for a few bucks?

Um, it depends.

Several years ago, this guy was trying to borrow money from people at a gas station while I was filling up. Apparently, he was trying to get back to another location that was out of my state, but no one would help him out.

I was going to say no at first until I saw that he had two little kids w/ him. I prefer plastic to cash, so I didn't give him any money, but I did fill up his tank and he was on his way. [yeah, I checked his license tags before I listened to his spiel about how he was trying to return to Philidelphia, and they were Penn. St tags, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt.]

From the look of his vehicle (rusted, busted tail light), he seemed like he wasn't doing so well financially, so I opted to just help him out.

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I'm sort of glad that I did that now; usually, I'm so paranoid about a fraud or scam, so I just say nope or not my problem. This lady called my house today and asked if I wanted to donate $5-50 to a wig foundation that gives children hair replacements. I told her that I don't do financial transactions over the phone and she told me to have a heart and mail something to a specific address. I told her that I was heartless and baldness was a fashion statement. Now I feel bad about it, but I'm just not into donating money. Why does every person have to personify a benefactor or a philanthropist? I don't see the problem w/ saying no, but people are made to feel as if they're committing a crime by declining to give; that sucks.
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's don't ask for money.

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[Warhammer]

Um, it depends.

Several years ago, this guy was trying to borrow money from people at a gas station while I was filling up. Apparently, he was trying to get back to another location that was out of my state, but no one would help him out.

I was going to say no at first until I saw that he had two little kids w/ him. I prefer plastic to cash, so I didn't give him any money, but I did fill up his tank and he was on his way. [yeah, I checked his license tags before I listened to his spiel about how he was trying to return to Philidelphia, and they were Penn. St tags, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt.]

From the look of his vehicle (rusted, busted tail light), he seemed like he wasn't doing so well financially, so I opted to just help him out.

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I'm sort of glad that I did that now; usually, I'm so paranoid about a fraud or scam, so I just say nope or not my problem. This lady called my house today and asked if I wanted to donate $5-50 to a wig foundation that gives children hair replacements. I told her that I don't do financial transactions over the phone and she told me to have a heart and mail something to a specific address. I told her that I was heartless and baldness was a fashion statement. Now I feel bad about it, but I'm just not into donating money. Why does every person have to personify a benefactor or a philanthropist? I don't see the problem w/ saying no, but people are made to feel as if they're committing a crime by declining to give; that sucks. ​

's don't ask for money. ​

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I feel bad when the cops call my house asking for a donation.

 

[NyteWing]

It's weird, whenever I go to New York or Boston I get asked for money. I must have a sign on my back. I'm not doing so great myself these days, but I usually figure that I'm doing well enough to spare a dollar or two. I know that half of them are scams or people looking to buy a 40, but for the cost of 10 Wendy's chicken nuggets I'll take the chance.

What IS weird is the looks I usually get from my friends (even the bleeding heart ones) who seem shocked that I'd even walk up to the beggars. I guess it's a dog-eat-dog world.

 

[Alpha and Omega]

I feel bad when the cops call my house asking for a donation.

^Same here. The cops or the firefighter association. I do give money to the firefighter organizations in our area, since I've been friends w/ a couple for a while, and budget cutbacks are murdering their pay, but I don't really donate to the cops.

One called my house and tried to goad me into giving money to law enforcement; I told him that Uncle Sam's wallet was never-ending and mine wasn't a forthcoming. It was like no wasn't the answer he would accept, so I hung up.

Usually, I have no problem saying no or screw you to adults, but the kids always make me reach for my wallet. (d*** urchins) I'll see a bake sale or troops selling cookies and I'll try to dodge it, but it they ask, I just give them a few bucks. I rarely even eat dessert items, so the crap's either given away or thrown out. . .​

 

[Lantern Venom]

I love the homeless drunks which ask for money. They admit they're alcoholics, and tell me they'd even use the money for beer. At least they are honest

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I've always handed these situations the same way: if they'll allow me to buy them food from the grocery store/restaurant, then I'll help them out. Otherwise, I assume they are just trying to get alcohol so I just walk away.

 

[Topdawg]

As a muslim its normal giving money and food to the poor people.
whether or not they use it to buy good things, its up to them.

 

[Hades]

Ugh, I get pretty much harassed by everybody when I go downtown.
Drugies, bums, cops, old people. I live next to this indian reserve. Alot of the
really messed up alchohalic indian come in to town, and basically live on the streets for day at a time, and mooch money off everybody for beer. Or..listerine, and or anything that will give them a high. But, uh I used to give them some money, now I just try to ignore them because they're all such *******s. Them and their little group obviously targeted me for a while and basically asked me for money, all the time. There was a time, I couldn't even go anywhere without one bumping into me and asking me for money. It's just..infuriating.

 

[Fran]

I've never been in that situation before.

I'm not quite sure what I'd do, though... it's a toughie.

 

[WeaponZ2]

I give a loonie here and a toonie there. Nothing big.

 

[AndThePickles]

Honestly, there are so many fakes out there that I don't tend to give people money anymore. Given the choice, I'd rather give people food than money that they'll blow on their drug or alcohol addiction, etc.

 

[Justice-Man]

There should be a "Hell No" option in the poll...

It's not about compassion or no compassion, it's about taking reponsibility for your own life. If you've made stupid decisions then why should you be given charity for that? Pick yourself up, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do something with your life.

 

[Lantern Venom]

There should be a "Hell No" option in the poll...

It's not about compassion or no compassion, it's about taking reponsibility for your own life. If you've made stupid decisions then why should you be given charity for that? Pick yourself up, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do something with your life.

These situations aren't always about bad decisions. People are sometimes born into or suddenly put into desperate circumstances. Chronic poverty, mental illness, job loss, death of a bread winner spouse etc..aren't situations that are likely to be solved overnight.

 

[Justice-Man]

These situations aren't always about bad decisions. People are sometimes born into or suddenly put into desperate circumstances. Chronic poverty, mental illness, job loss, death of a bread winner spouse etc..aren't situations that are likely to be solved overnight.

But no situation is unsolvable unless you just give up.

 

[Lantern Venom]

But no situation is unsolvable unless you just give up.

Ultimatley unsolvable? No. That's not really the issue. The fact is that *some* people end up asking for charity because they have no other immediate options. Especially when kids are involved, people have to take desperate action sometimes.

 

[Spoarz™]

Yeah, I give money to those who are homeless and ask for money. Most of the time when they ask, I don't even think about it, I just automatically give it to them.