Anyone else into not drinking?

[Showtime]

We had a friend that came out to bars and hung out with us when drinking, and none of us thought he was weird, in fact we respected him for it.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

We had a friend that came out to bars and hung out with us when drinking, and none of us thought he was weird, in fact we respected him for it.

We liked him, but you could seriously tell his behavior was out of place. Moreso when he came over our apartment on our nights of drinking. Great to be a designated driver -- we always have one of them -- bad if we aren't going anywhere and you're just sitting with us as we get blitzed in our own apartment safely away from any outside dangers.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Yep, that is normally my reason as well. Fridays are tough because even though I'm a teacher.....sometimes I have work on Saturdays so a Friday drunk would not be too smart. lol

Same, not because I'm a teacher...but same diff.

 

[Showtime]

We liked him, but you could seriously tell his behavior was out of place. Moreso when he came over our apartment on our nights of drinking. Great to be a designated driver -- we always have one of them -- bad if we aren't going anywhere and you're just sitting with us as we get blitzed in our own apartment safely away from any outside dangers.

I can understand the view and the view of your friends, I guess we never looked at it like that. He was always so fun anyway.

 

[BatMatt]

Well be sure and at least have the liquor before the beer.......

actually last night it did work out that way, but I'm beyond that "liquor before beer" rule anymore

 

[ShadowBoxing]

I can understand the view and the view of your friends, I guess we never looked at it like that. He was always so fun anyway.

I dunno, I just think people should find friends who share their interests and like to do the things they do. I think drinking is so widespread, maybe people feel compelled to try bars every now and then even if they don't plan to buy anything there -- but it just strikes me as going to a nudist camp with your clothes on. If you don't like alcohol why go to a place that just serves alcohol (or mostly)?

 

[Kelly]

I go to a nearby pub pretty much at least once a week. I'm not a major drinker, and I have a few friends that don't drink at all. I think what we don't like are those that get totally blitzed, and therefore we are responsible to get them somewhere before they kill someone. Most of us live within walking distance of the pub, and none of us drink to that extent. So, as far as, people like us......yeah we are alike in that manner. But, if my friends that don't drink didn't come with us just because there is alcohol served here, then they would be missing some great debate and time with friends.

lol, I don't see drinking anywhere near the same as a nudist camp. My non-drinking friends have no problem with me drinking something different than them, but I doubt they want to see people's packages. So to speak.......

 

[Showtime]

I dunno, I just think people should find friends who share their interests and like to do the things they do. I think drinking is so widespread, maybe people feel compelled to try bars every now and then even if they don't plan to buy anything there -- but it just strikes me as going to a nudist camp with your clothes on. If you don't like alcohol why go to a place that just serves alcohol (or mostly)?

I don't see it that way, I try to participate in my friends interests even if I don't necessarily share in them. I'm not a big fan of golfing but when they go, I try my hand at it. However, using your analogy, I guess I would just carry the bags or ride on the cart instead of actually golfing.

 

[C. Lee]

Eh...maybe...but here is another perspective. We had a friend who was just like you described. He didn't drink, but he hung out with us and never made a big deal. We loved him like a brother...but at the same time we always thought he was a little weird. I wouldn't reccommend non-drinkers making friends and hanging out with drinkers in drinking atmospheres. You might think it's okay -- but trust me, you're most def coming off like a weird-o when you're drinking water at the bar or drinking soda at the game of "f--- the dealer".

All that does....is tell me how intolerant of others YOU are. So many of the people on here try to paint me as the old intolerant fogey....and yet they constantly post about how they don't like or trust this person or that one because they don't think exactly like they do.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Ive never had any interest in drinking and honestly have never had a whole beer in my life. I don't understand the point of getting piss drunk only to regret or not even remember what you might of done the previous night, but to each his own. I hate when trying to hang out with pals is affected cause there all a little tipsy and I'm the one to try an control them. I guess hanging with drunk people isn't fun unless your drunk yourself. Either way I hope everyone whether your drinking or not is safe tonight if you do decide to go out since its probably the most dangerous night of the year to be on the road.

You do realize that having a few drinks doesn't automatically cause this to happen right? The type of scenario you talking about is usually pretty rare actually and mostly only happens with inexperienced drinkers.

Eh...maybe...but here is another perspective. We had a friend who was just like you described. He didn't drink, but he hung out with us and never made a big deal. We loved him like a brother...but at the same time we always thought he was a little weird. I wouldn't reccommend non-drinkers making friends and hanging out with drinkers in drinking atmospheres. You might think it's okay -- but trust me, you're most def coming off like a weird-o when you're drinking water at the bar or drinking soda at the game of "f--- the dealer".

I don't really agree with that, when I was in college a good friend of mine never drank, but she hung around with me and my friends in my fraternity all time and we never had any problem with her not drinking. She never judged us or anything, we had plenty in common outside of drinking, over the years she's started drinking a little, but very, very rarely gets drunk. I'd never stop hanging out with someone for not drinking or not include them for it as long as they're cool and don't play the holier than thou card.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

All that does....is tell me how intolerant of others YOU are. So many of the people on here try to paint me as the old intolerant fogey....and yet they constantly post about how they don't like or trust this person or that one because they don't think exactly like they do.

I have no problem "tolerating" his behavior, you missed the point entirely. If the atmosphere you walk into is all about drinking, and you don't drink, it's a little weird. It's a little weird to come over our apartment for our "drunk night" (which was Fridays) and not drink while we play quarters, f--- the dealer, Ring of Fire, Drunk Jenga, etc. He's not weird when he comes over for movie night, or for the big game, or to come out and eat dinner with us, when the nature of the occasion is not "let's get trashed/let's drink". It's like going to a gym and not working out. Going to a class and not learning anything. Going to work and...well...not working. Ultimately it only leads to that person being the odd man out because when we do our round of shots -- he's not included. When we start drunkenly joking with each other -- he stands by and watches us act like idiots. He is essentially a voyeur in those situations...

 

[Holiday]

Shadow, reading some of your earlier posts it seems as if you're trying to portray non-drinkers as anti-social losers. Not all people need to drink to loosen up and have a good time.

 

[Kelly]

I have no problem "tolerating" his behavior, you missed the point entirely. If the atmosphere you walk into is all about drinking, and you don't drink, it's a little weird. It's a little weird to come over our apartment for our "drunk night" (which was Fridays) and not drink while we play quarters, f--- the dealer, Ring of Fire, Drunk Jenga, etc. He's not weird when he comes over for movie night, or for the big game, or to come out and eat dinner with us, when the nature of the occasion is not "let's get trashed/let's drink". It's like going to a gym and not working out. Going to a class and not learning anything. Going to work and...well...not working. Ultimately it only leads to that person being the odd man out because when we do our round of shots -- he's not included. When we start drunkenly joking with each other -- he stands by and watches us act like idiots. He is essentially a voyeur in those situations...

Well damn SB, I'm a drinker, and I wouldn't enjoy that stuff. That is not just a difference in drinking, that is a total difference in personalities which goes beyond drinking.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Shadow, reading some of your earlier posts it seems as if you're trying to portray non-drinkers as anti-social losers. Not all people need to drink to loosen up and have a good time.

No, that's not it at all, I'm saying they're putting themselves in awkward situations. If you like to NOT DRINK you shouldn't be going to a DRINKING party. You're only setting yourself up to be left out of things. My friend was awesome, but when we drank, he couldn't participate in 90% of the sh-- we were doing. It's not doing anyone any good to go to a place where they won't, or can't, participate in most of the activities. If you have friends who drink, fine, but you shouldn't be doing things that don't interest you or you can't participate in. That's not to say you shouldn't try to enjoy something new, but people who constantly hang out with drunk friends and when you yourself don't drink.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Well damn SB, I'm a drinker, and I wouldn't enjoy that stuff. That is not just a difference in drinking, that is a total difference in personalities which goes beyond drinking.

It's been two years since College -- wow --the irony is, I probably wouldn't enjoy it anymore either, lol. I prefer bars now with light music, and more social interaction.

 

[Kelly]

It's been two years since College -- wow --the irony is, I probably wouldn't enjoy it anymore either, lol. I prefer bars now with light music, and more social interaction.

I gotcha....I was never one for the drinking games....even in college, my friends and myself were still working full time, and on weekends.......not that we wouldn't have played a few of those games, but our lifestyle just wouldn't let us. Full load of at college and 35+ hour a week job, pretty much killed any "college fun".

Now, I'm more.... my little pub, nice jazz, football and basketball games on the big screen, and good conversation is more my style.

 

[PyroChamber]

I personally think that drinking is only good when you're doing it with other people, it's not as fun or interesting as oppose to drinking by yourself because then it's just sad.

 

[Kelly]

Not when I drink by myself.....

One of my favorite evenings is my 2 dogs lying in front of my fireplace, a fire going, a good book, and a nice Cabernet Sauvignon........some of my favorite evenings.....and not another person in sight.....

 

[Daredevil_2003]

I personally think that drinking is only good when you're doing it with other people, it's not as fun or interesting as oppose to drinking by yourself because then it's just sad.

Why do so many people have that perception?

I prefer drinking alone. My friends are cool and all, but they're totally different when drinking than I am. I do and like to relax and enjoy myself they do it to get trashed and do stupid ****. There's nothing wrong with spending the night just with yourself and Mr. Miller.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

Drinking is worse than smoking weed IMO. Doesn't stop me from doing both though!

Ooooooooaaaaaayyyyy!!!

 

[ReTrO JuNkIe 42]

I would rather smoke weed ..........which I do regularly

 

[ShadowBoxing]

I personally think that drinking is only good when you're doing it with other people, it's not as fun or interesting as oppose to drinking by yourself because then it's just sad.

Well, I suppose that depends. I drank some Beaujolais nouveau over the weekend, on my porch, with a cigar and watched The Rock and it was awesome. Though I think if you drink yourself under the table, alone, that is definitely a fail. It also depends on what you drink too. Beer and wine seems like a decent "alone drink", Jack Daniels is probably cause for alarm.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I would rather smoke weed ..........which I do regularly

Yea man, with weed at least you won't end up calling up ex girlfriends/boyfriends and sobbing down the phone. Or getting into a fight with some hench bouncer outside of a nightclub or something. But smoking too much weed does **** your head up, I never used to believe it but when you stop smoking for a while you can actually feel your head being clearer.

 

[Spade]

I went to one party where everyone was drinking, in the ghetto part of Vegas. It was obnoxious. The friend who brought me is one who still has his wits about him when he's a little tipsy. Everyone else was just being stupid. I don't mean silly drunk, but so inebriated that they would talk to me in made-up words, staring into some void behind me and spilling globs of vodka in poor attempts to pour into their shot glass on the table and the floor all the while. On top of that, they brought some bongs with them that looked like 30 people before them had used them without washing and some rather suspicious looking brownies. I'd rather be at a party where someone brings the occasional beer than something like that again.

 

[Kelly]

Well, I suppose that depends. I drank some Beaujolais nouveau over the weekend, on my porch, with a cigar and watched The Rock and it was awesome. Though I think if you drink yourself under the table, alone, that is definitely a fail. It also depends on what you drink too. Beer and wine seems like a decent "alone drink", Jack Daniels is probably cause for alarm.

Oh definitely, drinking alone to get drunk.....hmmmm....usually means you are drinking to not face something else in your life......that is definitely a "red flag".



On another note....

Why is it when I read people on here talking about smoking weed, I find myself wondering if they are just trying to be cool.....or they have actually smoked it before.....????? Hmmmmmmm.........just something that seems to come up in my mind. I guess because most of the people I know that smoke weed, simply smoke it like they would cigarettes....and I don't see anyone on here talking about smoking cigarettes like its the coolest thing in the world.....