This is a great summary of a criticism of this idea that I don't fully get. People's preconceptions of what's funny causing them to dislike, I dunno, Pluto Nash, doesn't "bail out" that film. It wasn't funny to most people. That affected how they viewed the film...
1. The audience isn't idiots. They know an improvement when they see one...
2. People don't cite source very often actually. They just have a *feeling* of Superman. His well known powerset and lifestyle denote certain thematic elements: freedom, hope, power, aloofness. These ideas are exemplified and explored in the most critically acclaimed stories. People don't sit down and cite comics, people, generally just have a common idea of what Superman is. Snyder has a different idea than most and isn't interested in the themes that are intrinsic to the premise of the character. Citing an obscure or elseworld's comic doesn't make society wrong about what Superman represents to society.
In short, yes, if the film is bad then there are no bail outs per say. If someone walks out and proclaims: this serious Pluto Nash is SUPPOSED to be a comedy is bad, if it had just been funny..this is where the issue arises. People asserting their own parameters based on their own experience with the material rather than speaking to the basic qualifiers for film in general, Story, Acting, etc. To be clear, my post wasn't about if this happened in Dceu. You said this stuff happens, and is acceptable(or something to that end). I agree it happens, I don't agree it's acceptable. That being said, I'm reminded of
Dean Cain's "review" of the new direction: "The last incarnation of Superman was completely different than anything I did on Lois & Clark. It was kind of devoid of the two things that made our show special, which were humor and romance," Cain said. "It didn't have either of those. There was no humor and there was no real romance. I saw the movie they pushed. There's no romance in there. I'm sorry." What does this 'review' add for all the people that haven't been indoctrinated into Lois&Clark? What does it do for all the people that think that direction was crap(not me). He's constrained his analysis of the film to how much it correlates to his own preconception. Subverting historical quality for his own newly defined 'quality'. I don't see what good comes from it when prompted for a review, in any instance.
1. I don't think one has to be described an idiot for responding a certain way to change. People don't always respond well to change is a basic observation applied to taste since the beginning. We've seen it time and again with shifting art periods 14thcentury, the 50's . It goes beyond detecting improvement, for 'improvement' is subjective in art. Was this new spidey suit some 'improvement?' it's not that simple. And this happens with every 'different' suit it seems, only costumes are superficial and far less present than tone thus always easy to get over once even the marketing gets going. The point however is this whole thing is contingent on if said change has a precedent in the popular material. Which means it's subject to the moment in time it happens to arrive in vs the direction alone.
2. Lastly, those things you cited as being intrinsic to the character, were very much present in the direction. It's the constraining preconception which narrows how they are to be explored or presented that blind people to their very presence. The theme of freedom for example, one need only look at they kryponian society and how choice is argued by both fathers in this film. Hope, even easier... However, the point is that maybe what most people know isn't the best or only way. Apply this to Saban's written around low cost super sentai footage Power Rangers. Maybe this material can more than it's been in the past, what these people know. This is my biggest issue. Creators shackled by only what a people know, arrogance labeled upon those for boldness of vision when it could easily be ascribed to those that reject anything outside of their own(See Cain paradigm). And no, it's not about citing a few elseworlds, though one should note all these movies are elsewords by definition, if it has to be, it's about citing ALL celebrated material. He's killed with far less circumstance in these books, he's had somber, angst ridden tales, he's been broken, given up, lost, all of it and that's because in 100 years, the material has been dynamic and survives because of it. This isn't some snow white fixed story, it's an ongoing serial of vastly different tales, sagas and most importantly takes place in different eras. There was a superman that was celebrated in the jim lee 90's, there was a superman in JLU, that was always angry. For every All Star or Birthright "elseworlds" there's an OurWorldsAtWar(canon) or Moore.. The superman in morrisons' legendary jla run isn't the same as his all star one..all of this stuff as different form each each other as this stuff supposedly is from them. There's really only been one celebrated cinematic take prior to this movie so perhaps this is where you point rings truest.
You can do a movie like Man of Steel, and get accurate critical acclaim, but you can't expect society to change their definition of the word "Superman" just as you can't expect them to change their definition of the word "cat." If you cast a dog as a cat, then your film has to address that you are trying to change the meaning of a thing, to change the conversation, get people to think, etc. Same with your Sesame Street analogy, inverting the expectation. This is an artistic technique to create commentary....
If Man of Steel wanted to do this dark Superman, they had the burden of proving that the bright Superman was inferior to what they presented. And they did not do that. They assumed that people would feel so, and the people who already felt that way loved the movie despite it's flaws, and the people who hate that idea hated the movie and oft recite its many flaws.
It seems your point here is that if you are trying to make a subverting commentary you have to actively acknowledge that angle in the execution. My point is that in this instance, even if you aren't trying to do that, not trying to make a dog a cat, that because of all the baggage and finite preconception on the table, you seemingly have to treat any such change in direction as this 'commentary' you describe. It's a burden, and one I would add isn't present when the same thing is attempted in this material outside of live action cinema for various celebrated books have done it without being commentaries or satire or subversion. It's a double standard as the TS would imple. Especially when compared to it's modern peers who simply aspire to do something different from source or simply exist as modern comic book movies. However we seem to agree that there is something present, I imagine it's gonna be met head on by the ones here who aim to deny any such thing exists.
And no, I don't think mos wanted to do a dark superman, I think it wanted to place in him in our grounded world but because it's superman that lands it in the dark realm. A 'dark' superman is that Ultraman stuff, this one never stopped doing the right thing, never gives up. This superman was saving people as a child, outside of Murdock that doesn't happen. It's his world that's the most different from Donner, and it's not that it's dark is that it's grounded, Pa kent gives grey answers and his hero cake doesn't come with a ribbon. The crow is dark, netflix is dark, this wasn't that, If this is the definition of being a dark superman then the argument of double standard is made by that statement alone. But that's another discussion.