Are You Single???

[Machx72]

I've heard of single being used that way before, but I'm pretty sure it's not so common these days. Now it's boiled down to:

-Single
-Taken/Dating Someone Exclusively/In A Relationship [w/e you decide to call it]
-Engaged
-Married

Personally, I've been single [by this definition] for almost a year and a half. It's gone to the point where girls bull**** me too much, so I rarely even try, regardless of if she has feelings for me or not. My close friends tell me I have the worst luck with relationships out of anyone any of them had ever met.

I've had girls who "like me" turn me down... Weird, huh? I'm not a very attractive guy, but they tend to compliment my personality a lot... So I'm guessing either they're lying to me, or they're shallow.

I don't get it.

 

[The Squirrel]

It's not complicated. People just don't have the respect for marriage they use to. Easy in , easy out. There is no "distinctiveness" and there should be. Marriage is not "archaic" as one of you stated. People will always get married. It's in every culture. It's instinctive.

I have a lot of respect for marriage.

I consider myself not single, because I plan to marry my girlfriend.

That's how serious my relationship is.

Though I do agree that a lot of people out there don't have respect for marriage.

But that's because of the mentality that people have of: "Why get married when you can just sleep with whoever you want... whenever you want.?"

If you can do this, then there's no reason to get married. And that's why some people will date for 6 plus years and still not get married.

 

[Badger]

It's not complicated. People just don't have the respect for marriage they use to. Easy in , easy out. There is no "distinctiveness" and there should be. Marriage is not "archaic" as one of you stated. People will always get married. It's in every culture. It's instinctive.

I have all the respect in the world for marriage, as I am happily married. But the three years before we got married, I was not single. You're right it's not complicated. If you're emotionally involved with someone, you're not single.

 

[Babs Gordon]

It's really not that complicated. Single means single. Unattached. Single. If you're not married you might be single, but not necessarily and you are without a doubt unmarried.

And really those forms and stuff should get with the times. Married or unmarried. I find it weird checking single when I'm most certainly not.

 

[Darthphere]

If you aren't with anyone, you're single.
If you are dating someone but non committal such as in the early stages, you are dating.
If you are attached to someone, you're in a relationship.
If you have a spouse, you're married.

That makes 0 sense.

 

[Machx72]

Edit... Oops...

 

[Noir]

..I'm single...ish.

 

[Machx72]

Maybe there should be a dating gameshow thread.

We'll have to vote in a host.

Our first round of bachelors can be kaine, JAL, and GR87.

 

[C-$]

I'm single.

Anyone ladies interested?

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Kaine, I find that's mostly true of younger high school age girls. I know lots of beautiful girls that aren't constantly attached.

And women outnumber men in this world, so it's mathematically impossible for it to be totally true.

I dated two guys last year for a couple months each. The rest of the time I was happily single. Being single is sometimes a hell of a lot easier than dealing with the dizzying highs and lows of some relationships.

I know quiet a few who break up with boyfriends to start dating someone else.

 

[Orko Is King]

If you aren't with anyone, you're single.
If you are dating someone but non committal such as in the early stages, you are dating.
If you are attached to someone, you're in a relationship.
If you have a spouse, you're married.

What he said.

 

[Cmill216]

If you are attached to someone, you're in a relationship.

Single but unavailable.

So if a girl came up to you and said, "I'm single....but I'm in a relationship" you wouldn't think that was ass backwards? At all?

 

[Machx72]

I'm single.

Anyone ladies interested?

If I didn't have a gaydar before, I certainly have one now.

And you're breaking it.

 

[Babs Gordon]

I know quiet a few who break up with boyfriends to start dating someone else.

Haha I'm not saying that women don't do it! It happens... and guys do it too, believe it or not. Take my Dad for instance. Not proud of it, but it happened 14 years ago. Usually that kind of behavior is paired with an acute sense of insecurity (the perpetual boyfriend/girlfriend people)... like they don't feel whole if they're not dating someone. Five or six years ago people didn't know me as just me. They knew me as me and my boyfriend because we had this ridiculous college age kind of co-dependency going on. Blech. Happy to say I've grown past that.

 

[Memphis Slim]

Welcome to the English language. Guess what? It evolves. 'Single' now means 'unattached'. 'Gay' means 'homosexual'. Double negatives are generally accepted and understood.

That's not evolving. That's devolving. Like I said....dumbing down. When double negatives are okay, too??

 

[WorthyStevens]

And the point of this thread is...?

 

[Memphis Slim]

I have a lot of respect for marriage.

I consider myself not single, because I plan to marry my girlfriend.

That's how serious my relationship is.

Though I do agree that a lot of people out there don't have respect for marriage.

But that's because of the mentality that people have of: "Why get married when you can just sleep with whoever you want... whenever you want.?"

If you can do this, then there's no reason to get married. And that's why some people will date for 6 plus years and still not get married.

With all due respect.....How do file your tax returns? Married or single?

And congrats on the engagement.

 

[Addendum]

And the point of this thread is...?

It's just a silly rant.

 

[Badger]

With all due respect.....How do file your tax returns? Married or single?

And some married people file as 'Single', what's your point?

 

[X-Chick]

I don't get how you're getting that people are viewing marriage as less important just because single is commonly associated with being unattached. That is making a big leap in logic.

 

[Memphis Slim]

I have all the respect in the world for marriage, as I am happily married. But the three years before we got married, I was not single. You're right it's not complicated. If you're emotionally involved with someone, you're not single.

Emotions have nothing to do with it. So...conversely if I hate my wife, I'm all of a sudden "not married"? If deep love makes me not single, should deep hatred make me "un-single"?? Of course not there's a proper legal issue at work here also, which makes the way it's being used today,wrong.

Main Entry: 1sin·gle
Pronunciation: 'si[ng]-g&l
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English sengle, from Anglo-French, from Latin singulus one only; akin to Latin sem- one -- more at [SIZE=-1]SAME[/SIZE]
1 a : not married b : of or relating to celibacy
2 : unaccompanied by others : [SIZE=-1]LONE[/SIZE], [SIZE=-1]SOLE[/SIZE] <the single survivor of the disaster>

 

[Memphis Slim]

I have all the respect in the world for marriage, as I am happily married. But the three years before we got married, I was not single. You're right it's not complicated. If you're emotionally involved with someone, you're not single.

Emotions have nothing to do with it. So...conversely if I hate my wife, I'm all of a sudden "not married"? If deep love makes me not single, should deep hatred make me "un-single"?? Of course not. For the term "single", there's a proper legal issue at work here also, which makes the way it's being used today,wrong.

Main Entry: 1sin·gle
Pronunciation: 'si[ng]-g&l
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English sengle, from Anglo-French, from Latin singulus one only; akin to Latin sem- one -- more at [SIZE=-1]SAME[/SIZE]
1 a : not married b : of or relating to celibacy
2 : unaccompanied by others : [SIZE=-1]LONE[/SIZE], [SIZE=-1]SOLE[/SIZE] <the single survivor of the disaster>

 

[Badger]

Emotions have nothing to do with it. So...conversely if I hate my wife, I'm all of a sudden "not married"? If deep love makes me not single, should deep hatred make me "un-single"?? Of course not there's a proper legal issue at work here also, which makes the way it's being used today,wrong.

Main Entry: 1sin·gle
Pronunciation: 'si[ng]-g&l
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English sengle, from Anglo-French, from Latin singulus one only; akin to Latin sem- one -- more at [SIZE=-1]SAME[/SIZE]
1 a : not married b : of or relating to celibacy
2 : unaccompanied by others : [SIZE=-1]LONE[/SIZE], [SIZE=-1]SOLE[/SIZE] <the single survivor of the disaster>

The mistake you make is you assume I'm trying to change your mind. I'm simply stating by view on your subject, I'm quite certain you're very happy with your narrow view of things.

 

[Memphis Slim]

So if a girl came up to you and said, "I'm single....but I'm in a relationship" you wouldn't think that was ass backwards? At all?

And you do??

First of all, it makes perfect sense. That just means she's not the type to try and have two or three boyfriends at one time. She's a one-man woman while they are seeing each other. All others...please back off.

We live in an age where wearing your pants down around your thighs is okay. Where Paris Hilton is a hero........ I guess it stands to reason that what is proper is now considered "ass-backward".

 

[Memphis Slim]

Another question......Why isn't it called "adultery" when your boyfriend or girlfriend has sex with someone other than you....?? I mean since you're not single and all.......

Yes, it's cheating. But it's never called adultery. Why?