Cheating (on the person your dating).

[Mike_D202]

Have any of you done it? And for what reason?

I will admit that I have done it on my recent girlfriend. I dated 2 girls before her, and they both cheated on me. I didnt have sex with my first girlfriend (I was in the 10th grade at the time), and she would make constant trips to the college (I was pretty stupid at the time). Then I dated a girl for 2 years after that, she cheated on me at the early stages of the relationship, and I didnt find out until towards the end. I guess the reason why I did it with my most recent is becasue my feelings are mostly the "I dont care" attitude. Maybe its because I was cheated on before, but the more I think about it, the more I think " well, we're not married and we are all young. so maybe this is natural". I know its hurtful and its a taboo subject, but if your not married, is it mostly accepted and understandable?

The girl I dated was untrusting to begin with because she was cheated on before. For 2 years, I was faithful and she still chose to ask whome I was talking with on my phone, on the internet, and on my xbox. And if it had a vagina, I was in the doghouse. Perhaps I was pushed psychologically (well, if she thinks im a cheater, maybe I should live up to the hype). Life is crazy, but I guess its something you have to be in the position to be in to understand.

 

[StrainedEyes]

I think about it from time to time. Nothing really serious just imagining it with someone else, what-if type scenarios.

I'm pretty sure this is because I've been with my girl for just over 3 years, started dating her in my senior year of Highschool, and I was never with anyone else before her. So I think it's kind of a "What if I'm missing out?" thing, but I don't think I could ever actually do anything.

 

[Shedhut]

well, if she thinks im a cheater, maybe I should live up to the hype

im against cheating but that statement is stupid and hilarious at the same time

 

[spideyboy_1111]

lol ive been the cheatey before... twas interesting... not really sure what the guy who cheateds actually status was with his bf or not even sure if they were even calling themselves bf's... hmm

 

[Beanjuice]

dont see the need to be dating if you have someone else in mind. its not right. if you'd rather be with someone else then end the relationship

 

[Morg]

Hell no, I don't cheat on my gf's. My ex did though

 

[Lobo]

I've never cheated on my exes. Some of them have cheated on me though

 

[Gallagher]

Been there, done that and had it done to me.

I'm two-faced and hold grudges.

 

[Odin's Lapdog]

is everyone seeing cheating the same way, because a drunken snog to me is not worth using the term 'cheat'

more along the lines of starting to build deep emotional ties with someone new before severing them with the old. Either that or purposely going out with the intent of doing some damage to one's partner.

 

[PemLam]

Cheaters suck whether they're men or women. Quit being a pathetic ***hole and end the relationship, don't hurt the person worse by cheating on them.

 

[turtlefocker]

Hell no, I don't cheat on my gf's. My ex did though

your ex cheated on his gf's. What a jerk.

 

[Logan's Runt]

My ex took my ex best friend's virginity whilst dating me.

Cheating is a pathetic and cowardly thing to do.

 

[CorpusBlack]

I have no tolerance for cheating. One strike and you're out with me as far as I'm concerned.

 

[Gallagher]

In all seriousness at my age we're pretty laid back about it. She wants go off shagging some other guy fine, as long as she doesnt expect me to be faithful while she's shacked up with another fella

 

[Erzengel]

Have any of you done it? And for what reason?

I will admit that I have done it on my recent girlfriend. I dated 2 girls before her, and they both cheated on me. I didnt have sex with my first girlfriend (I was in the 10th grade at the time), and she would make constant trips to the college (I was pretty stupid at the time). Then I dated a girl for 2 years after that, she cheated on me at the early stages of the relationship, and I didnt find out until towards the end. I guess the reason why I did it with my most recent is becasue my feelings are mostly the "I dont care" attitude. Maybe its because I was cheated on before, but the more I think about it, the more I think " well, we're not married and we are all young. so maybe this is natural". I know its hurtful and its a taboo subject, but if your not married, is it mostly accepted and understandable?

The girl I dated was untrusting to begin with because she was cheated on before. For 2 years, I was faithful and she still chose to ask whome I was talking with on my phone, on the internet, and on my xbox. And if it had a vagina, I was in the doghouse. Perhaps I was pushed psychologically (well, if she thinks im a cheater, maybe I should live up to the hype). Life is crazy, but I guess its something you have to be in the position to be in to understand.

Eh, I've always thought, how would I feel if I was cheated on, which usually keeps me on the right path, and it helps when you have a secure girlfriend. When you can admire her friend and she doesn't wig out.

 

[SpideyVille]

I have no tolerance for cheating. One strike and you're out with me as far as I'm concerned.

Same here, no tolerance whatsoever. In fact, that's one of the reasons why I find it hard to try to respect my older brother. I remember hearing about a fight he had with his gf when they first started going out because she had suspicions of him cheating. She didn't know, but my whole family knew, and we all swept it under the rug because we all figured it was a one time thing. Fast forward 10 yeas, my brother has 2 kids with the same girl and they've been engaged for about 5-6 years. But over the past year, it has been more than evident that his latest female friend is more than just a friend. My brother has been completely stupid in hiding it from all of us. His gf/fiance even found out on new year's, but my brother still managed to lie his way out of it.

I guess i find it really hard to respect him because he has kids, and even though he hates everything about his gf/fiance, his only reason for staying is so he doesn't have to pay child support. I mean we both have different fathers, but we both grew up without a father because they both found it better to cheat on my mom and walk out on her, rather than stay and help out with the kids they helped make. I figured my brother would know how it feels to be a victim of what he's doing, but he's actually proud of what he's done, and because of that, I can't respect him no matter how hard he tries to make up for it.

 

[CorpusBlack]

Same here, no tolerance whatsoever. In fact, that's one of the reasons why I find it hard to try to respect my older brother. I remember hearing about a fight he had with his gf when they first started going out because she had suspicions of him cheating. She didn't know, but my whole family knew, and we all swept it under the rug because we all figured it was a one time thing. Fast forward 10 yeas, my brother has 2 kids with the same girl and they've been engaged for about 5-6 years. But over the past year, it has been more than evident that his latest female friend is more than just a friend. My brother has been completely stupid in hiding it from all of us. His gf/fiance even found out on new year's, but my brother still managed to lie his way out of it.

I guess i find it really hard to respect him because he has kids, and even though he hates everything about his gf/fiance, his only reason for staying is so he doesn't have to pay child support. I mean we both have different fathers, but we both grew up without a father because they both found it better to cheat on my mom and walk out on her, rather than stay and help out with the kids they helped make. I figured my brother would know how it feels to be a victim of what he's doing, but he's actually proud of what he's done, and because of that, I can't respect him no matter how hard he tries to make up for it.

Sounds like he's following a pattern. Glad you see it for what it is man. Maybe one day he'll sort his sh-t out.

 

[Stikmann]

I’ve never cheated on anyone. My wife has recently told me thought that IF I do cheat, as long as she doesn’t know about it, she okay with it. I’m not sure what to make of that. For some reason, she seems to think I have women chasing me all the time or something. Nothing could be further from the truth. Not that it would matter; I couldn’t bring myself to go through with it anyway. And yeah, if I found out she cheated on me, that would be the end of the marriage.

 

[Erzengel]

Ignorance is bliss, Stikmann. That's what she means.

Most people who feel the need to "confess" aren't doing it because it's the right thing to do, they need to cleanse their conscience.

 

[CorpusBlack]

Ignorance is bliss, Stikmann. That's what she means.

Most people who feel the need to "confess" aren't doing it because it's the right thing to do, they need to cleanse their conscience.

He's right Stikmann.

 

[kainedamo]

My ex took my ex best friend's virginity whilst dating me.

Cheating is a pathetic and cowardly thing to do.

Exactly. I don't understand why people do it.

One of my best buddies is cheating on his girlfriend. At first he said it was a "one off", but the same girl came back to the house on several different occasions to sleep over with him. Thing is his girlfriend is such a nice girl and I think she's cooler than the loud mouth he cheats on her with. Ya think I should tell his girlfriend he's cheating?

 

[Erzengel]

No.

Neither the gf or the other girl is your friend.

Say something to your friend once, but it's his life to live.

Don't get involved, it's really none of your business.

 

[kainedamo]

That's what he said.

I dunno, I think he's a selfish prick and sooner or later he's gonna really hurt his girlfriends feelings. He thinks he's in love with the girl he cheats with, so I'm like, just split up with your girlfrend and go with this other girl. But she lives in England so he doesn't see her that often. So he cheats on his girlfriend I guess because it's the most convenient thing for him. Selfish.

 

[Albiceleste]

I do it because its fun. I really don't have GF's usually the girl will think that we are a couple until they find the hard way that we are not a couple. I guess is not cheating because I never say to them that we are a couple they assume we are not me. When I meet the right girl I will never cheat on her.

 

[kainedamo]

I do it because its fun. I really don't have GF's usually the girl will think that we are a couple until they find the hard way that we are not a couple. I guess is not cheating because I never say to them that we are a couple they assume we are not me. When I meet the right girl I will never cheat on her.

LOL. Either you're trying to be funny or you're one incredibly shallow dude.