Cheating (on the person your dating).

[Carcharodon]

I like to think that I wouldn't cheat. I like to think that I couldn't hurt the person I'm with at the time that severely. That's messed up.

My girlfriend and I took a break from our relationship, and she took that opportunity to fly across the country to go screw an ex boyfriend. I'm 99% certain she planned it before we even took the break.

The ****ed up thing is, she openly declared that she was going to screw him. Everybody knew. I thought she was kidding. So she did it and got knocked up.

Even though we were taking a break, it still hurt. Badly. I don't think she knows just how much it hurt me. I probably don't even have a right to be hurt by it, given the circumstances, but something tells me she might have done it regardless of the status of our relationship.

I can't do that to somebody else.

 

[AndThePickles]

I would never cheat. It's horrible, just break up with the person first.

 

[Mike_D202]

In all seriousness at my age we're pretty laid back about it. She wants go off shagging some other guy fine, as long as she doesnt expect me to be faithful while she's shacked up with another fella

To tell you the truth man, after the 2nd relationship where the chick was cheating, it wasnt that big of a deal afterwards to me. I was with everybody in this thread with the "if you cheat your the lowest life-form on the planet" attitude. I mean I wouldnt stay in the relationship if I found out (it would make it much easier for the break up) but I didnt get all "oh my god my life is over where are the knives and bon jovi greatest hits cd" stage when I was in high school. Its hurtful but at the same time it was understandable, I wasnt married to the person and they were pretty confused. But that didnt make it right because the hurt was still there and if theres no trust, then theres no relationship.

Cheating is a pathetic and cowardly thing to do.

Ya well, you really dont care when your drunk and think a lot about how crappy the relationship is your in and somebody else is interested in you. Puts a lot in perspective and makes you realize its time to end it.

And if you guys wanna get REALLY techincal about it, talking to a member of the opposite sex about the problems in your relationship is considered "cheating" also. So reflect on that before judging other ppl

 

[StrainedEyes]

I like to think that I wouldn't cheat. I like to think that I couldn't hurt the person I'm with at the time that severely. That's messed up.

My girlfriend and I took a break from our relationship, and she took that opportunity to fly across the country to go screw an ex boyfriend. I'm 99% certain she planned it before we even took the break.

The ****ed up thing is, she openly declared that she was going to screw him. Everybody knew. I thought she was kidding. So she did it and got knocked up.

Even though we were taking a break, it still hurt. Badly. I don't think she knows just how much it hurt me. I probably don't even have a right to be hurt by it, given the circumstances, but something tells me she might have done it regardless of the status of our relationship.

I can't do that to somebody else.

What is this, "Friends"?
Of course you have a right to be pissed off about it. A relationship break is not a go **** everyone you can break, it's just time apart to re-think your relationship and presumably come back to it refreshed.

 

[Symbiotic]

I have no tolerance for cheating. One strike and you're out with me as far as I'm concerned.

Agreed.

 

[Logan's Runt]

Ya well, you really dont care when your drunk and think a lot about how crappy the relationship is your in and somebody else is interested in you. Puts a lot in perspective and makes you realize its time to end it.

And if you guys wanna get REALLY techincal about it, talking to a member of the opposite sex about the problems in your relationship is considered "cheating" also. So reflect on that before judging other ppl

Not caring while being sloppy drunk certainly doesn't make it less pathetic.

And "cheating" is not objective- the definition of what is and isn't is up to the couple in question. I wouldn't give two sh**s if my husband called a female friend of his and vented about a problem we had. If we were having a problem that big, I'd probably enjoy some time without having to talk about it. For some couples, even going to a movie with a friend of the opposite sex is considered "cheating." It relative and really dependent on the personalities and preferences of the people involved.

 

[Eggyman]

Well said Runt Muffin

Everybody draws the line at a point that suits there needs, ego, and values

 

[thedeadite]

I agree with the subjectivity of cheating. I make it a point to talk to a person that I'm getting involved in about my thoughts on the matter and listen to hers. Some compromises are have to be made sometimes, but things at least you know what the other person will not accept.

As for my past. I have cheated when I was younger and dumber but not since highschool. I'm not proud of it at all and if I could go back wouldn't have done it in the first place. I'm not too sure if I've been cheated on (when it comes to actual intimacy) but I've felt "cheated" on before for other reasons.

 

[Ice-man]

if your gonna be a cheater, dont ask anyone out... just play the field and hope you dont get stds.

 

[Eggyman]

But you wouldn't be a cheater if you didn't ask anyone out . . .

 

[Captain Planet!]

I don't have anybody to cheat on.

 

[CorpusBlack]

And if you guys wanna get REALLY techincal about it, talking to a member of the opposite sex about the problems in your relationship is considered "cheating" also. So reflect on that before judging other ppl

Your point of view doesn't reflect everyone else's. I certainly don't consider "talking to a member of the opposite sex about the problems in my relationship" as cheating. If a girl I was with thought that I'd probably dump her poor deluded @$$. I've had many female friends for many years and I'm not going to put those friendships on the back-burner because some new girl I am romantically linked with has a problem with it. That's just ludicrous.

I consider cheating to be anything along the lines of kissing, sex or "aggressive flirtation".

 

[jaguarr]

Not caring while being sloppy drunk certainly doesn't make it less pathetic.

And "cheating" is not objective- the definition of what is and isn't is up to the couple in question. I wouldn't give two sh**s if my husband called a female friend of his and vented about a problem we had. If we were having a problem that big, I'd probably enjoy some time without having to talk about it. For some couples, even going to a movie with a friend of the opposite sex is considered "cheating." It relative and really dependent on the personalities and preferences of the people involved.

Your point of view doesn't reflect everyone else's. I certainly don't consider "talking to a member of the opposite sex about the problems in my relationship" as cheating. If a girl I was with thought that I'd probably dump her poor deluded @$$. I've had many female friends for many years and I'm not going to put those friendships on the back-burner because some new girl I am romantically linked with has a problem with it. That's just ludicrous.

I consider cheating to be anything along the lines of kissing, sex or "aggressive flirtation".

to both of these posts.

jag

 

[CorpusBlack]

to both of these posts.

jag

Thank you sir. *attempts to tip hat but is not wearing one.

 

[Poetic Chaos]

Never cheated, but I've been "the other man" twice. It was awesome

 

[The Guard]

Never cheated. She cheated on me twice (with the same guy) a few years ago, and I must be a first, because I really didn't care. If anything, I was actually proud of her for not being a slave to "what's supposed to happen in a relationship" and for being willing to take a risk for herself. I was dating her while I was away at school, and I've wanted to "get with" with other women numerous times, but I haven't done so. I prefer to be honest with her about it, and we have a fairly open relationship. She's pretty much said "If you have to, go ahead". And I've found out that I simply don't have to. That, and it's just not worth the headache involved for everyone.

However, I think if people weren't so hung up on "He or she is mine" and "ownership" in a relationship, and if people were honest with each other, the cheating (being with others) thing wouldn't be such a big issue. Let's face it, if someone is actually cheating (I.E, having physical intimacy with other people and lying about it), it means:

1. They are not getting what they want/need from their partner/lover
2. They are bored with the same old thing and want to experiment

While I frown on lying to people about what you want or what you are doing, I can't fault people for not being satisfied or happy.

 

[Crook]

Never cheated. She cheated on me twice (with the same guy) a few years ago, and I must be a first, because I really didn't care. If anything, I was actually proud of her for not being a slave to "what's supposed to happen in a relationship" and for being willing to take a risk for herself.

 

[Mike_D202]

Not caring while being sloppy drunk certainly doesn't make it less pathetic.

No, it doesnt. But when your sick of trying to keep things working after 2 years and being treated like ****, your patience wears out when all the things are layed out right in front of you. I didnt do it on a constant basis, I did it once then ended the relationship right after.

I consider cheating to be anything along the lines of kissing, sex or "aggressive flirtation".

And the definition of "cheating" varies, I just wanted to point out the very basic. Porn stars get married and still screw other people, as where relationships end with others when the bf or gf even has a member of the opposite sex in they're cell phone. You cant judge other people from going on your own guidelines.

While I frown on lying to people about what you want or what you are doing, I can't fault people for not being satisfied or happy.

others will say "well then if they are unhappy then they should have ended the relationship, plain and simple." But we all know people stay in relationships that are bad for them, becasue they are psychologically attached to the person that they have been with for so long.

 

[Remy LeBeau X3]

Never cheated, but I've been "the other man" twice. It was awesome

that's bad.... no offense.

i was talking to a guy who neglected to tell me he was dating someone else for a year and half! our talking lasted like two weeks, you can call me stupid because i have no idea how he was able to hide that from me. so i was almost the side chick once. i felt terrible about it.

 

[Carcharodon]

Never cheated. She cheated on me twice (with the same guy) a few years ago, and I must be a first, because I really didn't care. If anything, I was actually proud of her for not being a slave to "what's supposed to happen in a relationship" and for being willing to take a risk for herself. I was dating her while I was away at school, and I've wanted to "get with" with other women numerous times, but I haven't done so. I prefer to be honest with her about it, and we have a fairly open relationship. She's pretty much said "If you have to, go ahead". And I've found out that I simply don't have to. That, and it's just not worth the headache involved for everyone.

However, I think if people weren't so hung up on "He or she is mine" and "ownership" in a relationship, and if people were honest with each other, the cheating (being with others) thing wouldn't be such a big issue. Let's face it, if someone is actually cheating (I.E, having physical intimacy with other people and lying about it), it means:

1. They are not getting what they want/need from their partner/lover
2. They are bored with the same old thing and want to experiment

While I frown on lying to people about what you want or what you are doing, I can't fault people for not being satisfied or happy.

So....you enjoy the sloppy seconds?

 

[jaguarr]

So....you enjoy the sloppy seconds?

And the risk of catching an STD from his primary partner, too, apparently. I have some friends that do the open relationship/swinger thing, but they're impossibly anal about protecting themselves as much as possible from the risk of STD's. Most people who don't delve into it as an actual lifestyle don't tend to be so careful.

jag

 

[CorpusBlack]

You cant judge other people from going on your own guidelines.

I'm not judging anyone and I only stated what I consider cheating.

 

[Erzengel]

Never cheated. She cheated on me twice (with the same guy) a few years ago, and I must be a first, because I really didn't care. If anything, I was actually proud of her for not being a slave to "what's supposed to happen in a relationship" and for being willing to take a risk for herself. I was dating her while I was away at school, and I've wanted to "get with" with other women numerous times, but I haven't done so. I prefer to be honest with her about it, and we have a fairly open relationship. She's pretty much said "If you have to, go ahead". And I've found out that I simply don't have to. That, and it's just not worth the headache involved for everyone.

However, I think if people weren't so hung up on "He or she is mine" and "ownership" in a relationship, and if people were honest with each other, the cheating (being with others) thing wouldn't be such a big issue. Let's face it, if someone is actually cheating (I.E, having physical intimacy with other people and lying about it), it means:

1. They are not getting what they want/need from their partner/lover
2. They are bored with the same old thing and want to experiment

While I frown on lying to people about what you want or what you are doing, I can't fault people for not being satisfied or happy.

That sounds like someone trying to rationalize it.

Even if I agree about the whole "ownership", just the "respect" aspect that you honor the relationship you are in.

 

[Deep Thinkin'!]

I've not been in many relationships. Recently, I went out with a boy just for a week, and my mind wouldn't even let me look at my guy friends. It's probably just my inexperience with boyfriends.

Though, I go through flings where it is obvious I'm sorta with the guy, yet I'm always looking at others. Though, I have to say I do get jealous sometimes when I see a dude I like touching another girl. I don't flip, but I feel a little pang in me.

I have thought about my ability to possible have more than one boyfriend seeing how I have a life at school, church and at the place I chill at.

Ha, I almost have a triple life. lawlz.

 

[guitarsingerguy]

I've never cheated, but I have been cheated on a few times. One of the times it was golden though. Me and the other guy showed up at the girl's house together once we found out what was going on. It was ****ing glorious. I've never seen someone's face in as much shock before or since. She slammed the door, locked herself in her room, and refused to come out while we were both there.