Dan, oh, Dan, you are much better than this post. So much better.

You also say that a single Spider-Man is best for the franchise, but isn't this franchise about a everyday young man who just happens to be a superhero? Don't everyday young men find the girl of their dreams and get married? What's the point of Peter being an everyday guy as a hero if he can't do this?
Being a Spidey reader since 1975, I've had a good long time as reading both a single and a married Spider-Man... and there have been good stories on both sides of the fence.
Having said that, and it's something that I think people don't get... is that at its core, Peter Parker really can never find "true ever lasting love" because as it was in the past, the Spectre of Spider-Man will always come between Peter Parker and those he loves/cares about... it's a fundamental aspect to Spidey's character... he could not get close to Betty (his first love) because Spider-Man reminded her of her brother's death... he could never get close to Gwen, especially after the death of her father... Mary Jane was almost killed by Harry when he first became the Green Goblin, because she was starting to get close to Peter... his life as a responsible costumed hero/fighter always comes first, even at the expense of Peter's
"personal life"... and with the marital dynamic, you can never have that, because no matter what happens to him as Spider-Man, he will have MJ to cozy up to in a soft bed at the end of the day... and while that made for some terrific stories (and some pretty bad ones) over the last 20 years, Marvel felt like getting their franchise character back to where "they" feel works best for him in the long run.
What's the point of Nora or Lily or Carlie? Why should we care if he dates any of them if he can never get TRUELY close with them? Newsflash, (and that sounds so mean, and partially because you are my favorite writer Marvel has right now Dan and most of the reason I kept on reading Spidey as long as I did after OMD/BND.) we really don't care about Lily/Nora/Carlie, because if by some chance he does find love in one of them they could just magically be Mephistoed out of the franchise much like MJ. (who hasn't been seen prominently since your Bobby Carr arc so might as well say she was completely written out of the franchise.)
Some people have been calling the new BND direction as putting Spider-Man in some type of cyclical Charlie Brown loop, where nothing will ever evolve... but the unfortunate reality is that a married Spider-Man is a means to an end... they say that Spider-Man will not grow anymore because he's in the Charlie Brown loop... well, how was he going to grow as a married couple... eventually, you'd have to being kids into the mix, otherwise, you'd have Peter & MJ in the same perpetual Charlie Brown & Lucy loop, because you'd have to bring kids into the picture to show "growth", and then unless you want to keep Peter, MJ & babies into the same perpetual Charlie Brown, Lucy & Co. loop, you have to age the kids, and then so on and so forth... at some point, regardless of where the Charlie Brown loop begins, unless you want to have someone else become Spider-Man, you have to cut something off somewhere... yes, Marvel could have kept them married forever (with no kids), but then there would still be complaints about "no growth", so you'd still have a married Peter and the Charlie Brown loop... so Marvel just decided that IF we are going to have some type of cut-off, they'd rather have him single... and that's what they did.
Does this mean that we won't see "growth" with the new characters and Peter's supporting cast? And Peter himself? Of course not... Dan (and Company) are too good as writers to let stuff like that happen.
Also shouldn't what the fans want be what's BEST for the franchise, and clearly the number of fans who prefer married Peter outnumber those who favor single Peter. And mind you we met at Baltimore Comicon and I recall you said listening to the fans gave you some of your weakest issues of Shulkie, but this is Spider-Man, Marvel's pretty much poster boy and big wig. It's a literally more important to listen to the fans with his franchise than say fans of the She-Hulk series.
If the "fans" dictated what was best for Peter Parker, he'd still be married to MJ... err, no wait... he'd still be dating Gwen, Uhhh, no wait a minute... he'd be dating Betty Brant, his first love.
Comics are always about change... some of them are good, some of them aren't.
The readers can decide for themselves what they like and don't...
Clearly, some people love the new direction, as I do, and others don't.
Cheers...
Mike
