It's. Not. About. You.
I'm not pushing for a boycott on human contact. I never said that and I won't say that. I'm talking about CONSENT. If you're meeting someone for the first time, you don't get to decide what you're allowed to do in terms of touching them. For friends and family, that's different and I would hope people can read their friends and know when a good time to hug them is.
I'm still trying to wrap my head around putting your hand on the heart of a stranger. That's not appropriate and you definitely need to ask permission for doing stuff like that. I can't believe that you stated you should be allowed to hold someone's hand or touch their shoulder.
Have you never been to a funeral? I can't hold someone's hand and say, "I knew John. I'm so sorry." I can't find the birthday girl after presents and say, "I'm so glad to have met you! Congratulations!" and give her a hug? Okay...
There are times where I do ask for permission. Of course. But you know.. context is key.
The hand over the heart thing.... imagine that it's the end of a long day, in which I had a deep conversation with a girl about some of her biggest fears. I got to know her after a 30 minute conversation. After meeting, we say goodbye and instead of hugging her, I put my hands together, and put my palms over her heart, and say, "I love you, and I wish for the best in your coming struggles." Would that be bad? I don't see how. I'm certainly not going to feel bad about it. I wasn't trying to hurt her. My actions were just as innocent as a hug and no more touchy-feely. You're basically trying to shame me for not following societal protocols, I guess. But if my heart is in the right place, and if I didn't bring any harm... then I have nothing to be sorry about. It's like people who say, "You're driving me crazy!." No.... you're driving yourself crazy. Your feelings are in your control. I can only do my best to live my life how I think is right.
I feel like this needs to be said, your view is quite damaging. Please, do not touch strangers without their permission. Especially women. You have no idea what the person has been through in their life and you desperately trying to prove that your intentions are good is not more important than their personal space. You really need to understand that.
You make it sound like I'm pushing for folks to walk up strangers on the streets, and start rubbing their back or something. Obviously that's not what I'm suggesting. I'd never recommend coming up to a stranger, and after moments of meeting them.. start to coddle their face. But after a single lunch, there's nothing wrong with me putting my shoulders on someone, looking into their eyes, and saying, "I'm so glad I met you. You're going to make it. If you need anything, give me a call." You're asking me to cater to other people's insecurities and feelings. I'd suggest that if someone has a problem with that degree of touching, that it most likely comes from material that they need to work through. Being insecure around successive or sexualized touching makes sense. Being insecure around a 5 second long hug following buy a double palmed hand holding is a bit of a different thing. That reflects an insecurity on the part of the receiver... not the giver.
It seems like what you're saying is that a person feeling uncomfortable by your touch is not as important as your intentions when touching them. You're placing the blame on the person you're touching for feeling the way that they do. That's a major problem.
I believe that context matters. That there are certain circumstances when touching is appropriate and certain circumstances where it's not. In general, I wish we were more open to it as a society, though I can appreciate that bad actors have poisoned the well for all of us. I think it's an inappropriate solution to the problem to say all unrequested physical contact should be stopped at all time. Where does it end? Who says hand shakes can't make one uncomfortable. What if it's double palmed? What if it lasts more than 10 seconds? What if it involves some thumb rubbing? Instead of banning all forms of contact with strangers, we should simply say it depends on intent and context. It's on a person by person basis... that's why we should practice caution. That's all.
You could make the argument that Biden didn't practice that acceptable amount of caution, and that's a problem. But like I've said... I just don't think it's disqualifier.