Anita18
DANCE FOR ME, FUNNY MAN!
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Or you could just good at thinking through things and having a good perspective on life. Not all experienced people are mature, or vice versa. Now that I've gone out into the real world, coming across incredibly immature people in their 30s or 40s no longer surprises me.It pretty much does though. I'm not saying there couldn't possibly be exceptions but for the most part you get wisdom and experience from going through things, making mistakes, screwing up, being screwed over, and learning from it. Your right about emotional maturity but where does THAT come from. Experience also. Sure some have more than others naturally but learning in a vacuum is knowledge not wisdom.
You're right that it usually takes actual living to gain real wisdom and maturity. I've always been pegged as mature for my age (people consistently think I'm 5 years older than I really am, and that started in high school) but I look at myself even back in college and think, "Geez, what was I thinking back then?" So even at my head start, I had a ways to go, and I still have some things I'm working through now.
Now there's a good point - how much of that obsessive angst is teenage angst and how much of it is virgin angst? Does it multiple the angst?Maybe not, but many are. We usually just don't notice because we are in the 14-18 yr old range and we are all like that. You don't really notice at the time.
You could be cool, not saying your like that. I don't know you. Doesn't mean what I said is not generally on the money though.
But I have the feeling that some may be referring to virgins in their 20s and beyond, and I'm here to say that not everyone is like that. (I'm no longer a virgin but I was one until my mid-20s and I think I'm pretty normal.) Sure SOME are, but there are examples of anything if you look hard enough. My point is, you can't go by assumptions using superficial numbers, but you have to know the person first.