Does this make me a bad person?

[hopefuldreamer]

You know what, now that you've added 'Makes threads asking a personal question and then responds aggresively or completely ignores any responses' to my impression of you, I'm just gonna go ahead and say yeah, you don't seem like all that nice a person.

Idiom
5. out of / off one's gourd, Slang . out of one's mind; crazy.

Thank you, but I was more asking for a little info about why she was crazy. Like, did she have a mental illness? What caused it? How long did she have it? Did he know her before she was crazy? etc etc.

 

[Shemtov]

You know what, now that you've added 'Makes threads asking a personal question and then responds aggresively or completely ignores any responses' to my impression of you, I'm just gonna go ahead and say yeah, you don't seem like all that nice a person.

It was only this one thread.

 

[Wolfwood]

I could understand not having a lot of remorse for an older relative you didn't know. You didn't have that connection and you didn't really know them, so it would be silly to expect you to feel anything. However, if you're angry at her for not being there because she had mental issues, then I think there might be some greater underlying issue at work here.

 

[JAK®]

It's actually common for those who have loved ones with severe mental problems to feel a deep resentment for them.

 

[Odneyson]

No, you are not a bad person.

 

[8wid]

To answer your question, you don't have to like everyone who is in your family and should realize to some extent everyone is only human though too. You shouldn't really think anyone deserved to die as rotten as they might have been. But at some point it's better to just make peace with the past.

 

[socool]

It took me a while to dissect your opening post, but now that I have, I've figured out my answer.

You're not a bad person. I think you're just misunderstanding your own feelings. You say that she "deserved to die." I don't think that's what you mean. Since she obviously hasn't been involved in your life, due to being "out of her gourd", you notice that she has the same impact in your life dead as she did alive and I think THAT'S what's bothering you. You don't think she deserved to die. The correct saying would've been "She might as well have been dead." But I can understand the confusion at a time like this. So, all in all: No, you're not a bad person...just confused. (And maybe angry.)

 

[Hobgoblin]

Maybe I'm a "bad person" too but I cant blame Shemtov. My aunt currently has an aggressive form of pancreatic cancer but I really dont feel much about it. She lives on the other side of the country, has had minimal contact with my family for years and never acknowledged birthdays, Christmas,etc. She never even called. The few times she did visit, she caused arguments with my mother and caused big problems in my parent's marriage.

While I dont wish for her to die, I really dont feel anything.

 

[BULLFEST]

I never really new my grandmothers before they passed but that was no excuse not to drink

 

[Darthphere]

Does it make you a bad person? I don't know. But you sound like an ******* if that helps answering your question.

 

[Darthphere]

Maybe I'm a "bad person" too but I cant blame Shemtov. My aunt currently has an aggressive form of pancreatic cancer but I really dont feel much about it. She lives on the other side of the country, has had minimal contact with my family for years and never acknowledged birthdays, Christmas,etc. She never even called. The few times she did visit, she caused arguments with my mother and caused big problems in my parent's marriage.

While I dont wish for her to die, I really dont feel anything.

That's different than being angry at her for not being there for you. I mean, to be angry at someone not being there for you because they were "out of their gourd" is selfish and *****ey at the very least.

 

[lixdexia]

That's different than being angry at her for not being there for you. I mean, to be angry at someone not being there for you because they were "out of their gourd" is selfish and *****ey at the very least.

i tend to agree. to be ambivalent about her passing would be one thing, but to resent them for not being there for you in the capacity you feel they should have because of mental illness is pretty *****ey.

 

[DarkSovereignty]

yeah I don't think he's coming back to this thread lol, I don't think he got the kind of answers he wanted.

 

[Ilayda]

I dont think it is healthy to say 'she deserved to die'. She is dead now, leave her alone...Do your own thing...If you think it is the right think to say, you wouldnt really be here and sharing your thoughts with us. It is just not write to say or think something like that for everybody...I sorry but I am telling you, that sounds mean.

 

[POWdER-man]

I Never knew her, because she was out of her gourd for years, but one of my grandmothers just died.
Now, out of what I guess is a sense of deprivation, I feel a little glad that shes dead.
Like, sort of like because I never knew her,l because I was deprived of having a normal Grandmother, she sort of deserved to die.
I know that isn't rational and I shouldn't feel this way.....but does this make me a bad person?

Simple answer...yes, very much so.

There is a huge difference between being indifferent of her death and taking some type of pleasure in her death.

 

[Sentinel X]

Ummmm...yeah? Thinking someone "deserves" to die is quite harsh for something like this. If you honestly feel that way, you have problems based off the information you've given us.