Got an attractive friend you would honestly rather be friends with than date?

[Eggyman]

This is very strange how this has come up, considering the situation I'm in at the minute with a friend who I have known for nearly ten years. I broke up with my girl a couple of months ago and I'm having a great time and all, but me and this girl(friend) have a connection -- but it seems like the more we try and steer clear of being with each other, the more difficult it becomes. I slept with her the other night, and when I say slept, I actually mean slept. It was the night of my birthday and we'd all been out for a drink and then gone back to hers. I was the last one to leave, well I shoulda been but never ended up going home because she asked me to stay. All we did was cuddle and kiss, and now I'm thinking that that is actually worse than if we'd of had a drunken bump in the night. Oh well, single life is complicated, and I'm sorry for the waffle lol.

 

[Kevin]

This is very strange how this has come up, considering the situation I'm in at the minute with a friend who I have known for nearly ten years. I broke up with my girl a couple of months ago and I'm having a great time and all, but me and this girl(friend) have a connection -- but it seems like the more we try and steer clear of being with each other, the more difficult it becomes. I slept with her the other night, and when I say slept, I actually mean slept. It was the night of my birthday and we'd all been out for a drink and then gone back to hers. I was the last one to leave, well I shoulda been but never ended up going home because she asked me to stay. All we did was cuddle and kiss, and now I'm thinking that that is actually worse than if we'd of had a drunken bump in the night. Oh well, single life is complicated, and I'm sorry for the waffle lol.

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[Jplaya2023]

So would anyone genuinely prefer being friends with an attractive mate rather than persuing them given the right opportunities

men - no

women - yes

 

[November Rain]

This is very strange how this has come up, considering the situation I'm in at the minute with a friend who I have known for nearly ten years. I broke up with my girl a couple of months ago and I'm having a great time and all, but me and this girl(friend) have a connection -- but it seems like the more we try and steer clear of being with each other, the more difficult it becomes. I slept with her the other night, and when I say slept, I actually mean slept. It was the night of my birthday and we'd all been out for a drink and then gone back to hers. I was the last one to leave, well I shoulda been but never ended up going home because she asked me to stay. All we did was cuddle and kiss, and now I'm thinking that that is actually worse than if we'd of had a drunken bump in the night. Oh well, single life is complicated, and I'm sorry for the waffle lol.

waffle is allowed

oh yeah, that's definitely worse than a drunken fling but you can still recover if you want. this is of course if you wish to go back to the way things were or perhaps progress down another part.

I take it you would prefer the latter?

 

[Kevin]

things will never be the same... EVER!

 

[Erzengel]

The general notion would be given the right opportunities most people would persue a relationship with an attractive friend of theirs, even if for a short time where it has no effect on your friendship (the Ideal scenario)

Maybe this is a crazy assumption but i'll stand by it.

So would anyone genuinely prefer being friends with an attractive mate rather than persuing them given the right opportunities

I think it's hard being friends with a chick you are attracted to.

I think you'd have to really respect the friendship, be in another relationship yourself and not have this woman as the only girl in your life.

I think a lot of guys fool themselves by having that one attractive female friend who's usually the only girl in their life and they inevitably fall for them.

 

[Darthphere]

My two best friends are attractive, dare I say hot chicks and ive never had any interest in dating them.

 

[Kevin]

good

 

[November Rain]

I think it's hard being friends with a chick you are attracted to.

I think you'd have to really respect the friendship, be in another relationship yourself and not have this woman as the only girl in your life.

I think a lot of guys fool themselves by having that one attractive female friend who's usually the only girl in their life and they inevitably fall for them.

true, what you may interpret as friendship in that situation actually is more sinister as you try to manipulate her date choices and by time till you can be there for them and slip into the boyfriend roll...

 

[Outsiderzedge]

The general notion would be given the right opportunities most people would persue a relationship with an attractive friend of theirs, even if for a short time where it has no effect on your friendship (the Ideal scenario)

Maybe this is a crazy assumption but i'll stand by it.

So would anyone genuinely prefer being friends with an attractive mate rather than persuing them given the right opportunities

You are an ass.

 

[Erzengel]

My two best friends are attractive, dare I say hot chicks and ive never had any interest in dating them.

Are you attracted to them?

 

[jono11]

The general notion would be given the right opportunities most people would persue a relationship with an attractive friend of theirs, even if for a short time where it has no effect on your friendship (the Ideal scenario)

Maybe this is a crazy assumption but i'll stand by it.

So would anyone genuinely prefer being friends with an attractive mate rather than persuing them given the right opportunities

Yeah, one of my two best friends is one of the most attractive girls at the college. And I'm just not really interested in a romantic relationship with anybody at the moment--why would I waste a perfectly good friendship on some pointless less-than-a-year college romance?

 

[November Rain]

You are an ass.

and?

 

[Darthphere]

Are you attracted to them?

Not really.

 

[Outsiderzedge]

and?

...should get back to work.

 

[jaguarr]

Absolutely. One of my best friends in the world....as close to a big sister as I'll ever have...is absolutely stunning. Even though there's always been a bit of sexual tension between she and I, and I'm sure we could have had a quite spectacularly torrid tryst, the long term chemistry just really wasn't there from my perspective and she wasn't someone I saw myself with over the long haul in a romantic capacity. I think she'd always hoped for a little bit more, though. I actually met my wife through her and when she and I really got involved there was a little stretch of jealousy coming from my "Big Sister" that we had to talk through. In the end, we're still great friends and I'm glad that I kept it that way.

jag

 

[Darthphere]

Absolutely. One of my best friends in the world....as close to a big sister as I'll ever have...is absolutely stunning. Even though there's always been a bit of sexual tension between she and I, and I'm sure we could have had a quite spectacularly torrid tryst, the long term chemistry just really wasn't there from my perspective and she wasn't someone I saw myself with over the long haul in a romantic capacity. I think she'd always hoped for a little bit more, though. I actually met my wife through her and when she and I really got involved there was a little stretch of jealousy coming from my "Big Sister" that we had to talk through. In the end, we're still great friends and I'm glad that I kept it that way.

jag

You speak so, eloquently.

 

[Erzengel]

Not really.

Pics?

Eh, more power to you.

 

[Darthphere]

Pics?

Eh, more power to you.

One of them posted here, Alexafades2blak, have fun stalking her you asian *******.

 

[November Rain]

Absolutely. One of my best friends in the world....as close to a big sister as I'll ever have...is absolutely stunning. Even though there's always been a bit of sexual tension between she and I, and I'm sure we could have had a quite spectacularly torrid tryst, the long term chemistry just really wasn't there from my perspective and she wasn't someone I saw myself with over the long haul in a romantic capacity. I think she'd always hoped for a little bit more, though. I actually met my wife through her and when she and I really got involved there was a little stretch of jealousy coming from my "Big Sister" that we had to talk through. In the end, we're still great friends and I'm glad that I kept it that way.

jag

you give the impression that at the time, in the short term you may have persued if there was a guarantee it wouldn't affect the friendship afterwards.

i'm only talking about dating level here, it covers a large range of various commitment levels.

 

[Erzengel]

One of them posted here, Alexafades2blak, have fun stalking her you asian *******.

Could you at least provided me a clickable link? Make it a little easier on myself?

 

[November Rain]

...should get back to work.

I've finished work for today..

anywho, how come you think i'm an ass, i don't think i said anything out of hand in my first post.

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[Darthphere]

Could you at least provided me a clickable link? Make it a little easier on myself?

You gotta work for it. Hint: Use it as a myspace url.:heart:

 

[Darthphere]

Could you at least provided me a clickable link? Make it a little easier on myself?

You gotta work for it. Hint: Use it as a myspace url.:heart:

 

[jaguarr]

you give the impression that at the time, in the short term you may have persued if there was a guarantee it wouldn't affect the friendship afterwards.

Actually, no, I wouldn't have. The sex would have probably been incredible, but ultimately unsatisfying.

i'm only talking about dating level here, it covers a large range of various commitment levels.

Then maybe you should have explained the rules and limitations of what you are asking a little bit better.

jag