Got an attractive friend you would honestly rather be friends with than date?

[Erzengel]

You gotta work for it. Hint: Use it as a myspace url.:heart:

I found her on myspace. Her profile is as empty as a bed with a penniless blindfury.

 

[jaguarr]

I found her on myspace. Her profile is as empty as a bed with a penniless blindfury.

LOFL!

jag

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I'm really starting to get in a situation like this right now. One of my friends that's a girl and I have been friends for a long time, around 5-6 years at least, over the past year we've been finding we both have a lot more in common than ever. Never really thought of her in "that" way before, but lately I have been only because our friendship has gotten that much stronger. I don't want to take the next step though because my group of friends has become so fractured already from failed attempts at friends entering relationships.

 

[DV8]

well . . . obviously I'd like to nail any one of my attractive friends . . . I have a LOT of them, and they're mostly smoking hot . . . but a relationship is a completely different story

 

[November Rain]

I'm really starting to get in a situation like this right now. One of my friends that's a girl and I have been friends for a long time, around 5-6 years at least, over the past year we've been finding we both have a lot more in common than ever. Never really thought of her in "that" way before, but lately I have been only because our friendship has gotten that much stronger. I don't want to take the next step though because my group of friends has become so fractured already from failed attempts at friends entering relationships.

leave that and don't even go there.

or go there and take whatever you get like a man.

I'm a firm believer that it isn't choices that drive people apart but people who drive people apart.

any decision that comes across as wrong will only have the ability to affect your relationship if one of you two allows it to and if that is likely to happen, then the whole foundation of the friendship needs to be questioned.

but don't let it get to this and follow my first piece of advise just to be safe.

 

[Ronny Shade]

All of my friends are dudes and despite what Wilhelm will tell you I'm not gay.

 

[Eggyman]

waffle is allowed

oh yeah, that's definitely worse than a drunken fling but you can still recover if you want. this is of course if you wish to go back to the way things were or perhaps progress down another part.

I take it you would prefer the latter?

I have mixed feelings to be honest -- I like the girl, but don't want to spoil things. It was quite strange in the morning, it's a good job I eased the tension when she woke up by saying: 'Ok, who are you, and where the f**k am I?' It got her giggling which led to some more (non-drunk) heavy petting. I haven't seen her since but we have talked on MSN about it, and we both aggree that it was very nice but that it doesn't have to be the deciding vote that tips the scales. So I guess at the moment it's all up in the air, and I am not willing to make a decision while my mind keeps changing so rapidly; if I wanted it that badly I suppose it wouldn't really be an issue would it? I know that the main thing is though that I'm scared s**tless about hurting her on the rebound because I only broke up with a girl I'd been with for five years two months ago. One more issue is that I am really enjoying being my own man with no ties. I guess I'll just have to way up the prose and cons.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

 

[Kevin]

All of my friends are dudes and despite what Wilhelm will tell you I'm not gay.

not even ONE girl?

 

[Ronny Shade]

I know some girls, but I don't consider any of them friends, no.

 

[Eggyman]

leave that and don't even go there.

or go there and take whatever you get like a man.

I'm a firm believer that it isn't choices that drive people apart but people who drive people apart.

any decision that comes across as wrong will only have the ability to affect your relationship if one of you two allows it to and if that is likely to happen, then the whole foundation of the friendship needs to be questioned.

but don't let it get to this and follow my first piece of advise just to be safe.

Now that is speaking sense.

 

[November Rain]

I know some girls, but I don't consider any of them friends, no.

i thought you already said you were gay in the post above...

 

[Kevin]

Wow

 

[Ronny Shade]

I said I wasn't gay

 

[Lord Valumart]

why isn't there a "we dated and screwed everything up" option??

your poll suck

 

[Eggyman]

I know some girls, but I don't consider any of them friends, no.

I find that kind of sad -- don't get me wrong mate, I'm not calling you sad -- because having a friend of the opposite sex is truly liberating in many ways. Please don't live with the notion that girls are just for one thing, they can be great friends that can shed a different light on problems you are dealing with, and because girls tend to be more emotionally available to their friends they can sometimes offer better advice than drinking buddies when a problem arrises.

 

[November Rain]

I have mixed feelings to be honest -- I like the girl, but don't want to spoil things. It was quite strange in the morning, it's a good job I eased the tension when she woke up by saying: 'Ok, who are you, and where the f**k am I?' It got her giggling which led to some more (non-drunk) heavy petting. I haven't seen her since but we have talked on MSN about it, and we both aggree that it was very nice but that it doesn't have to be the deciding vote that tips the scales. So I guess at the moment it's all up in the air, and I am not willing to make a decision while my mind keeps changing so rapidly; if I wanted it that badly I suppose it wouldn't really be an issue would it? I know that the main thing is though that I'm scared s**tless about hurting her on the rebound because I only broke up with a girl I'd been with for five years two months ago. One more issue is that I am really enjoying being my own man with no ties. I guess I'll just have to way up the prose and cons.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

Be casual and act indifferent, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't so be it.

you seem to give the impression that you are in a win-win situation as long as you stay away from the worrying aspects of it (which you seem to be in now) so realise you're not in such a bad position and enjoy whatever comes next

 

[November Rain]

I said I wasn't gay

that's what gay people say before their big reveal...

 

[Kevin]

See, Ron, now you'll need a gay friend to make up for it. I mean for not having a close girl friend.

 

[Ronny Shade]

I find that kind of sad -- don't get me wrong mate, I'm not calling you sad -- because having a friend of the opposite sex is truly liberating in many ways. Please don't live with the notion that girls are just for one thing, they can be great friends that can shed a different light on problems you are dealing with, and because girls tend to be more emotionally available to their friends they can sometimes offer better advice than drinking buddies when a problem arrises.

First of all, I don't drink enough to have drinking buddies, so that's a non-issue. Second, I'm not closed off to the idea of having girls as friends, it's just I've never met any that I shared any interests with. If I did, I might be more "interested" in them, as opposed to being friends (unless they were ugly ) Most of my friends, frankly, are business partners. I usually don't hang out with people I don't work with, but there are exceptions.

 

[November Rain]

why isn't there a "we dated and screwed everything up" option??

your poll suck

your vote goes in the 'nah, i'd give it a go' section combined with the 'yeah, don't cross the line' option.

it's multiple choice so i think that covers your predicament.

 

[Ronny Shade]

See, Ron, now you'll need a gay friend to make up for it. I mean for not having a close girl friend.

I do have a gay friend. At least I used to. Haven't seen him in a while.

 

[Lord Valumart]

your vote goes in the 'nah, i'd give it a go' section combined with the 'yeah, don't cross the line' option.

it's multiple choice so i think that covers your predicament.

thank you for your words of advice

 

[Kevin]

I'll be your new gay friend t: Only problem is, I seem too straight unless i say gay things. *sigh*

 

[Eggyman]

First of all, I don't drink enough to have drinking buddies, so that's a non-issue. Second, I'm not closed off to the idea of having girls as friends, it's just I've never met any that I shared any interests with. If I did, I might be more "interested" in them, as opposed to being friends (unless they were ugly ) Most of my friends, frankly, are business partners. I usually don't hang out with people I don't work with, but there are exceptions.

Sheesh, ok, don't bust a gut, I wasn't implying anything and never said you were 'closed off'. You said that you didn't have any girls that are friends, and all I was saying was that I do and I recommend it. And this idea of having similar interests to girls that are friends is 'non-issue' -- I have vertually nothing in common with my lady friends apart from the fact that we enjoy each others company, and that should be enough.

 

[Ronny Shade]

I'll be your new gay friend t: Only problem is, I seem too straight unless i say gay things. *sigh*

Or I could just suffer on through life as a hopeless romantic covering up his futility with mysogeny.