Guys! If your girlfriend...

[Anguissette1979]

Well I would think that it would certainly have an impact and she'd HAVE to tell you. What if you wanted to try to have kids? I know there's adoption but she'd have a tough time explaining why she couldn't get pregnant... and then visits to fertility clinics would bring the whole situation out then and that would NOT be pretty.

 

[GLfan]

The relationsuip would be done, because "she" is still a man. The physical appearance would be the only difference.

Plus you could not have any kids with her.

 

[Spider-Fett]

Actually...when they do a sex-change now, they can turn your manhood into a fully functioning *woman part*

In fact, the new *woman part* is sensitive enough to trigger orgasms in the new female body.

Combine that with hormone therapy and implants and you'd never know the difference when having sex.

[Connery]The answers no you Canadian ponch![/Connery]

 

[Erzengel]

Actually...when they do a sex-change now, they can turn your manhood into a fully functioning *woman part*

In fact, the new *woman part* is sensitive enough to trigger orgasms in the new female body.

Combine that with hormone therapy and implants and you'd never know the difference when having sex.

But c'mon, any guy on here who's had an ongoing intimate relationship with a girl has had to have a lil blood on their tool at one time or another because of her menstrual cycle. You really can't fake that.

 

[slipalong]

I wouldn't necessarily finish it with them for the reason that they were once a fella, but having the chance to have children disappear if I stayed with them...

That would take some serious consideration to say the least.

 

[thebat7]

All I'm saying is that it wouldn't be as obvious as you'd think...Spider Fett

 

[Anguissette1979]

I agree with you thebat... the things they can do with surgery these days would blow your mind!!!

 

[Spider-Fett]

All I'm saying is that it wouldn't be as obvious as you'd think...Spider Fett

And I'm saying, the just because it looks like a duck and walks like a duck doesn't mean it's a duck.

I am sure there are things that are very evident even with the surgery. There is a difference between seeing it, and being with it.

If you are worth your weight in testosterone...you'd know.

 

[Daisy]

Well I would think that it would certainly have an impact and she'd HAVE to tell you. What if you wanted to try to have kids? I know there's adoption but she'd have a tough time explaining why she couldn't get pregnant... and then visits to fertility clinics would bring the whole situation out then and that would NOT be pretty.

Actually, if she wanted to continue the lie, she'd simply have to say that she had to have a hysterectomy when she was younger. It would explain the inability to have children, the lack of periods, and the need for extra lube during sex.

As for those saying things like - adams apple and you'd know by the smell, etc. - no, you wouldn't, that's what all the hormone therapy is is for.

And as for the argument, she'd still be a guy in the head... also no. People who have sex change operations generally (I say generally because there are exceptions) do so because they feel - menatlly, emotionally, etc. - like the opposite sex. In otherwords, the reason she had the operation in the first place was because she was already a woman in her head, her body just didn't match.

 

[DBM]

I'd dump her.

I know this sounds callous but I won't have a serious relationship with a girl who can't have kids. Anytime a relationship I'm in starts to get serious, I let the girl know that I want kids of my own, not adopted. If she can't provide that then it's through.

It may sound a little harsh but it's something I feel deeply committed about.

 

[Childlike Wild]

But c'mon, any guy on here who's had an ongoing intimate relationship with a girl has had to have a lil blood on their tool at one time or another because of her menstrual cycle. You really can't fake that.

I suppose the poser could start a fight every (approx.) 28 days and refuse sex for the following week... or something.

Simple way to keep out of this position for guys: Don't date "chicks" with breast implants.

 

[Daisy]

I wouldn't necessarily finish it with them for the reason that they were once a fella, but having the chance to have children disappear if I stayed with them...

That would take some serious consideration to say the least.

What about a girl, who was born a girl, who for whatever reason couldn't bear children? It happens. You'd leave her because she couldn't bear you children?

 

[thebat7]

If you are worth your weight in testosterone...you'd know.

Look...I'm not questioning your manhood or your sexuality here. But you simply wouldn't just "know".

You might figure it out eventually through one means or another. But if the new "girl" were to lift up her skirt...you couldn't tell by looking. And if you were to get with her in that way, you wouldn't "feel" a difference either.

 

[Equint77]

On the chance that it happened to me and she admitted who she was... I'd leave immediately and then seek a lawyer so she/he'd pay for all my therapy bills.

 

[slipalong]

What about a girl, who was born a girl, who for whatever reason couldn't bear children? It happens. You'd leave her because she couldn't bear you children?

No, I said I don't know what I'd do. I'd like to say that I'd be the good person I've always tried to be and if I loved them I'd stay with them. But I honestly don't know what I'd do.

I suppose the question would be whether I'm willing to trade the chance of having children of my own with someone against the chance of spending the rest of my life with someone I might love. No matter how they started out in life.

As decisions go, that's a biggie. I'm just being honest with you guys.

 

[Daisy]

I'd dump her.

I know this sounds callous but I won't have a serious relationship with a girl who can't have kids. Anytime a relationship I'm in starts to get serious, I let the girl know that I want kids of my own, not adopted. If she can't provide that then it's through.

It may sound a little harsh but it's something I feel deeply committed about.

So do you go through all the fertility testing right then? A lot of times one doesn't find out until you start trying.

So you don't find out until after you're married. What happens then? Do you leave your wife because she can't bear your children? And what if it's you, not her? Does she have a free pass to toss you aside then?

 

[Erzengel]

Actually, if she wanted to continue the lie, she'd simply have to say that she had to have a hysterectomy when she was younger. It would explain the inability to have children, the lack of periods, and the need for extra lube during sex.

You could also say they suffer from vaginal dryness to explain the lube issue.

As for those saying things like - adams apple and you'd know by the smell, etc. - no, you wouldn't, that's what all the hormone therapy is is for.

I'm not saying that they can't fool anyone. But, even if they taken hormone therapy, have no scarring whatsoever, in the end they would have to lie about everything they can't control, no pics from their youth or periods or need for extra lube. Those lies wouldn't last forever and however good they maybe eventually something would come out.

 

[Knightsaber Priss]

I think it's about time I made my first obscure, off the wall, random, thread for all you hypsters to discuss.

Guys, what if your girlfriend of 3 years; who you planned on proposing to in the near future...was once a man. I mean he had a sex change, complete with hormones and numerous surgeries. Would you want "her" to tell you or keep you in the dark? And if you'd want "her" to tell you, would you stay in the relationship?

This is one of those things that you need to know but not sure if you want to know. I'm curious as to some of your responses.

Wow. Where did you come up with this idea?

 

[Daisy]

No, I said I don't know what I'd do. I'd like to say that I'd be the good person I've always tried to be and if I loved them I'd stay with them. But I honestly don't know what I'd do.

I suppose the question would be whether I'm willing to trade the chance of having children of my own with someone against the chance of spending the rest of my life with someone I might love. No matter how they started out in life.

As decisions go, that's a biggie. I'm just being honest with you guys.

I wasn't trying to be nasty. I was just trying to point out that the children thing isn't unique to this situation.

 

[DBM]

What about a girl, who was born a girl, who for whatever reason couldn't bear children? It happens. You'd leave her because she couldn't bear you children?

I've done it before.

I remember when I made the decision for the first time. I was really in love with a girl several years ago. When she told me that she couldn't have children, I gave it considerable thought, and decided that I wanted children that were my own by blood. And as much as it hurt me, and her, I ended the relationship.

Since that first time it's only happened one other time. It was with a girl that didn't want children. She could have children but didn't want them. Once I had determined that she was serious I ended it.

I feel that breeding is a vital part of life. I feel a need to pass along my genes to another generation. And my personal morals say that I must raise that child or children. To me it is a vital part of my life and though I haven't had a child yet, I feel that I must at some point in my life.

 

[DBM]

So do you go through all the fertility testing right then? A lot of times one doesn't find out until you start trying.

So you don't find out until after you're married. What happens then? Do you leave your wife because she can't bear your children? And what if it's you, not her? Does she have a free pass to toss you aside then?

Would I leave my wife? Probably. But prior to being married we would have addressed this issue. It's something I'd bring up before. She would be made aware of my stance and if she didn't agree then she is welcome to end the relationship before we are married.

Assuming she had the same beliefs as me, if I couldn't have children then I would accept her leaving me.

I know I can though. I've had myself examined. This isn't a decision I've came by lightly, I've put considerable thought and deliberation into it, even to the point of consulting a physician.

 

[Daisy]

You could also say they suffer from vaginal dryness to explain the lube issue.


I'm not saying that they can't fool anyone. But, even if they taken hormone therapy, have no scarring whatsoever, in the end they would have to lie about everything they can't control, no pics from their youth or periods or need for extra lube. Those lies wouldn't last forever and however good they maybe eventually something would come out.

Vaginal dryness happens after a hysterectomy. Basically, you end up going through premature menopause because of it.


Yes, they'd have to lie, and that would be a lousy foundation for a relationship IMO, and they likely would be found out eventually. And the thing is, if they (the person who had the sex change) feel they have to lie to keep the person they're with, they probably shouldn't be with that person in the first place because it means they know in their heart, that person doesn't (or wouldn't) really love and accept them for who they are.

 

[Anguissette1979]

Good call Daisy. The person you're with should love you for who you are physically, emotionally, and mentally... if they don't then you may be with the wrong person.

I found this out the hard way. Also, you have to love yourself before you can do something like that as well. That's what drives people to make this expensive, arduous and painful transformation.

 

[Childlike Wild]

That and being mentally ill.

 

[Equint77]

Yes, they'd have to lie, and that would be a lousy foundation for a relationship IMO, and they likely would be found out eventually. And the thing is, if they (the person who had the sex change) feel they have to lie to keep the person they're with, they probably shouldn't be with that person in the first place because it means they know in their heart, that person doesn't (or wouldn't) really love and accept them for who they are.

Well on the basis of the relationship starting off on a lie... that's enough to sever it. I think this extends past this circumstance...and although this is an extreme situation.. it's no different than someone getting involved with someone already married and not aware of it. A lie is a lie and no relationship should have a foundation based on secrets.