Is anyone here scared of going into a relationship?

[Fanticon]

Well, its a beautiful thing if you can find the right person....just don't force it, don't go trying to find your soulmate...a relationship with someone is good therapy for the person afraid of things like that...you'll be together for a while, have good times...maybe never throw around the "L" word, but you definitely need to have the experience so you don't screw things up when you do find the right one. Skip the bulls***, the petty fights, the dumb date ideas,...all the little things that add up to the overall downfall of the relationships you get into...prepare yourself for the real commitment you'll make later on so you know not to make the same mistakes. Cuz your not gonna wanna lose the one you really want to be with, it'll slip right through your fingers...most of the time you'll blame yourself, its not healthy for the mind and soul...and especially the heart...but you gotta be willing to put yourself out there...and when we do that...sure we risk getting a little heartbreak here and there, and when we make ourselves vulnerable by opening up...after a relationship ends you feel like it was a waste of time. But things get better and it gets easier to identify with the kind of person you want to let in...much like the way we choose our true friends in life.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

^^sound like you've been in some bad relationships

 

[The Amazing Lee]

Nope.

 

[enterthemadness]

If I ever have a relationship with a woman...like as in a girlfriend, I'll probably forget her birthday and our anniversary. then she will get mad and no sex for me.

 

[cyclonesfury]

its even scarier when ur gay

 

[Erzengel]

Wtf people?! Stop putting it on a f'ing pedestal. Stop thinking a relationship let alone your FIRST relationship as the end all be all of all things. Honestly your first relationship may not be your last or even greatest but it'll probably be a memorable one. Stop overthinking it everyone, meet someone and see where it goes from there.

F'ing drama queens.

 

[E-Mack]

You're pretty dramatic, yourself.

 

[Erzengel]

Better than wringing on my hands worrying about something that isn't going to exactly start off right off the bat.

 

[E-Mack]

'Tis true. But they're still teens. You know how they are.

 

[Erzengel]

I know I was probably the same way.

But, I get a high from giving them a kick in the ass. Sometimes they have to be reminded that things aren't as overly life changing as they built up in their minds.

 

[Decay]

I was so scared of thatin the past. Now I feel better about that but still I've got a bad feeling when someone likes and the feeling isn't mutual. I feel sorry about hurting that person's feelings.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I doubt it. I still beat myself up over the times I have opened up to people in the past.

Maybe you opened too fast or didn't get a good enough feel for the person as to whether you could trust them.

 

[Sensi]

i think you are talking to me ..i dont want to think about it ..the hurt is too intense

 

[Colossal Spoons]

I think it's kinda funny how women are supposed to be the super-emotional ones but it's us guys who suffer all the relationship anxiety. Weird.

 

[ShadowBoxing]

Not really. Chances are I will break up with that person at some point (given my age and considering how many relationships people generally have), so really no fear. If it don't work out, it don't work out....and hopefully I got in her pants at least.

 

[Sensi]

I think it's kinda funny how women are supposed to be the super-emotional ones but it's us guys who suffer all the relationship anxiety. Weird.

no, i am a girl and i've been there ..done that and dont want to do it again

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Oh, both sides get hurt, but guys seem to be the most hesitant about entering a relationship.

Sorry to hear you got hurt though; hope you heal quickly. I doubt you're done forever though cuz you'll meet somebody new that you can trust.

 

[Sensi]

oh i see what you mean ..i might agree with that then..and thank you

 

[Arkady Rossovich]

Relationships are nothing where i come from,what keeps me away is the fact that women are full of diseases that can be transmitted during sexual intercourse.I hear and read things about this in the USA.

 

[Fanticon]

a few good movies to help you cope with the break ups and understanding what went wrong....and don't worry these are newer...
London...sometimes a little over the top with excessive drug use...but the arguments and the jealousy themes...right on the money.

All the Real Girls...I've come to expect a lot from this director (David Gordon Green) and this was my favorite...it had great style...and it doesn't matter what relationship or with who...while I mostly feel its for men...women can watch this too...obviously...but its themes are like...man's relationship with all the women in his life...girlfriend, mother, daughter, sister...ex-girlfriends...its a beautiful movie...and the best thing about 'em...they just feel so real and right...it makes you examine your own life...and when I feel that strongly about a movie...I feel everyone has done their job right.
So...go rent em if you haven't seen em.
And yes I've been in a lot of relationships. Not a whole lot of long, long term ones...but enough...and now I'm settled down...and these movies make me think..."ahh those were the days"...the days I wish i could forget. But without them, what would I have to show for it...what kind of person would I be?
Trust me. They're just movies, but you'll get the idea...they're not self help videos...but to say they're not worth soaking in and just looking at them as "just another movie"...that'd be kinda of insulting to those involved. anyway...my other 2cents thats all

 

[cryptic name]

ahhh, this thread is so sad...



Love hurts, Love scars, Love wounds and mars
Any heart not tough or strong enough
To take a lot of pain, take a lot of pain
Love is like a cloud, it holds a lot of rain
Love hurts, Ooo-oo Love hurts

I'm young, I know, But even so
I know a thing or two - I learned from you
I really learned a lot, really learned a lot
Love is like a flame It burns you when it's hot
Love hurts, Ooo-oo Love hurts

Some fools think of happiness, blissfulness, togetherness
Some fools fool themselves, I guess
They're not foolin' me
I know it isn't true I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie made to make you blue
Love hurts, Ooo-oo Love hurts

Solo

I know it isn't true I know it isn't true
Love is just a lie made to make you blue
Love hurts, Ooo-oo Love hurts
Ooo-oo, Love hurts Ooo-oo

 

[Tsunulia]

If I ever have a relationship with a woman...like as in a girlfriend, I'll probably forget her birthday and our anniversary. then she will get mad and no sex for me.

No what you do is find a girl like me who can't even remember what day it is.......or what month it is.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

If you're in this situation, then perhaps you should look into "Friends With Benefits".

I don't see that as an option for him.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Relationships are nothing where i come from,what keeps me away is the fact that women are full of diseases that can be transmitted during sexual intercourse.I hear and read things about this in the USA.

Wow, where do you live?

 

[Immortalfire]

*sings*..Don't you want somebody to love..don't you need somebody to love wouldn't you love somebody to love you better find somebody to love