Is it ok to fantasize about being with someone else....

[Golgo-13]

...while your being intimate with your gf/bf/ s.o?

I know i've done it in the past with my past gf's like, i'd close my eyes and imagine i was doing Halle Berry or whoever. And i'm sure she has done it too, as i think it's healthy and o.k, so long as your not calling out someone elses name during the heat of passion. But that's just my opinion.

Your thoughts.

 

[Matt]

I don't think so. What does it say about your significant other if you have to fantasize about someone else in order to physically be with them? If that is the case your relationship has all kinds of problems.

 

[Immortalfire]

 

[Mee]

I fantasize about Wilhelm while I'm pm'ing Matt.

 

[Mr. Credible]

I don't think so. What does it say about your significant other if you have to fantasize about someone else in order to physically be with them? If that is the case your relationship has all kinds of problems.

that's more or less true... but imagine being with the same woman for however many years, she's squeezed out a few kids, and put on some weight... i think it's safe to say you're not going to be attracted to her the same way you used to be.

i'm not saying it's good, but still, it happens.

 

[The Lizard]

Occasionally, it's no big deal.

Regularly, it's a sign of a problem. Particularly if the fantasy is about the same "someone else" over and over again.

 

[Fledermaus]

I think it's wrong. Beside that, it's only a matter of time before you f#ck up and call your girlfriend Halle or something.

 

[Malus]

As with anything like this, the truth lies somewhere in between, and largely depends on the overall health of your relationship.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

I fantasize about Wilhelm while I'm pm'ing Matt.

That is normal.

 

[Sensi]

I think that is awful.

 

[Malus]

What does it say about your significant other if you have to fantasize about someone else in order to physically be with them? If that is the case your relationship has all kinds of problems.

Not necessarily.
Depends on whether you're both in on the fantasy and whether your relationship is open and honest overall.

But if it's every time and unspoken, then yeah I'd say there's a problem.

Any good marriage counselor will tell you that fantasizing can be a very normal and healthy part of a relationship.

 

[BloodyWolverine]

Yeah that may seem fun but what if you persay make better love to her that night from any other nite while you are thinking about whom ever. She may go along for the moment for it may feel physically good but it will be damaging to her self esteem and may cause a break up for she may think its another women or you want to cheat.
Careful with the dreams is all i'm saying.

 

[Ronny Shade]

You shouldn't be having sex with someone unless you want to be.

 

[kane9321]

its not cool at all. That means you dont think that highly of your bf/gf.Its almost like I'm betraying the woman i love, nope couldnt do it

 

[jaguarr]

Everyone fantasizes about being with other people at one point or another, no matter how hot your S.O. is. It's just a part of human sexuality. It's when it becomes a necessity in order to have a physical relationship with an S.O. or you start acting out on those fantasies that it becomes a problem. Doing it every now and again...pretty normal, really.

jag

 

[Ronny Shade]

I might do it with fictional characters...like the next time I'm sleeping with Sarah Michelle Gellar I'll call her Buffy or something

 

[Kyalesyin]

Nothing wrong with it whatsoever. Heck, its even better when your partner indulges you in that bit of fantasizing.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

I've never done it 'cause I'm into the intensity of 'This is ME. That is YOU. WE'RE doing THIS' right NOW'.
With all the talk of the practice, I've actually intentionally tried it a few times and it did nothing for me.
"OMG! I'm ****ing Daphne from Scooby DOO! I'm ****ing Daphne from Scooby DOO! YES!"

 

[jaguarr]

Nothing wrong with it whatsoever. Heck, its even better when your partner indulges you in that bit of fantasizing.

Role playing in a sexual sense can be very healthy (and a hell of a lot of fun).

jag

 

[Kyalesyin]

Role playing in a sexual sense can be very healthy (and a hell of a lot of fun).

jag

Fun is definitley a good word for it. Its actually how we got the inspiration for the book we're writing, and how sometimes I end up crawling into college with only three hours sleep.

 

[BloodyWolverine]

What are you writing is it a real or fictional book. I like talking about other peoples ideas in writing form.

 

[AllThingsComic]

Variety is the spice of life. Jag has once again hit the nail on the head!

 

[mightiest_mortal]

i think its more worrying that your fantasising about Hale Berry.

 

[Golgo-13]

Well my Halle fantasy thing was just an example, and it wasn't everytime and it surely wasn't a necessity to get aroused either. I honestly just don't see any harm in it. I don't care how hot your S.O is, being intimate with the same individual for years can become somewhat stale. It's like if your favorite food is Pizza, and you eat it everyday, eventually your gonna think about eating chicken or tacos, for example.

 

[Golgo-13]

i think its more worrying that your fantasising about Hale Berry.

I stand corrected sir. Why would any man fantasize about this: