Lounge of the Planet of the Apes

[E-Man]

And I get what you're saying, E. I guess I'm just a hopeless romantic

Romance is just some ******** that people say they want when they don't have it. Love works best without it. Percy Sledge said it best about true love traveling on a gravel road.

Also open relationships work better than monogamy.

 

[DarkSentinel]

I'm a jealous sumb**** though

 

[Hal_Jordan]

Also open relationships work better than monogamy.

Because they're not really relationships.

 

[DarkSentinel]

Hal knows what's up

 

[E-Man]

Because they're not really relationships.

Everything is a relationship. Word to mutha.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

How often do "open relationships" really last though? Sure, you have some people that have come to the conclusion that their partner has the wandering eye, male or female, and they say, "as long as it's not a serious thing, a threat to our bond then go out, have fun, and either tell me or don't." But people are seemingly not hardwired to share in that way when it comes to sex partners/long term romantic partners.

 

[DarkSentinel]

I have an open relationship with Mary Jane and it's fantastic

 

[E-Man]

How often do "open relationships" really last though? Sure, you have some people that have come to the conclusion that their partner has the wandering eye, male or female, and they say, "as long as it's not a serious thing, a threat to our bond then go out, have fun, and either tell me or don't." But people are seemingly not hardwired to share in that way when it comes to sex partners/long term romantic partners.

They last about the same as monagamous relationships. They're not one size fits all, so it's varying degrees to them. For some it's wanting something like threesomes with a particular gender every blue moon. For others it's two friends who find that they're attracted to each other and want sex without it changing things. For some it's bow chica wow wow season all year long. Like with anything it's up to the individuals.

Now the world don't move to the beat of just one drum. What might be right for you may not be right for some.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

They last about the same as monagamous relationships. They're not one size fits all, so it's varying degrees to them. For some it's wanting something like threesomes with a particular gender every blue moon. For others it's two friends who find that they're attracted to each other and want sex without it changing things. For some it's bow chica wow wow season all year long. Like with anything it's up to the individuals.

Now the world don't move to the beat of just one drum. What might be right for you may not be right for some.

Oh, I'm aware. I just don't think it's quite the panacea one might want it to be. We humans are a strange brew of ****, ya'know? We have a hard time NOT screwing any and all, but we have a hard time accepting someone we have actual feeling for doing the same.

And all relationships are fine... Except for the relationship Dudley and the Maytag Repair Man had in that bike shop. Dudley took one for Arnold that day for sure.

 

[Anita18]

The thing about it though is that a lot of people don't see it coming. The old adage of, "Women marry men expecting that they'll change, but they never do. Men marry women thinking that they'll never change, but they always do," applies in too many marriages. People continually change over time, so it's tough to say what will happen. I look at myself 10 years ago and I'm vastly different. The same could probably be said for everyone else.

Also divorce is no longer taboo, and it's more beneficial for some parties to get a divorce. I hear what you're saying, but when it comes to this stuff it's scary how people turn into monsters after divorces.

Divorce by itself isn't a bad thing. People treating each other like **** is a bad thing, and you don't have to be going through a divorce to get that - some people just have to stay married.

Unfortunately, divorce is a very personal thing, which is why sooo many couples turn into horrible monsters during/after divorce. The only couple I know who stayed friendly post-divorce are my in-laws, and for that my husband and I are very very lucky. But it's unfortunate how rare it is. It doesn't HAVE to be that way.

We did a "marriage preparation workshop" to learn essential communication skills. We know we're going to change, and we've committed to sticking it out and communicating honestly. We're aware it doesn't necessarily mean forever. But I can see myself growing old with him.

It also helps that we're both uber-nerds who are just happy having someone always at our back. No need to be greedy.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

Rushing into a divorce when the problem could be solved is a bad thing

 

[MrMaooz]

Hey... So... umm... Sawyer's thread about COMMUNITY... What exactly is the problem here? I have always likes Sawyer. He's got a sharp mind and I actually admire his let it all hang out attitude. But... What could be done that is so great here exactly? Is he having a closing in on 30 freak out? Is this an "only the cool kids that I started out with on SHH" thing? I often read about "the glory years" for the Hype forums and the Community and Lounge sections in particular... It's a freaking internet forum though. Seriously. Is it just about not interacting with whom you really want to? Missing the bye gone days of youth? Is this a "Oh, your into X band? Yeah, I saw them WAY before they got big" dealie? What?

I actually would love to see Sawyer NON SARCASTICALLY explain himself if he's actually serious.

He acts like we've had sex with his mother when he's "complaining" about this place.

 

[Spider-Aziz]

Hey... So... umm... Sawyer's thread about COMMUNITY... What exactly is the problem here? I have always likes Sawyer. He's got a sharp mind and I actually admire his let it all hang out attitude. But... What could be done that is so great here exactly? Is he having a closing in on 30 freak out? Is this an "only the cool kids that I started out with on SHH" thing? I often read about "the glory years" for the Hype forums and the Community and Lounge sections in particular... It's a freaking internet forum though. Seriously. Is it just about not interacting with whom you really want to? Missing the bye gone days of youth? Is this a "Oh, your into X band? Yeah, I saw them WAY before they got big" dealie? What?

I actually would love to see Sawyer NON SARCASTICALLY explain himself if he's actually serious.

He kinda did explain himself by summing up the lounge, the way he sees it

He wants people to make this a quality place for him to hang in, but he hardly takes the initiation, I guess he experienced it to be a fruitless effort

 

[MrMaooz]

Sawyer is Sawyer. What can we say?

 

[Fallen Angel]

Look I'll say the same thing i've said to people on a forum i've been a part of for 10 years or so who've said the same thing like he does. Like how he misses the good ole days and he misses posters who have left.

Put it simply ADAPT OR GTFO!

Yes its' different to how its was 10 years ago you could say things on forums and do things and get away with it not now though. And the forum I'm part of back then oh boy it was good times but things move on people move on. So Sawyer if you're not happy to be here how about a break from this forum? Sorry it's not how it was but then as they say life goes on and we either stay in one place or go with the flow and see where the current takes us.

 

[Tanin]

It really isn't as different as people are claiming. Rules are a bit tougher but it isn't like it was a whole different place.

Source: My join date

 

[Fallen Angel]

It really isn't as different as people are claiming. Rules are a bit tougher but it isn't like it was a whole different place.

Source: My join date

It's slightly different from how it was when forums were starting out back in the early 2000's. Back then you could say and do things without much if any moderation and it was more like the wild west back then. I understand that but you either adapt or you leave. No point b****ing about it.

 

[KRYPTON INC.]

He kinda did explain himself by summing up the lounge, the way he sees it

He wants people to make this a quality place for him to hang in, but he hardly takes the initiation, I guess he experienced it to be a fruitless effort

See... Disagree. What does he EXPECT of interaction in the Community section and the Lounge? What could posters do, or what shouldn't we do? Be "cooler"?

 

[Spider-Aziz]

See... Disagree. What does he EXPECT of interaction in the Community section and the Lounge? What could posters do, or what shouldn't we do? Be "cooler"?

I don't know what he expects
He thinks all I say is "Oh hai, I agree with you *insertpostername*, and you are right. Carry on"

Sawyer, what do you want with the lounge?

 

[DarkSentinel]

 

[Spider-Aziz]

Just converted to Opera
I don't think I like it more than Chrome

 

[Fallen Angel]

So you've come round to my way of thinking? Good for you son a little late but it's better than never.

 

[DarkSentinel]

Triple H did it first, Clippy

 

[Schlosser85]

In my never-too-humble opinion, open "relationships" are for when you lack the emotional maturity to keep it in your pants but want the trappings of being in a couple.

$.02

 

[Erzengel]

I know some people who got married and spent $12000-15000 on it and they got divorced three years later. He wanted a tiny wedding and she (being a ****ing psycho and bipolar) screamed until he gave it to get a big one. They didn't even have a honeymoon.

I don't know a place you can get married and have like 50 people there for only $12-$15k in a 500 mile radius.