My friend died of cancer today...

[Anita18]

Congrats on your wedding.

Life really is a bittersweet symphony.

I was thinking about the Twilight Zone episode where the thug got everything he wanted. He won every gambling game, got away with every crime, and had women at his whim. He complained that things were too easy and he didn't like Heaven only to discover he was in hell.

My point is that life is a constant balance between the bitter and sweet.

Even too much sweet can be a bad thing. It's hard to remember this on a rainy day but things are the way they are for a reason.

I don't like to think of things as having a "reason" because it's uncomfortable to think that a good person has to die just so we can learn something. But I think we can choose to take lessons from everything that happens to us. That's how we grow. Without growth, we merely exist, and that's no way to live.

And yeah, we don't truly appreciate the highs if we don't have any lows. Just as the words of Bane: "There are be no true despair without hope." And in the same vein, we don't feel true joy without despair.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you and others can find some peace in this senseless death.

My friends and I are working it out emotionally. I already had some people point out how much he wanted to see my wedding. Even though his body finally gave out, his mind didn't. It does bring me some comfort to know that I gave him something to look forward to in his last few weeks, instead of just waiting for the end in a blur of pain and malaise.

Even if he couldn't physically see it with us, he was there in spirit. And when it was all over, we're thinking that he finally felt he could leave.

Anita I am so sorry for your loss, My grandfather passed away from pancreatic cancer as well in February and I have been in quite of a slump of depression since. He was pretty much a surrogate father to me since my own father died when I was young. He taught me about so much, and gave me great life tips. I know he's definitely watching over my family like he always has, but now he can be at peace.

I'm sure your grandfather appreciates how important he was to you, but I think he would want you to be happy.

 

[bullets]

That's sad to hear Anita , but I appreciate your words of encouragement. It's easy to take things for granted until they are gone. My grandmother has incurable cancer. I've been thinking of my childhood and times I spent at her house. I miss those days and I'm grateful to have such memories.

 

[JJJ's Ulcer]

I'm sorry for your loss. One of the most traumatic times of my childhood was seeing my grandfather waste away and eventually die from liver cancer over the course of a year. Almost twenty years later and I still miss him terribly.

For males in their 20s an early 30s, testicular cancer is one of the most common types. I've had two cousins my age (and both from the same uncle and aunt if you can believe it) who have had it and successfully overcome it. Everyone should check themselves for lumps in the shower once a month. Breasts for women and testicles for men. It's such an obvious and well known fact, but so many of us neglect or forget to do this. Early detection is KEY!

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

I don't like to think of things as having a "reason" because it's uncomfortable to think that a good person has to die just so we can learn something. But I think we can choose to take lessons from everything that happens to us. That's how we grow. Without growth, we merely exist, and that's no way to live.

And yeah, we don't truly appreciate the highs if we don't have any lows. Just as the words of Bane: "There are be no true despair without hope." And in the same vein, we don't feel true joy without despair.
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"I postpone death by living, by suffering, by error, by risking, by giving, by losing." - Anaïs Nin

"Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn." - C. S. Lewis

"Life isn't finding shelter in the storm. It's about learning to dance in the rain." - Sherrilyn Kenyon

“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

[Snow Queen]

I'm so sorry, Anita. If you ever need to talk to anyone about it, just PM me.

 

[MessiahDecoy123]

Also I didn't mean that your dear friend soley died to teach you a lesson.

For some reason it seams like the good die young.

It's as if some people too good or spiritually ripe for this Earthly existence.

 

[Tigress]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend Anita.

 

[GENERAL RAAM582]

I'm extremely sorry for your loss, my condolences.

 

[Erzengel]

You have my condolences Anita.

 

[Marvolo]

I just wanted to say again, your in my thoughts, Anita. Hang in there, and you'll weather this storm.

 

[Scourge2099]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[NickNitro]

I'm soo sorry Anita. My prayers go out to you and him

 

[hopefuldreamer]

Sorry to hear Anita, hope your okay x

 

[TheIrishAvenger]

Sorry for your loss Anita. My condolences to you and your friend's family. R.I.P.

 

[Duke]

Sorry for your loss Anita.

 

[mongoose-mania]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Anita.

 

[NewYorkSpider]

My thoughts and prayers, Anita.