No Attention Needed?

[PyroChamber]

I have a question for the ladies...

If you were going out to a public setting (bar, club, restaurant, etc.) and you're dressed nice and you're with your girlfriends, or by yourself, would it bother you if no one tried to hit on you or showed you absolutely no attention while you were there; especially if you're at a bar or a club?

 

[Kaboom]

I have a question for the ladies...

If you were going out to a public setting (bar, club, restaurant, etc.) and you're dressed nice and you're with your girlfriends, or by yourself, would it bother you if no one tried to hit on you or showed you absolutely no attention while you were there; especially if you're at a bar or a club?

if youre with "all your girlfirends" i.e. probably about 5 or 6 is the avergae number....one or two guys who are around, will likely leave you alone, UNLESS

1) you make yourself available to be approached
2) dance on the dance floor
3) a group of 5 or 6 guys happen to be there also.

 

[Kaboom]

oooh, question for the ladies.

but im a dude.

 

[Babs Gordon]

That's a good point K'boom. Girls in packs creates an invisible fortress of 'solidarity' . If I wanted to be approached at a bar I'd never 'hang with my homies'.

I wouldn't be pissed, no. Of course I don't usually go out looking for a reinforcement of my ego.

 

[Superman79]

That's a good point K'boom. Girls in packs creates an invisible fortress of 'solidarity' . If I wanted to be approached at a bar I'd never 'hang with my homies'.

I wouldn't be pissed, no. Of course I don't usually go out looking for a reinforcement of my ego.

Invisible, but NOT impenetrable...you just need the right personality and social skills...that and big brass ones...t:

 

[Kaboom]

That's a good point K'boom. Girls in packs creates an invisible fortress of 'solidarity' . If I wanted to be approached at a bar I'd never 'hang with my homies'.

I wouldn't be pissed, no. Of course I don't usually go out looking for a reinforcement of my ego.

i have been going to bars and cluns since i was 17. its an interesting social dynamic. 5 or 6 girls togetehr would likeley be in a circle to talk to everyone, since girls love to gab. by that, they have automatically turned their backs on EVERYONE else in the bar, creating a bubble.

by going on to the dance floor, you open yourself up.

picking one friend and grabbing a drink you are much easier to approach.

or if you all have to stick together, its better to be in a line. because that way your front is exposed rather than your back.

 

[Babs Gordon]

I thought some guys prefered the backside

 

[Kaboom]

Invisible, but NOT impenetrable...you just need the right personality and social skills...that and big brass ones...t:

oh it definetly can be done. but not many guys out there will do it.
its hard enough for most people to approach one girl and strike up a conversation without knowing anything about her.

its is a hundred times harder to have to entertain 5 or 6 of them by yourself, while still zeroing in on the one you came over to talk to. usually not worth the effort.

 

[Superman79]

i have been going to bars and cluns since i was 17. its an interesting social dynamic. 5 or 6 girls togetehr would likeley be in a circle to talk to everyone, since girls love to gab. by that, they have automatically turned their backs on EVERYONE else in the bar, creating a bubble.

by going on to the dance floor, you open yourself up.

picking one friend and grabbing a drink you are much easier to approach.

or if you all have to stick together, its better to be in a line. because that way your front is exposed rather than your back.

It's never good to approach ANYONE from the back...it automatically triggers defensiveness. It's human nature.

 

[Kaboom]

It's never good to approach ANYONE from the back...it automatically triggers defensiveness. It's human nature.

clearly. i like the direct approach. see the girl, make eye contact. smile, if she smiles back, walk up and introduce yourself.

 

[Babs Gordon]

Invisible, but NOT impenetrable...you just need the right personality and social skills...that and big brass ones...t:

Yeah true but generally a group of girls going out looking for action would be foolish to stick in their hopack.

 

[Erzengel]

That's a good point K'boom. Girls in packs creates an invisible fortress of 'solidarity' . If I wanted to be approached at a bar I'd never 'hang with my homies'.

I wouldn't be pissed, no. Of course I don't usually go out looking for a reinforcement of my ego.

I've walked into what I termed the "Lion's Den" before and I pretty much waited and wait for my opportunity. Like when most of the friends go to the bathroom or she's at the bar and they are dancing.

 

[Superman79]

clearly. i like the direct approach. see the girl, make eye contact. smile, if she smiles back, walk up and introduce yourself.

and this is why we get along so well Boom...we operate on the same level t:

 

[Kaboom]

I've walked into what I termed the "Lion's Den" before and I pretty much waited and wait for my opportunity. Like when most of the friends go to the bathroom or she's at the bar and they are dancing.

best time to do it.

thats what what i meant orignally by "make yourself available"

 

[Babs Gordon]

oh it definetly can be done. but not many guys out there will do it.
its hard enough for most people to approach one girl and strike up a conversation without knowing anything about her.

its is a hundred times harder to have to entertain 5 or 6 of them by yourself, while still zeroing in on the one you came over to talk to. usually not worth the effort.

plus you get the drama of other girls in the pack zeroing in on you when you weren't coming for them and then one of them staggers to the bathroom and cries with her mascara running all over her face.

 

[Superman79]

Yeah true but generally a group of girls going out looking for action would be foolish to stick in their hopack.

Hopack?? hahaha Wait...do they have nappy hair too??

 

[Superman79]

I've walked into what I termed the "Lion's Den" before and I pretty much waited and wait for my opportunity. Like when most of the friends go to the bathroom or she's at the bar and they are dancing.

it's like the cheetah picking off the gazelle that wanders too far from the pack

 

[Kaboom]

and this is why we get along so well Boom...we operate on the same level t:

im guessing we could do some damage to the social scene.

two brilliant legal minds.

two bottles of crown.

one objective.

world beware!

 

[Babs Gordon]

that would be interesting to observe. sober of course.

 

[Erzengel]

it's like the cheetah picking off the gazelle that wanders too far from the pack

Pretty much. Also if you want to do co-op and have your friend run interference that works too.

 

[Superman79]

im guessing we could do some damage to the social scene.

two brilliant legal minds.

two bottles of crown.

one objective.

world beware!

hahaha...that could be dangerous. I like it.

 

[Kaboom]

that would be interesting to observe. sober of course.

yes of course.






















you wont know what you hit you.

 

[Superman79]

Pretty much. Also if you want to do co-op and have your friend run interference that works too.

Life Lesson #276: Words cannot describe the benefits of having a good wingman.

 

[Kaboom]

Life Lesson #276: Words cannot describe the benefits of having a good wingman.

i had the best wingman ever this weekend.

i was at a bar around 3 pm. drinking hanging out with some friends. one of them has a son whos 5. i started playing with him.

15 minutes later. phone number.

 

[Babs Gordon]

i don't like to be hit.