One of my friend's friends killed himself

[Superman 1265]

Okay, so this morning I found out that someone who was close to one of my friends killed himself. He was constantly bullied by a group of students, and he eventually decided he couldn't take it anymore and commited suicide. I feel horrible about what happened to him, and I also feel bad about my friend. What should I do?

 

[Godzilla2000]

That's just awful that human beings don't have the common decency to treat one another with compassion! Such evil, malcontent criminals they are for aiding and abetting that atmosphere that caused your friend's friend to kill themself! They talk of Freedom of Speech and all that, but when does that behavior cross the line? Just how much cruelty do people have to endure before someone says that's enough?

Please, just be there for your friend, lend them a shoulder to cry on if they need it and just get out the grief of this terrible occurrence. And by all means urge them to speak out against bullying. I myself was bullied in school and I'm still bullied by people who ought to know better by now, but they're the ones who are in the wrong for making another person feel bad just to puff up their sense of self worth.

 

[Spider-Who?]

That's terrible. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do. Like Jinouga said, be there as emotional support for your friend the best you can.

On a side note, I always wonder what the bullies think/how the feel when one of their victims commits suicide.

 

[VenomSpawn]

On a side note, I always wonder what the bullies think/how the feel when one of their victims commits suicide.

They probably feel as if they accomplished something. Horrible bastards.

 

[Spider-Who?]

Funny you say that, because after making my post, I got curious and googled...only thing I found was something on 4chan. A kid apparently killed himself after being harassed on that site. What the people on 4chan were saying about this kid was....well, it was astoundingly disgusting.

 

[Raiden]

This is terrible.

 

[Superman 1265]

Thanks guys.

 

[hopefuldreamer]

I guess the most important thing is making sure he doesn't feel any guilt about it himself, or think that maybe he could have done more.

The blame is on his bullites and the people who failed him (i.e. teachers), not his friends.

I'm sorry to hear about it anyway

 

[Superman 1265]

Another thing that bugs me is that the school staff told me that the students look after each other, and no one there is a bully. After today, I'm going to have to call ******** on that one.

 

[tzarinna]

Sorry to hear about your friend. Maybe reach out to his family, see if there's anything that you can do in their time of need.

 

[8wid]

Do something to stand up for those who don't have a voice, report bullying and educate others in ways to prevent it. Remind people that bullying is something that seems to only take place at the juvenile age and later on at least you can protect yourself.

This is also why I think it needs to be a criminal offense to engage in this kind of harassment. There's far too many ways to prevent this kind of pointless evil.

 

[Ultra Lantern]

This is very sad.

 

[Sentinel X]

On a side note, I always wonder what the bullies think/how the feel when one of their victims commits suicide.

I remember reading a story where these to girls were verbally and physically bullying a girl ( they were jealous that a guy happened to like her). They beat her up badly then one of the bullies kept telling her to kill herself because nobody liked her so she jumped out the window to her death and the bully said (and I quote ) : "serves you right, you ****e"

People need to stand up when they witness bullying. The victim is too scared or embarrassed to say anything...if someone could speak up for them I'm sure it would mean the world to them.

 

[Morg]

A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now even though they said .........they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bullies another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home.

saw this in another forum

sorry about your friend, Superman 1265

 

[Immortalfire]

I'm very sorry to hear that. Someone taking their own life, is to me, the most painful thing any of us can go through. Praying for the family and your friends.

 

[jaymes_e06]

I feel so bad for you. My thought and prayers are with you and the family of the boy.

I'm very sorry to hear suck a horrific thing can happen. How someone can take a life is one thing, but how someone can make someone else feel they need to take there own life is just crazy! And they will live out their lives uncaring that's why this is never the answer. These monster wont even feel bad about what they've done.

You want to really stick it to bullies keep going and don't ever stop being who you are. You dont need anyone elses approval. Be yourself unapolegetically and this temporary habitat will pass and you can leave them behind and be happy.

 

[Hotwire]

This makes me want to find the bullies and do something that seem right at home is a Hostel movie.

 

[Thebumwhowalks]

I'm really sorry to hear this man, these kind of stories can make you feel angry and depressed when you sit and think about them, so try not to dwell on it too much, y'know, take onboard what happened, but try not to get too depressed about it.
Something needs to be done about these kinds of situations that go on day in day out in schools all round the world.

 

[Duke]

This is terrible to hear about & I'm sorry about your friend Superman 1265.

 

[bullets]

Okay, so this morning I found out that someone who was close to one of my friends killed himself. He was constantly bullied by a group of students, and he eventually decided he couldn't take it anymore and commited suicide. I feel horrible about what happened to him, and I also feel bad about my friend. What should I do?

I hate when people come out and try to excuse bullying saying "It's a part of life". Sure it is but a lot of effed up things are , doesn't mean we shouldn't try to prevent bullies or do something about it.
It was a serious issue in my school but nothing was ever done about it. I had a few rough years but eventually snapped and fought back. Not every kids going to do that , so hopefully something changes.
Your friend has his whole life ahead of him so I'd just let him know it will get better and to not give up when something like this happens.

 

[Trainwreck2100]

This makes me want to find the bullies and do something that seem right at home is a Hostel movie.

bullying bullies makes you a bully

 

[Kurosawa]

All you can do is offer him support, care and make sure not to judge. I've been there-a good friend of mine killed himself when he was only 24, and it is a terrible feeling of helplessness and wondering what you could have possibly done to prevent it-which of course is nothing.

 

[Schlosser85]

Bullying is a major problem at my high school, and half the teachers just pretend not to hear things that are said right in front of them.

 

[Superman 1265]

Thanks once again everyone. Oh, and by the way: my friend is a female.

 

[Trainwreck2100]

Bullying is a major problem at my high school, and half the teachers just pretend not to hear things that are said right in front of them.

what are they supposed to do?