The Virginity Question

[Watson]

^my point exactly.

 

[Anubis]

Actually it leads to Eskimo sex which is basically just intercourse with ones nose.

 

[B.A. Baracus]

I think i did that once.

 

[E-Man]

You know? Every girl's parents put a p**** troll in them when the girls are young, to keep them from having premarital sex. And so even though they totally wants to have sex with men, they can't because the troll will bite it off. Troll gets peed out of a girl's body on her 21st birthday.

I bet you actually talk to your girlfriend to get important info like this about Pillow Pants. Unlike that Randall guy.

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

I bet you actually talk to your girlfriend to get important info like this about Pillow Pants. Unlike that Randall guy.

He needs to start talking to women like proper couples do!

 

[E-Man]

This thread needs some Herbert.
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[B.A. Baracus]

I like Herbert, but i much prefer the guy with the moustache 'oh hey there, how you doin''

I have no idea if he has a name.

 

[Ponyboy]

I bet you actually talk to your girlfriend to get important info like this about Pillow Pants. Unlike that Randall guy.

haha... that was one of the best scenes in the film. I loved how the music turned scary. t:

 

[E-Man]

I like Herbert, but i much prefer the guy with the moustache 'oh hey there, how you doin''

I have no idea if he has a name.

His name is Bruce, and I'm sure that he's not a virgin.
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[Ponyboy]

hahaha, Herbert is a class act! Me and a couple of the guys at work have adopted his "MmmMMmMMmmm" noise

 

[B.A. Baracus]

Love bruce, every episode he appears in is so much better for his appearence.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm still baffled by SpideyVille007's statement that Eskimo kisses is the gateway act to sexual intercourse.

 

[SpideyVille]

I'm still baffled by SpideyVille007's statement that Eskimo kisses is the gateway act to sexual intercourse.

I never said that. The point of that story was more to relate to how you said there was a difference between sticking to a belief and than acting on it in the moment. So for me, I was at a point where I had decided that I didn't want to do anything with just somebody, and I thought that eskimo kissing would probably lead to kissing, which I didn't feel was right at the time since I barely knew her and we were in a classroom with other people.

But I agree with your point on how you can't really make the same decisions you'd normally make when you're in the moment, since even though I was starting to have feelings for her, I still answered no right away without much thought, and I sorta regretted it for a long time after that. I know it was stupid of to think that, but add to the fact that I was in church at the time and knew the "rules" to physical contact, I was in no rush for any of it.

 

[Erzengel]

Maybe you said "No" more because you were nervous in a new and uncomfortable situation than it was you sticking to your guns.

 

[SpideyVille]

That too.

 

[Erzengel]

Rereading your previous post, being in a situation where a girl asks you for an eskimo kiss and you say no is a whole lot different from a heavy make out session and a girl saying she's ready to go and then saying no.

And let me say right off the bat, I'm not telling you or anyone else to go out and have sex with the first woman who gives you an opportunity.

I understand those who want to wait til marriage and date, I don't understand those who want to wait til marriage but seem to avoid dating like it's the plague.

Denying yourself any type of female companionship in terms of dating and relationships because you're afraid what will happen whether it be a connection or sexual experience is pretty much well...cowardly.

 

[Hobgoblin]

I understand those who want to wait til marriage and date, I don't understand those who want to wait til marriage but seem to avoid dating like it's the plague.

Denying yourself any type of female companionship in terms of dating and relationships because you're afraid what will happen whether it be a connection or sexual experience is pretty much well...cowardly.

What about those of us that avoid dating women unless they meet our standards? In a way, yes I do avoid dating like the plague but thats because I have yet to find a semi attractive woman that tolerates comic books, isnt into sports and likes politics. I guess I am willing to compromise but a few of my criteria do need to be met.

 

[Erzengel]

As long as you are putting yourself out there in situations to meet people and not running away at any opportunity to get into a relationship people, it's fine.

I mean this is a whole other topic all together. I'm all for standards, however, I'd think it's more important to be with someone who makes you happy instead of someone who dislikes sports and likes politics.

Who knows maybe you might find someone who's the exact opposite but would be so into you that they'd be willing to try some of your interests and vice versa.

 

[Darthphere]

What about those of us that avoid dating women unless they meet our standards? In a way, yes I do avoid dating like the plague but thats because I have yet to find a semi attractive woman that tolerates comic books, isnt into sports and likes politics. I guess I am willing to compromise but a few of my criteria do need to be met.

This is why people die alone. You say you can compromise but then said that they have to meet a few of your criteria? Having a checklist of things before you decide to date someone limits your possibilities of finding a girl you like. I've dated girls that have little in common with me and it's not that big of a deal.

 

[Erzengel]

I'm just curious Hobgoblin. How many women have you dated in the past 2 years? Have you turned down girls or not even attempted to ask women out because they never talked about comics?

Again, I'm not saying to lower your standards but to broaden your horizons.

I always thought I'd be with a woman who looked a certain way, had a twisted sense of humor such as myself. Would it be great if she LOVED Star Wars the way I did and read the same comics I did? Sure. But in the end, all that seems important is that we understand each other regardless of our different interests.

 

[SpideyVille]

Who knows maybe you might find someone who's the exact opposite but would be so into you that they'd be willing to try some of your interests and vice versa.

I think this is one of the weird areas about relationships, in that some people feel like people need to be matched with those in which they have something in common, while others feel that the idea that "opposites attract" is one that works more.

This is why people die alone. You say you can compromise but then said that they have to meet a few of your criteria? Having a checklist of things before you decide to date someone limits your possibilities of finding a girl you like. I've dated girls that have little in common with me and it's not that big of a deal.

In some ways, I would normally agree with Hob on this one, but just tonight, I found myself talking to a girl that I would normally stay away from because she is basically everything I don't want in a girl. But for some reason, by talking to her and seeing her open up a little, I saw that maybe it would be better to broaden my horizons as Erz put it, as opposed to just judging what kind of person a girl is based on what i've seen or heard about them.

 

[Hobgoblin]

This is why people die alone. You say you can compromise but then said that they have to meet a few of your criteria? Having a checklist of things before you decide to date someone limits your possibilities of finding a girl you like. I've dated girls that have little in common with me and it's not that big of a deal.

I dont get it. Whats wrong with have a criteria but willing to give up a few of them? That sounds normal to me. I think most people want to be with a peron that they have something in common with.

I'm just curious Hobgoblin. How many women have you dated in the past 2 years? Have you turned down girls or not even attempted to ask women out because they never talked about comics?

Again, I'm not saying to lower your standards but to broaden your horizons.

I always thought I'd be with a woman who looked a certain way, had a twisted sense of humor such as myself. Would it be great if she LOVED Star Wars the way I did and read the same comics I did? Sure. But in the end, all that seems important is that we understand each other regardless of our different interests.

In the past two years, one person. I admit my horizons are narrow, but I really have no interest in expanding them. Most of the world doesnt really interest me.

 

[Anita18]

I dont get it. Whats wrong with have a criteria but willing to give up a few of them? That sounds normal to me. I think most people want to be with a peron that they have something in common with.

Me and my bf have only a few general things in common - we're extremely introverted, we like to work on long detailed tech projects (me on websites, he on mobile games), and we're both hippies. Yeah, actually I think that's it.

The trick is that we accept that we both have different interests. I'm learning a lot about skateboarding and he's allowed himself to be dragged to a few figure skating events, although I think I'm more open to learning about skateboarding than he to figure skating. He actually encouraged me to do the insanely huge TDK viral site, although he had absolutely no interest in it himself. But he thinks everything I do is cool even if he's not into it.

Stuff that would actually bother us, we have to work around. He's MUCH more picky than I am about noise and I'm A LOT more interested in news/politics, so I use headphones and discuss politics online.

Anyways, I guess my point is that it took me 6 years to find someone who even accepts my interests and quirks, so by this time I feel like I can't reject people who aren't interested in the exact same things I am.

 

[SpideyVille]

I think that's a strong case for how opposite attracts because, in a lot of ways, there's more to do when you don't have a lot of things in common. It's like both people can use their interests to teach the other something new. And I guess the biggest thing about making that work is by learning to just accept the other person for who they are and what they like. Like it might suck if you're really passionate about something and try to open the other person up to it, and they ended up hating it or rejecting it. But if they don't try to hinder you from continuing to like it, then I don't see what's wrong with not having that in common.

I mean its nice to have things in common, but not to the point where both do the same things, because then wouldn't it be boring? There wouldn't really be any desire to do something different if you're both into just doing the same things that you have in common.

 

[Erzengel]

I dont get it. Whats wrong with have a criteria but willing to give up a few of them? That sounds normal to me. I think most people want to be with a peron that they have something in common with.

In the past two years, one person. I admit my horizons are narrow, but I really have no interest in expanding them. Most of the world doesnt really interest me.

It's great that you at least go out. But broadening your horizons will in the long run benefit you, as unless their is an mirror image of you with 2 X chromosomes, you'll eventually going to meet someone who is going to have interests of her own. And whether she wants you to take her to a twilight movie, or go biking or watch a sporting event, are you going to tell her no because those things don't interest you and to find someone else to take her?

I think that's a strong case for how opposite attracts because, in a lot of ways, there's more to do when you don't have a lot of things in common. It's like both people can use their interests to teach the other something new. And I guess the biggest thing about making that work is by learning to just accept the other person for who they are and what they like. Like it might suck if you're really passionate about something and try to open the other person up to it, and they ended up hating it or rejecting it. But if they don't try to hinder you from continuing to like it, then I don't see what's wrong with not having that in common.

I mean its nice to have things in common, but not to the point where both do the same things, because then wouldn't it be boring? There wouldn't really be any desire to do something different if you're both into just doing the same things that you have in common.

Finding someone who has all the same interests as you, all I have to say is good luck.

Out of every girl, I've liked, dated etc. and out of that sample size, none of them had really any geeky habits. Some of them would tolerate but not necessarily participate in them.

Quick example, Erzette likes Opera and I've been to over half a dozen shows. Let's just say, I go because she enjoys them. However, there was one show called Turandot and it has a beautiful aria in it that I liked so much that it's on my iPod.

That's what I'm talking about about broadening your horizons. Sure there is going to be times when you would be right about not liking something but I think there would be times where you are pleasantly surprised.