NotAHenchwench
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It's not offense that's being taken, except to the use of misleading statistics to perpetuate personal beliefs. That particular cliche quip is tossed around as pure fact, hard evidence that living together before marriage is dooming to the marriage. I was simply pointing out that 'less divorces' do not equal 'more happy marriages.'
I agree with this. Not to mention there's no real way of telling if someone is actually in a happy marriage. If you ask them, they could just be lying their butts off.
The article itself strikes me as satirical, but some decent points have been made. I think it is important to live with someone for at least a year before you even THINK about getting married. I know it all depends on the couple, but I work best in a situation where I can see how my S.O. lives and try to co-exist with that person. The goal is to be harmonious in most things that you do around the house [because let's face it, quarrels happen] and in your lives together.
I also don't agree with one party being the primary bread winner for the family. Both people should have careers [hopefully ones they like] and be bringing in money and contributing. If there are kids involved, it complicates things, but if there are no kids, I feel quite strongly that both parties should be working and bringing in enough money to support themselves. To me, independence is a HUGE part of being in a relationship. If or when I ever get married, I'm always having my own bank account, no contest. Not that I wont trust my spouse, but I need small things like that to keep my semblance of self, and it'll make me a happier person in the long run.
Sorry... didn't mean to rant for so long.