The FACEBOOK Thread

[Addendum]

I see what you mean I think I just have a different definition of forgiving someone. When I forgive someone I don't hold a grudge anymore or anger anymore but I still remember what they did and things do not "go back to normal" just because I considered them forgiven.

I guess as long as you're not lingering on it and you are actually moving on then forgiveness doesn't really matter. I guess I just think if I can't manage to just forgive someone then I will harbor bad feelings towards them.

The people that have wronged me are dead to me. So I don't see a need for forgiving. Apathy works better.

 

[SpideyInATree]

I went through a same similar situation only I am male and my friend was male. We were living together. Having a good time. Things eventually started to erode because it was obvious he was just using me after a while.

From the way you've described your situation you are a very nice person that will do anything for their friends. I am the same way. Though once a user, always a user. Very rarely do people change. I agree with C. Lee. Sounds like they want to reconnect because they might want something from you.

My advice...and this is what I eventually did with my friend...keep talking to them but keep them at a very long distance and don't give them the satisfaction of being back in your life.

And another question...why would you move across the country and be broke when you could move back in with your parents? Unless your parents are horrible and evil people there is no shame in doing that. I have done it dozens of times and it helps you get back on your feet a lot easier than slumming it just to keep your pride. Though that is me. You may be a very very independent person. And my mom is a widow who lives in a big house all by herself in a crappy neighborhood...so situations are always different.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

I went through a same similar situation only I am male and my friend was male. We were living together. Having a good time. Things eventually started to erode because it was obvious he was just using me after a while.

From the way you've described your situation you are a very nice person that will do anything for their friends. I am the same way. Though once a user, always a user. Very rarely do people change. I agree with C. Lee. Sounds like they want to reconnect because they might want something from you.

My advice...and this is what I eventually did with my friend...keep talking to them but keep them at a very long distance and don't give them the satisfaction of being back in your life.

And another question...why would you move across the country and be broke when you could move back in with your parents? Unless your parents are horrible and evil people there is no shame in doing that. I have done it dozens of times and it helps you get back on your feet a lot easier than slumming it just to keep your pride. Though that is me. You may be a very very independent person. And my mom is a widow who lives in a big house all by herself in a crappy neighborhood...so situations are always different.

The reason why I did that is because by 24 years old, I had never been out on my own. So moving out with my friends was my way of getting out on my own, and taking care of myself. When things went bad, I went back to my parents for about a month, but at some point, I need to get out on my own.

No, my parents aren't horrible, evil people. In fact, I have a wonderful relationship with my parents, and I always have. But there just comes a time in every person's life when you gotta try and make it on your own, and not be living with mommy and daddy anymore.

It's definitely tough, because I hardly have any income, but where I live, the cost of living is significantly lower than what it is back home, so I am able to do it. Sometimes, I need some help, and I am lucky and blessed that my parents are willing and capable to help me out in a crunch.

The good news about all of this - because of what happened, and me being out where I am now, I have gotten an opportunity to go back to school and finish up my education, which I am taking full advantage of, and will be going back to school in September. Living out on my own, and working crappy jobs at restaurants and shoe stores gave me the motivation to finish school - the motivation I didn't have when I was living in the comfort of my parent's house.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

So yea the moment I've been preparing for - he wants to be my Facebook friend now.

 

[Holiday]

So yea the moment I've been preparing for - he wants to be my Facebook friend now.

It just. Got. SERIOUS.

 

[Darthphere]

****, if he starts following you on Twitter too, you're ****ed.

 

[Lasirius]

Make sure to tell them what they did was wrong and stay in touch through facebook like others said, if you decide to make amends and become friends again with them then demand your money back.

 

[The Spawn]

Nell2ThaIzzay


#1: Change your location

#2: Dude...what was the $2k from? Sorry if I missed you explaining that.

#3: He's prob just like everyone else on Facebook...Friends You May Know...oh, I know them...let's add to my roster of friends.

If you get serious on him with the $$$ talk, he'll probably just ignore you.

I however, would wall of text that ******* and if he doesn't reply (which you should mention in the wall of text), just let him know that makes him even less of a man.

Where do they live, and where do you live?

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

It just. Got. SERIOUS.

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[Star]

I'd tell them that it's nice that they sent the message, and that you're willing to act like an adult about it- but that you'll never consider them friends again.

 

[Ahura Mazda]

Send a message asking for your $400 back. And then state you can talk about freindship again.

Of course, this disregards facebook which is absolute nonsense and a freind trequest in there is paramount to nothing.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Send a message asking for your $400 back. And then state you can talk about freindship again.

Of course, this disregards facebook which is absolute nonsense and a freind trequest in there is paramount to nothing.

How about when the girl now gets ahold of you, says that she has been thinking a lot about what happened, how things got out of hand, and that she apologizes for the things that happened because you are a good friend that she has lost, and now she wants to be friends again, and wants you to call her?

 

[The Guard]

Why are you asking people how much you should care about these people?

It's up to you. Completely and totally up to you. You either want this person in your life, and are willing to forgive them for what they did and let bygones be bygones, or you don't, and you aren't. Or some combination of the two.

 

[Nell2ThaIzzay]

Why are you asking people how much you should care about these people?

It's up to you. Completely and totally up to you. You either want this person in your life, and are willing to forgive them for what they did and let bygones be bygones, or you don't, and you aren't. Or some combination of the two.

I'm not really so much asking for advice as I am just venting on a situation that's rather shocking and unexpected to me.

For the record, I am about some combination of the two.

I have already dealt with the situation as I best saw fit. I don't post asking for advice, rather to just talk about a particular experience. Conversation, ya know? Isn't that the point of message boards?

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

I got a letter from an ex recently-some weird ass letter, but I get one every year from her, asking me to reply, which I never do. This time though, I will(by mail, **** her letter) and I'll keep it very cool. I'm not going to ask her how she is or keep a conversation up, I'm just saying, I'm doing good, hope you are too, I'm busy with this that and the other, talk to you soon, blah, blah and so on. Short and uninteresting.

 

[Go Web Go!]

I know a good majority of you probably have a Facebook account. Most of you probably also have that annoying friend that constantly changes their status or plays those annoying games like Mafia Wars, or in this case FARMVILLE, that show up in your news feed and takes up a good chunk of your home page.

"Yay! I can buy a barn now!"

*****, I don't care. You're in your 40's. Don't you have grown-up **** to do?

I had another friend who sent out updates a few times a day, begging for someone to give her a goat. Whatever that means. Point is...*****! You're a single parent with 2 kids under the age of 3! There shouldn't be enough time in the day for a damn goat!

It took me long enough, but I blocked any notifications of these games. No more clutter on my homepage and no more pent up rage...until today.

I get a text message from a girl who I used to be pretty close to. Rarely ever talk at this point, but still friends.

"Hey, can you get on Facebook from work?"

I explain that I can. I'm expecting a "Sign on so we can chat" kinda message, but no, not quite. This is what I get:

"Ah, ok. Just asking. I need someone to check my farm on Farmville. I think my strawberries may have died."



This is coming from a 25 year old female. Really? I mean REALLY?! It's that serious?

My response: **** you and your damn farm!

Fin.

 

[SuperFerret]

I agree that it's silly for a 25 year old to be wasting time growing virtual strawberries.

Artichokes are where the money's at.

 

[chaseter]

Wut???

 

[Drizzle]

Amen to that. Farmville, Mafia Wars, and all those stupid werewolf and vampire apps on Facebook are pointless.

 

[Go Web Go!]

Wut???

Go away. I don't want to be your friend.

 

[chaseter]

I don't even get on mah facebook or myspace. Any time I get on, because it sends me update emails, I just decline everything.

 

[Nirvana]

My mom is constantly updating her Farmville. :facepalm

 

[Immortalfire]

My mom is all about Farmville

 

[Majic Walrus]

I delete any friend on any network that tries to get me to play games.

I also have no friends.

 

[Go Web Go!]

My mom is constantly updating her Farmville. :facepalm

My mom is all about Farmville

Not much worse than a parent who's on Facebook and then goes and does THAT. I mean, ****, my mom and all my aunts that are roughly in the same age group have Facebook pages but none of them are involved in any of those nonsensical games.