The girl i wanted to ask out. is throwing her life away.

[FaT_tONle]

In all seriousness though Ice-Man... if that's the life she wants let her have it... too quote a favorite character of mine... "That's what life is all about, eating, drinking, ****ing, sucking, snorting... that's what life is all about..." the tribute to Al Pacino last night had me thinking about that quote... gotto love that movie.

 

[Cobblepot]

You really gotta take care of yourself in this situation, really just let it go. It might be hard, but if she's not listening your not going to help her.

 

[Mee]

Yeah, I mean if you're saying you care about her, and then you're posting her real first name on the internet for thousands of people to see, without clearing it with her, I doubt your motives and the veracity of your claims about "caring" about her so much.

Now if anyone meets a drugged up tramp in New York who has a geeky friend who likes comicbooks, named "Tiffany", they know all about her personal life.

Did you not see her pic before he took it down? "Tiff" is kinda purty.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Yeah, I mean if you're saying you care about her, and then you're posting her real first name on the internet for thousands of people to see, without clearing it with her, I doubt your motives and the veracity of your claims about "caring" about her so much.

Just wait, he'll soon be posting her picture, happened yesterday, said he wouldn't give out any names of the people involved with his problem of the day, less than 12 hours later, he was posting pictures.

Hey Ice-man, show us a pic, knowing what she looks like might help us make a decision whether she's worth saving or not.

 

[huskerwebhead]

I echo everything that previous posters have been saying. You need to step away from this situation. YOU cannot make her want to get better...SHE has to make that choice. No amount of prodding or nagging from you is going to make that happen. Period.

This girl needs to hit rock bottom...and right now your preventing that. You provide a sort of safety net for her...and she's using you...it for that reason. I'm sure it won't be long till she asks for money, a place to stay, etc. And you'll give it to her...cause you want to "be there for her." All the while YOU are suffering the emotional stress of watching her throw her life away. So now instead of just her suffering...you are too.

Sometimes doing the right thing for someone means not "being there." Ever watch "Intervention." The last resort for these people are to step out of those people's lives. Show them that continuing on this path means they lose a place to stay, money, and most of all...you.

For your own well being, you need to step away from the situation or she'll take you down with her.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

Did you not see her pic before he took it down? "Tiff" is kinda purty.

Wait, I missed the pic?!?! Dammit!

 

[Ice-man]

Did you not see her pic before he took it down? "Tiff" is kinda purty.

Tiff isand the girl in the pic are two different people, tiff is the girl i like, girl in pic likes me.

and to whilliam there are atleast 1,000+ people living in this state alone with the name tiffany.

 

[Erzengel]

Once you accept the following, you can move on....

She has no parental guidance in her life at this point in time, telling her what to do, so YOU telling her what she should do basically falls on deaf ears.

Secondly, to her, she's having fun, doing drugs and drinking and she sees nothing wrong with it and you telling her it's wrong/bad contradicts how she feels about it.

Lastly, stop trying to save her. She neither wants it or feels like she needs to be.

 

[Showtime]

so true, but weather shell hate me or not, il be there for her.

I just think it's going to turn out messy for you, and whose going to be the one to help you out? It won't be her.

 

[Carcharodon]

Just wait, he'll soon be posting her picture, happened yesterday, said he wouldn't give out any names of the people involved with his problem of the day, less than 12 hours later, he was posting pictures.

Hey Ice-man, show us a pic, knowing what she looks like might help us make a decision whether she's worth saving or not.

It would be a problem...if indeed she was a real person. For all we know it's an excuse to make another thread, like the time he said his parents were involved in the mafia.

 

[Ice-man]

Once you accept the following, you can move on....

She has no parental guidance in her life at this point in time, telling her what to do, so YOU telling her what she should do basically falls on deaf ears.

Secondly, to her, she's having fun, doing drugs and drinking and she sees nothing wrong with it and you telling her it's wrong/bad contradicts how she feels about it.

Lastly, stop trying to save her. She neither wants it or feels like she needs to be.

its not that i dont trust her, i dont trust the people she hangs out with, ive heard storys about some of these guys...

 

[Erzengel]

Like the time Ice-Man made a thread and said Michael Jackson used his bathroom and then changed it and said his sister did.

 

[Boom]

It's situations like this that make me glad I'm not a teenager anymore.

 

[Kmack]

Regardless of what people in this thread are saying, if you truly love her, do NOT give up on her. You're love interest o) kinda reminds me of my friend I care for who's doing almost the exact same thing. Keep pushing her in the right direction, or at least try. It is very important that she knows she has a friend to turn to. And pray for her. Ultimately, it is up to her if she wants to change or not, but that change will be more likely if she knows she has someone to turn to...or whatever.

 

[Erzengel]

its not that i dont trust her, i dont trust the people she hangs out with, ive heard storys about some of these guys...

Seriously where the f'k in my post did I say anything about trust?

 

[Ice-man]

It would be a problem...if indeed she was a real person. For all we know it's an excuse to make another thread, like the time he said his parents were involved in the mafia.

yea i make these things up cuz im bored, im not heart broken or confused or anything of that sort, im just laughing it up at this fake situation with my mafia friends and family.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I just think it's going to turn out messy for you, and whose going to be the one to help you out? It won't be her.

We'll be here to help Ice-man out when things turn messy, I think we did a pretty good job helping him out a month ago when his dad was getting arrested.

 

[Carcharodon]

yea i make these things up cuz im bored, im not heart broken or confused or anything of that sort, im just laughing it up at this fake sitchuation with my mafia friends.

Exactly. Laugh it up, Mr. Soprano!

 

[Ice-man]

Seriously where the f'k in my post did I say anything about trust?

yea i know but i had to say that just incase anyone was thinking it.

 

[Ice-man]

We'll be here to help Ice-man out when things turn messy, I think we did a pretty good job helping him out a month ago when his dad was getting arrested.

yea thanks for that btw ppl.


also hes still here for the time being...

 

[Ice-man]

Regardless of what people in this thread are saying, if you truly love her, do NOT give up on her. You're love interest o) kinda reminds me of my friend I care for who's doing almost the exact same thing. Keep pushing her in the right direction, or at least try. It is very important that she knows she has a friend to turn to. And pray for her. Ultimately, it is up to her if she wants to change or not, but that change will be more likely if she knows she has someone to turn to...or whatever.

zomg thank you, one of the best responses ive gotten, never give up.

 

[Erzengel]

Regardless of what people in this thread are saying, if you truly love her, do NOT give up on her. You're love interest o) kinda reminds me of my friend I care for who's doing almost the exact same thing. Keep pushing her in the right direction, or at least try. It is very important that she knows she has a friend to turn to. And pray for her. Ultimately, it is up to her if she wants to change or not, but that change will be more likely if she knows she has someone to turn to...or whatever.

Your intentions are noble Kmack however, if this girl feels like she's not doing anything wrong or harmful to herself, him "being there" or "pushing her in the right direction" isn't going to do much to disuade her from her destructive habits.

I know you would want to be there for someone you absolutely care about or even love, but you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.

 

[Ice-man]

Like the time Ice-Man made a thread and said Michael Jackson used his bathroom and then changed it and said his sister did.

that was in a movie.... i belive the goonies?

 

[Erzengel]

zomg thank you, one of the best responses ive gotten, never give up.

It's one of the best responses because it agrees with you reasoning. Of course 99% of everyone else is just wrong and are not talking from their own personal experience.

 

[Ice-man]

Your intentions are noble Kmack however, if this girl feels like she's not doing anything wrong or harmful to herself, him "being there" or "pushing her in the right direction" isn't going to do much to disuade her from her destructive habits.

I know you would want to be there for someone you absolutely care about or even love, but you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.

she knows what shes doing is bad, wrong and harmful, all she has to do is look at her mom and shell see what she can turn into. she tells me how much she wont be like her, yet i see it more and more evry time i see her.