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[ComicChick]

I might buy a car with my tax return!!!

so excited

 

[NotAHenchwench]

Oooo!!! What kind what kind!!

 

[ComicChick]

i can show you!

This is her:

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

Love it! Hope it works out for you CC.

 

[E-Man]

I can't help but think of that pot hole skit you did now CC. Now every time I hear car and your name put together, I'll be thinking about that. lol

 

[Darthphere]

For the record, CC is violating the paragraph parameters set by this thread. One sentence posts should be directed to the lounge.

Anyway, I have something serious I want to get off my chest. I'm the youngest of 3 kids and the only boy. I have two older sisters who are 28 and 27. So I never really got the experience of going to school together and generally doing all the things siblings close to each other's age do. This forced me (funny way to put it) to become more social and make friends and hang out with people my age. While my sisters never really did that, they always had each other. However, the younger older sister and I have always been pretty close, a lot closer than my oldest sister. This has caused a lot of friction and anger towards each other. The thing is, it's not that I don't love her, but it's a lot easier to be myself around my other sister. I can tell penis jokes and burp and do guy stuff around her and she won't mind, while if I did that around my oldest sister, that would be the start of World War III. We clash a lot and it's getting to the point where I'm starting to think maybe I shouldn't even bother. It will make my life a lot easier to not have to deal with that on a daily basis. I really don't know if that's a good idea or not and I don't know how it would affect my relationship with my other sister. I really try not to show "favorites" but I like hanging out with her. She watches me play Modern Warfare 2 and cheers me on and makes fun of me when I suck. I try to include my other sister when we're hanging out in my room or something but she's like "Nah, I'll go to my room." So it's not like I'm not trying but then I over hear her complaining about the fact that I don't hang out with her. This infuriates me, a lot. My other sister has my back but she has to deal with my oldest sister a lot more than I do so she's toeing the line I guess. I don't know why I posted this, but it's something I've been dealing with for a long, long time. And everytime I talk to my parents about it they just ask me "Why do you hate your sister?" and that's not even the case so that starts another fight. I don't wish I was an only child or anything but maybe if my parents gave me a brother this would never happen LOL!

 

[Darthphere]

So odd. I knew I posted here but it shows E-Man as the last post.

 

[TheZink]

There's so much going on in my life right now. I figured this might be a good spot to vent, get some insight and hopefully laugh at most of my situations. I'll start my first post with that has been bothering the most lately.

I am the oldest of 3 children. I will be 26 this year, my sister, Rachel, will be 21 in Sept and my brother, Josh will be 19 late this month. Since my brother was born he and I shared a bedroom until I moved out at 18. We were extremely close during those times. Yes we fought often but nothing ever came to blows, mostly because of me being so much larger (my dad threatened me if I were to ever lay a hand on my brother...).

After I moved out we were still pretty close. I was over at family's house +4 days a week so the only thing that changed was were I slept. We'd go catch movies together, I'd come over and play video games with him, all that fun stuff. Then he hit 16 and needed a car. I had just gotten a great job with a substantial raise and was still driving my 1996 Subaru Impreza. Knowing that I'd end up getting a new car in the next year, I broke down and GAVE, not sold but gave, Josh the Impreza and went out and bought my new car.

Josh having this new car and ability to drive completely changed him. He got a job working at a local steakhouse and worked as many hours as possible. He formed a group of friends from his coworkers and would hang out with them till all hours of the morning. I was happy for him to finally be coming out of his shell, because before then he was a bit of an introvert almost socially awkward. Then he started to get cocky, and even disrespectful. I blame this mostly on my father getting soft in his older years. Raising me, my father still had his Airforce mentality and as such I was brought up with an extremely strict set of rules. By the time my parents got to my brother and sister in their teenage years, they just didn't care as much.

So my brother starts hanging out later and later. Getting into some crowds that might be less than favorable, and starts snapping back and yelling at my parents. I try to stay out of the picture since it is not my job to raise him, but I tell my parents my disapproval and ask "Why the hell are you letting him get away with this?" He never gets involved in gangs, drugs or heavy drinking, its just a complete change in personality that I'd never thought to see. I get less and less phone calls from him. I see him less and less at the house or any family outings.

This behavior continues and comes to a head last fourth of July. He has just graduated from high school and went to some friends place to do fireworks and hang out. The next day I see photos of him drinking longnecks posted all over facebook by who I was guessing must be his new girlfriend. I sent him a message saying I dissaproved of the drinking, and if he didn't want Mom to see the pictures or find out, I'd have them removed (our mother is on facebook).

His reply:"it was 4th of july and it was a beer and if i have to tell mom that i will"

Remember, he has just turned 18 a few months before this and is still living with my parents, and probably drove home that night. I didn't want to be a *****e and "tattle" on my little brother for drinking underage since I was guilty of it myself, but his attitude about it really pissed me off. So I called my mother and informed of such. She checked the pictures herself and had a talk with him. Josh's basic reply is that he "is a man, and it was only a few beers, was a holiday and can do what he wants" Do my parents come down on him? Do the discipline him? No. They have a talking to him and it has no affect.

Now we come to the fun part of the story. Josh started dating this girl named Timberlin. She's a cute girl with a huge set of...well you get the idea. She also still in highschool when the met (homeschooled). It becomes quite obvious the two of them are having sex. This doesn't bother me one bit because I was quite the hound at his age as well. If it walked it was fair game. Having this girl now, he becomes more and more distant from the family and focuses more on her, and....her family. Her stepfather fills my brother's head with grandeur of the Air Force and how easy and great and how much money he can make.

And life continues that way for the rest of last year. He goes and spends time with what appears to be a rather unstable family. The mother is neurotic and allows her 16 y/o daughter to share a bed with an 18 y/o boy in her house. The stepfather is only a few years older than me and acts like a *****e, but doesn't care since he is going over to Afghanistan for a year.

Which brings us to this week. After knowing Timberlin for a mere 6 months, and only being 18, my brother is getting married on Friday at a local Justice of the Peace. Furthermore, he leaves February 8th for basic training in the Air Force. He will be gone for the birth of my first born son (which we've known about for quite sometime before he decided to go off). When he gets married they will have to live in her mother's appartment until he goes to basic, afterwhich it will just be Timberlin living with her mother.

I have had no qualms with my brother joining the airforce (except the timing sucks). I do think he might be wasting some potential because he is extremely intelligent. He coasted through high with As and Bs without every cracking a book. He could be anything he wanted, but he just doesn't want to try.

Furthermore, after the July 4th incident he rarely speaks to me. I have to find out through my parents or facebook what is going on with him. I didn't even know he was getting married this week until 2 weeks ago.

I feel that after he is married and goes off to the Air Force, I'll hardly hear from him again

 

[mrvlknight21]

I might buy a car with my tax return!!!

so excited

WTF? Paid in full just from taxes??

 

[katie_girl09]

CC I thought you didn't have a license.

 

[knowsbleed]

I feel that after he is married and goes off to the Air Force, I'll hardly hear from him again

I see many parallels with my life in your story. Except my younger brother turned out alright and is living a good life.

I hope that the Air Force will instill some discipline in him. It could be good or bad. If he does get a sense of discipline, then his life will be a good one in the Air Force. If he rebels (the AF is STILL the military after all) he will be punished and could potentially get into serious trouble. The military does not play with underage drinking and DUIs ruin lives in the AF.

But you are right... you will eventually lose contact because the military is going to send him where they need him.

As far as getting married... he is so young. He is young and she is younger... it will be hard. I hope they hold off on having a child because I've seen so too many young married couples in the AF with babies... and many of them have a rough life. Babies having babies... they should hold off and get to know each other as husband and wife before they assume the roles of father and mother.

Just some info you might want to relay. I don't know how open your lines of communication are with your brother... but obviously you still love him very much and miss him. I can relate.

 

[TheZink]

I hope that the Air Force will instill some discipline in him. It could be good or bad. If he does get a sense of discipline, then his life will be a good one in the Air Force. If he rebels (the AF is STILL the military after all) he will be punished and could potentially get into serious trouble. The military does not play with underage drinking and DUIs ruin lives in the AF.

I do too. I think it might be the best thing for him and give him a sense of purpose. I've never been against him going. I just hate that he won't be here for me and my family when my son is born, but that is just me being selfish.

But you are right... you will eventually lose contact because the military is going to send him where they need him.

As far as getting married... he is so young. He is young and she is younger... it will be hard. I hope they hold off on having a child because I've seen so too many young married couples in the AF with babies... and many of them have a rough life. Babies having babies... they should hold off and get to know each other as husband and wife before they assume the roles of father and mother.

Just some info you might want to relay. I don't know how open your lines of communication are with your brother... but obviously you still love him very much and miss him. I can relate.

My parents have tried talking to him about it (or so they tell me). He is determined to live his own life and to make his own mistakes. I can respect him for that, but he seems so damn reckless and rash in his decisions. I can only hope that it works out for him in the end.

Thanks for the reply knowsbleed.

 

[knowsbleed]

Thanks for the reply knowsbleed.

No problem. Hope things work out for your brother. I'll PM you my paypal address for the advice fees.

 

[Darthphere]

My parents just bought my sister a laptop. How does this make me feel? Well, I'm not happy about it. And not in the jealous type of way. It just makes me feel like she always gets preferential treatment. I've always bought my own stuff and I think I enjoy it even more for it. I wanted an iPod? I went out worked my ass off, saved money and bought it. My sister? She got one for her birthday. I wanted a laptop? I went out, worked my ass off and bought it. My sister? Got one for her birthday. She's older than me, and makes more money than me. Dare I say, triple what I make. So that's the reason it bothers me the most. She doesn't need someone to buy her all this stuff. She goes on trips and cruises every year, I've been saving up since last year to maybe, possibly go to London in 2011-2012. It's ******** IMO but what can I say.

 

[knowsbleed]

You can call your parents out perhaps? That's what you could say?

 

[Darthphere]

You can call your parents out perhaps? That's what you could say?

I have and they say to stop being selfish and if I wanted that stuff I could just ask for it. The thing is, my family isn't raking in the dough. So I like to think that I'm being considerate not asking for all these expensive high end items and just saving up and buying them myself. Like the $600 HD TV I bought. Sure it was on a credit card but I'm paying that ***** off. Or my $400 Xbox360 when it came out etc. I should also reveal, they just got her a $400 bed for christmas. I mean I don't want to be judgmental about my own sister but she should really say no or know better IMO.

 

[katie_girl09]

I have and they say to stop being selfish and if I wanted that stuff I could just ask for it. The thing is, my family isn't raking in the dough. So I like to think that I'm being considerate not asking for all these expensive high end items and just saving up and buying them myself. Like the $600 HD TV I bought. Sure it was on a credit card but I'm paying that ***** off. Or my $400 Xbox360 when it came out etc. I should also reveal, they just got her a $400 bed for christmas. I mean I don't want to be judgmental about my own sister but she should really say no or know better IMO.

Does she ask for these things that she's getting? Maybe you should take their advice and start asking if you want something. You might be surprised.

 

[TheZink]

No problem. Hope things work out for your brother. I'll PM you my paypal address for the advice fees.

Now I have to decide if I should try to make his wedding or not.

He is getting married this Friday at the courthouse. It will not be a big ceremony and will probably last all of 10 minutes. There is nothing special about this. I honestly don't like the marriage and can't say I condone it, but I feel if I don't go I will likely push him even further away than he is. He puts me in a rough spot by having it a 3:00 in the afternoon on a day I work. I could make the time up, but if he actually planned ahead and asked people he could have done this at a more convenient time for everyone

There are having a "dinner" afterwords. Both Josh and his fiance work(ed) at Outback...and sure enough the dinner will be there too. Talk about fancy dining.

 

[TheZink]

I have and they say to stop being selfish and if I wanted that stuff I could just ask for it. The thing is, my family isn't raking in the dough. So I like to think that I'm being considerate not asking for all these expensive high end items and just saving up and buying them myself. Like the $600 HD TV I bought. Sure it was on a credit card but I'm paying that ***** off. Or my $400 Xbox360 when it came out etc. I should also reveal, they just got her a $400 bed for christmas. I mean I don't want to be judgmental about my own sister but she should really say no or know better IMO.

I can understand where you are coming from Darth. I worked my ass off through highschool and college to get anything I wanted. My younger brother and sister were handed most anything they wanted that I had to work for.

Your situation is a bit different so I don't know much on what to do. You can take solace in the fact you earned your stuff and will appreciate it more than your sister.

 

[T'Jai]

My parents just bought my sister a laptop. How does this make me feel? Well, I'm not happy about it. And not in the jealous type of way. It just makes me feel like she always gets preferential treatment. I've always bought my own stuff and I think I enjoy it even more for it. I wanted an iPod? I went out worked my ass off, saved money and bought it. My sister? She got one for her birthday. I wanted a laptop? I went out, worked my ass off and bought it. My sister? Got one for her birthday. She's older than me, and makes more money than me. Dare I say, triple what I make. So that's the reason it bothers me the most. She doesn't need someone to buy her all this stuff. She goes on trips and cruises every year, I've been saving up since last year to maybe, possibly go to London in 2011-2012. It's ******** IMO but what can I say.

They may have that old school "Men must do for themselves" attitude. Have you always been treated differently than both your sisters or does the one get all the preferential treatment?

 

[Darthphere]

Does she ask for these things that she's getting? Maybe you should take their advice and start asking if you want something. You might be surprised.

Yeah she does. But really, like I said, she should know better IMO. But I'm sensing a double standard because I remember asking for a Wii and I never got one.

They may have that old school "Men must do for themselves" attitude. Have you always been treated differently than both your sisters or does the one get all the preferential treatment?

She's the first born so there's always going to be a bit of that while me the youngest one aka "baby" I get away with a lot more stuff.

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

The little old lady that lives in the lower level (of the brownstone I want to buy) is not giving up her place! My agent and I offered her a serious sum of money to relocate so I can convert her area and own all 4 floors but she's like, "No."

No? NO!!?!?!?!

WTF.

 

[T'Jai]

The little old lady that lives in the lower level (of the brownstone I want to buy) is not giving up her place! My agent and I offered her a serious sum of money to relocate so I can convert her area and own all 4 floors but she's like, "No."

No? NO!!?!?!?!

WTF.

Hang in there bro the day has been rough for Many...

 

[Darthphere]

The little old lady that lives in the lower level (of the brownstone I want to buy) is not giving up her place! My agent and I offered her a serious sum of money to relocate so I can convert her area and own all 4 floors but she's like, "No."

No? NO!!?!?!?!

WTF.

As an expert negotiator, this is what you should say:

"Look old ass *****, you gonna die soon anyway take the cash and go on a ****ing cruise before you kick the bucket!"

 

[Lightning Strykez!]

As an expert negotiator, this is what you should say:

"Look old ass *****, you gonna die soon anyway take the cash and go on a ****ing cruise before you kick the bucket!"

I know! It was the first time in my life that I actually wished death on someone.

[BLACKOUT]Natural death obviously. [/BLACKOUT]