The Parenting Thread

[Anita18]

I already know that that's not happening. My fiance posted some of the 3D ultrasound pictures on facebook and she captioned one of them: "she is the cutest baby ever!" And you know what? I agree!t:

Not so cute when said daughter is 30.

But I mean, focus on how smart and capable she is, even at an early age. That's something where little girls and little boys are treated SO differently, and I do think it affects them as they get older. I mean, once you've put yourself into the habit of calling them cute, it's hard to knock it off when they become toddlers and start to internalize stuff.

 

[moviedoors]

Not so cute when said daughter is 30.

But I mean, focus on how smart and capable she is, even at an early age. That's something where little girls and little boys are treated SO differently, and I do think it affects them as they get older. I mean, once you've put yourself into the habit of calling them cute, it's hard to knock it off when they become toddlers and start to internalize stuff.

You know, now that I think about it, I do want her to internalize that she's cute. I had body image issues up thru my late teens (and so did her mother). I thought I was an unattractive person. In reality though, I was well liked, and if I'd had better self esteem in high school I could've gotten laid so much. Oh. On second thought, maybe I don't want her internalizing that!

And don't worry, the one thing I know I'm going to push hard on is her reading and writing skills. I want to instill in her a respect for intelligence.

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Where are all the mothers! I'd love to hear your perspectives. Were you as crazy as my fiance'?t:

 

[Anita18]

You know, now that I think about it, I do want her to internalize that she's cute. I had body image issues up thru my late teens (and so did her mother). I thought I was an unattractive person. In reality though, I was well liked, and if I'd had better self esteem in high school I could've gotten laid so much. Oh. On second thought, maybe I don't want her internalizing that!

I went through that too. It's typical teenage angst.

It will make a difference in whether she thinks badly of her body in her 20s, 30s, and beyond though. Even my extremely smart friends have disordered eating because of how their parents criticized their bodies. Either they were never skinny enough, or they were cute as teens/kids and not as adults.

LOL, given the normal makeup of SHH, being female is rare enough, and I can't think of a single female poster who's also a mom. Not a single one.

 

[Lily Adler]

 

[C. Lee]

Uh oh....I had two croissants for breakfast this morning, without the dried fruit. Sure hope teacher Karen doesn't come after me.

 

[Lily Adler]

 

[C. Lee]

That really pisses me off. They shouldn't have to put up with that crap.

 

[Lily Adler]

 

[Lily Adler]

 

[squeekness]

You're never too old for a birthday party.

 

[Babillygunn]

You're never too old for a birthday party.

I never had a birthday party until I was 20, when my sister in law baked me my first birthday cake.

 

[squeekness]

I never had a birthday party until I was 20, when my sister in law baked me my first birthday cake.

That's borderline abuse.

 

[Babillygunn]

That's borderline abuse.

Not really. It just wasn’t something my family did. Christmas was a big deal. But birthdays weren’t. It made the few occasions where you were acknowledged feel really special. I remember my 16th birthday because my mom and dad picked me up from Cris’s country practice and took me out and I got a steak dinner. That was huge. But it was the closest thing that I ever got for a birthday party

 

[Lily Adler]

Not really. It just wasn’t something my family did. Christmas was a big deal. But birthdays weren’t. It made the few occasions where you were acknowledged feel really special. I remember my 16th birthday because my mom and dad picked me up from Cris’s country practice and took me out and I got a steak dinner. That was huge. But it was the closest thing that I ever got for a birthday party

I always wanted to do longevity noodles when I had a kid for their birthday.

 

[Babillygunn]

I always wanted to do longevity noodles when I had a kid for their birthday.

My son had vermicelli noodles and fish sauce for his birthday.

But of course my son is Vietnamese.

 

[squeekness]

My son had vermicelli noodles and fish sauce for his birthday.
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But of course my son is Vietnamese.

That looks yummy.

 

[Babillygunn]

That looks yummy.

I love to make Vietnamese food. Which is fortunate, because I also love to eat it!