The Virginity Question

[Darthphere]

I only remember 2 things about my first time: it wasn't enjoyable and Ja Rule was playing on the radio.

Hey, every thug needs a lady.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

S'murdaaaaaaaaa

 

[Hound55]

I'm 17 & I'm a virgin. I don't feel pressured or anything, but mainly because I don't really give a **** about stuff like that -- I have friends who let all of this "pressure" get to them. Guess it just affects everyone differently. Actually, many people think I'm a bit of a ****e because I hang out with guys most of the time (note that we're on a comic book forum here ), but I don't really bother correcting them because I often don't care about them. Only the people I do care about know & believe that I'm "still" a virgin.

I've definitely had ample opportunities to lose it, but I just didn't go for it. I'm not really religious at all, and I don't necessarily believe waiting till marriage (ugh, marriage). I think a reason why is because people are ****ing stupid and the less time I spend with them, the better -- especially in regards to sex. I've seen friends/acquaintances get really hurt and upset over things like this and I take that in and decide what I want to do taking a variety of things into account.

Actually, I honestly think another huge reason why I haven't yet is because I don't want to get older/grow up. I like to think I'm fairly mature for my age, but I don't like it very much. I still cling to eating sugary cereals & watching Saturday morning cartoons and playing with Spiderman pez dispensers and having rainbow bed sheets/blankets. It's silly, but to me having sex would make me mentally feel like I'm growing up. I've been told that you literally feel no differently the next day (and I don't expect to), but my mind tends to twist things around and that's just what I think of it so far. Besides, I'd rather make love than have sex, but you know... practice makes perfect.

And many people my age or even a bit older don't know how to communicate properly with a sexual partner yet, so if I was gonna get with a guy right now sex would ultimately be just for his horn-dog-ness because he mostly likely wouldn't understand how to please a woman at this time in his life.

So, yeah, wow, where was I going with this again? Virgin, don't really receive any pressure about it or have people treat me any differently (actually some kids my age look up to me because of it), & I am not "waiting" for anything but myself.

Wow. That's a hell of a lot of insight and maturity for a seventeen year old.

Out of curiosity, why? Do you feel uncomfortable with embracing your sexual side? Do you not trust your friends enough to talk about intimate things? Do you think that this will ever change in the future?

In my case it's neither lack of comfort or trust in peers so much as I view there being an implied confidentiality in place. I doubt that will change in my case unless I come across information that makes it seem a foolish system to have.

I only remember 2 things about my first time: it wasn't enjoyable and Ja Rule was playing on the radio.

Connection or correlation..?

 

[B.A. Baracus]

Happened on friday

High Fivet:

 

[Watson]

Actually, I honestly think another huge reason why I haven't yet is because I don't want to get older/grow up. I like to think I'm fairly mature for my age, but I don't like it very much. I still cling to eating sugary cereals & watching Saturday morning cartoons and playing with Spiderman pez dispensers and having rainbow bed sheets/blankets.

mmmmm, sugary cereal after sex.

 

[Harls]

Wow. That's a hell of a lot of insight and maturity for a seventeen year old.

mmmmm, sugary cereal after sex.

Hahahah, I'll keep that in mind!

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I've only had sex when in a committed relationship. I really think some parents and most religious groups mess up sex, making it into something dirty, when it's not at all. You definitely need to be safe about it and be comfortable with who you're having it with. I definitely don't believe in no sex before marriage, I value marriage too much to roll the dice and find out afterwards if we're compatable in bed together. It's definitely not just "insert tab A into slot B", you can be great together, but horrible for each other in bed. Dating is all about making sure you're right for each other in every way, why wait until after getting married to find out if you're right for each other in bed?

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

My virginity was stolen from me. I wanted to keep it for someone that meant a lot to me, but I'll never have that chance. The worst part is, I don't know who stole it. I remember I was shopping and someone hit off me, then at that moment, I knew it was gone. I followed the person, but they got away. Someday I'll find it and give it to someone that means a lot to me.

 

[ComicChick]

He's more of a man than you'll ever be, and more of a woman than you'll ever get.

:rent:

 

[ComicChick]

Even with your girlfriends? You don't call them and say, "his penis was too big for my vagina. It hurt." or "It was too small. I didn't feel a thing." Isn't that regular gal chatter? Or has Sex and the City lied to me.

not all girls are like that

 

[E-Man]

My virginity was stolen from me. I wanted to keep it for someone that meant a lot to me, but I'll never have that chance. The worst part is, I don't know who stole it. I remember I was shopping and someone hit off me, then at that moment, I knew it was gone. I followed the person, but they got away. Someday I'll find it and give it to someone that means a lot to me.

I'll help you find the virginity napper. I once found Carmen Sandiego!

 

[Anubis]

But you do all talk about being constipated in public like it's nothing.

 

[Mace Dolex]

So you and your Dad probably had sex with the same girl?

Yep, but not in a threesome I mean that would be gross.

 

[Alex The Great]

Yep, but not in a threesome I mean that would be gross.

I wouldn't

 

[BillPardy]

High Fivet:

Let me run you through it with the use of emoticons.



Hope its clear.

 

[Alex The Great]

Let me run you through it with the use of emoticons.



Hope its clear.

No crying smiley

 

[BillPardy]

No crying smiley

Well I was asleep... honestly I just sort of assumed she was bowing to me.

 

[Alex The Great]

More like Walk of Shame

 

[piccolo]

That is extremely cool. I wish that more fathers did things such as in that scenario. (As opposed to my father, who when I was still a virgin and told my parents that I would like to start taking birth control pills as a precaution measure for the future, essentially told me that I was acting like a ****e.)

haha, if I was your dad I probably would have been pissed too

 

[Harls]

haha, if I was your dad I probably would have been pissed too

Why? So she could take precautions and/or deal with a lighter period? It's not like she was saying, "Hi, I'm going to have copious amounts of unprotected sex and would like to take birth control for this reason." I mean, I don't know her story or anything, but I can't see Pickles saying that.

Edit: I think you have to take birth control a few months before it actually starts kicking in & you're supposed to have sex anyways. I dunno though, I'm not on it.

 

[piccolo]

A persons Virginity is a funny old thing, Some men feel it's like a weight on their shoulders and would like to try and get rid of it at any chance they get. For some it actually has a stigma attached, the older you get with your virginity intact is often frowned upon by most.

Then theres the other side of the coin, some people wear purity rings, holding out for there first real sexual experience until they are married.

For me i lost mine with someone i loved at 21, but i did feel it was a burdon being that age and still a virgin. Though maybe if i did lose it earlier i'd have regretted it.

How did you feel about your virginity? was it something sacred? something special or something you just wanted to get rid of as soon as possible?

How do you view people that choose to save their virginity? or those that are still virgins at a later age?

Do you feel you lost your's at the right age? do you wish you waited, or maybe you feel you waited too long. Or maybe your still one. Discuss.

Virginity was a non-issue. Had no care in the world about the label, and whether I was a "virgin" or not. I just wanted to stick my johnson into a girl. That was the extent of my thinking about sex.

Afterward there was no "cool, i'm not a virgin anymore", just "more".

 

[WarriorDreamer]

I'm an 18 year old guy and a virgin. Yet I don't exactly feel like a vigrin since I know pretty much everything there is to know about sex, I guess that means sexually aware.

And I hope when the time comes, it just feels completely natural. I kinda know what it'll be like anyway. The 'first time' is way overhyped, the IMPORTANT thing is finding the special person and finding that special time to 'make love' to them, not screw their brains out.

I guess I'm a romantic at heart and believe in being a gentleman and waiting for sex. I'm not at-all pressuered by sex. Sex is pretty much everywhere on the net, you can get what you want in 5 seconds flat.

But actually having a girlfriend/ boyfriend you care about, that's all about love. Sex is only a WAY of showing you love someone.

 

[piccolo]

Why? So she could take precautions and/or deal with a lighter period? It's not like she was saying, "Hi, I'm going to have copious amounts of unprotected sex and would like to take birth control for this reason." I mean, I don't know her story or anything, but I can't see Pickles saying that.

That may not have been what she was saying, but as a dad, thats probably what I would hear.

Not likely i'd be all "great, my little girl is taking birth control, I can relax now knowing she won't get pregnant as she's getting railed by some horny *****e. oh, and plus I always thought her period wasn't light enough, so this is perfect".

 

[Lunar_Wolf]

I'll help you find the virginity napper. I once found Carmen Sandiego!

We can do it...Not in that way of course, as in we can ''do it'' as in find my virginity!

 

[Harls]

That may not have been what she was saying, but as a dad, thats probably what I would hear.

Not likely i'd be all "great, my little girl is taking birth control, I can relax now knowing she won't get pregnant as she's getting railed by some horny *****e. oh, and plus I always thought her period wasn't light enough, so this is perfect".

Yeah, I get that -- I'd be unsteady, too. I guess just the way your post was worded sounded odd to me. My apologies.

I still believe that society/parents in general should try and promote health and well-being instead of complete and utter abstinence, which more often than not leads to unsafe practices, lying/sneaking around, and a lack of general knowledge/common sense on the subject.