Used to be Best Friends?

[Ace of Knaves]

See now I'm not sure if you're just putting on a show for people here by trying to instigate more posts.

Agreed.

 

[CrashNburn]

I know what he was trying to do, but still he was a willing partner and he had 2 option, it wasn't my fault, or I'm not much of a friend.

read my last post. i think im done with this.

See now I'm not sure if you're just putting on a show for people here by trying to instigate more posts.

im starting to agree. either way, this was no good.

 

[Spider-Who?]

And I'm good with that. I agree that he had the right to be mad at me, but if you're going to be mad at me then STAY mad at me. Don't put on this front as if everything was ok, hang out and do everything else we did prior to the situation for a solid year after the fact and then disappear for months at a time until finally cutting ties (seemingly) 2 more years later.

Maybe he was trying to move on from the anger and stay friends, but ultimately realized that he couldnt? I guess my point is that his reaction is understandable, and IF his actions anger you, i think its more of a subconscious attempt by you to remove any blame and/or guilt. But thats just my thoughts...I could be completely wrong

 

[Spider-Who?]

alright, I know I'll get blasted for this.... my friend Eric, good firend, not best... was in a accident during our senior year.... he lost one of his legs, one arm, and part of his other hand....

his girlfriend was hot, and was always were flirty, but never did anything because she was dating Eric... well, she had some people over, but he couldn't come due to his injuries... well, a few cocktails later, I talked her into breaking up with him over the phone, so she cold have guilt free sex with me right after...

she did, we did... he found out later, haven't talked since....

holy CRAP dude...

 

[DX]

I was best friends with my neighbour for years and when I moved away we slowly started drifting apart.

I still see him around on occasion and am still OK with him though.

 

[PyroChamber]

With me, the friends I had were already tight knit when I came along. But they excepted me and everything and we were all cool; but then slowly everyone just drifted apart from one another and started doing different things until we all just kind of went our seperate ways and moved to different places.

Sometimes it's boredom that gets in the way; like when you hang out with people and you do the same thing over and over again. When I'd hang with them sometimes I'd wonder "damn aren't you all tried of doing the same thing all the time?" Let's go somewhere, hell let's get some women or something!

But these days, I work so much that I don't have time for friends.

 

[Casius--J]

wow some serious line crossin has been done by a couple of you guys. Not Good!

Anyways I'm going to give a quick example because I dont want to get too much into it.

I knew a guy, we were very close. Like family, he stayed around my house many times. My family helped him out when he money troubles you know.
Then he got a girlfriend......at first everything was normal but then he went a bit weird and constantly blowing me off and my cousins telling me " Something came up" after he received a phone call from her.
Fast forward to lets say a year, they are engaged and most of the time we spend together is with his fiance. I'm all set to be his best man at his wedding, we go out looking for suits and find some great ones.
Then out of the blue, I get an email THATS RIGHT AN E-MAIL!!! Telling me that myself and my family are no longer invited to the wedding, do not contact them about this as their decision is final signed HER and My friend.

So yeah thats more or less where it ended, I dont know what happened and I dont think I ever will. Both of our families go way back so now and then it comes up, but turns out they dont know what happened either and couldnt understand why we werent at the wedding.

We communicate now and then but he disappears, just recently I've found him on facebook and it seems circumstances have changed for him(not going into detail) but I suppose I can say we're kinda talking now???

 

[Erzengel]

A lot of you are more forgiving than most.

Casius, if my friend "allowed" that to happen, I would have wrote him off. And whatever circumstances happened, I would even given him the time of day. He made his bed.

Any guy or girl who makes you ostracize yourself from any friend you should seriously reconsider being with. But alas the siren song of the vaginal canal is sometimes an unconquerable foe.

 

[Casius--J]

A lot of you are more forgiving than most.

Casius, if my friend "allowed" that to happen, I would have wrote him off. And whatever circumstances happened, I would even given him the time of day. He made his bed.

Any guy or girl who makes you ostracize yourself from any friend you should seriously reconsider being with. But alas the siren song of the vaginal canal is sometimes an unconquerable foe.

Well I did more or less, I didnt pursue the issue anymore as to me it wasnt worth it. But like I said our familes go way back so not as easy as cutting someone out of your life completely.

Besides the odd email here and there is fine, cant say it will ever get back to the hanging out at each others houses though.

 

[Sarge 2.0]

Show up to his house, and scream, "CHARLIE MURPHAYYYY!!!!!" and give him a freakin superkick to the chest.

^This

Everybody has one of these stories. Mine is long and super serious, and it would kill everyone's mellow.

 

[Erzengel]

Now that I think about it, I am the reason why a few friends are no longer friends with my Erzette.

1. Friend 1 was in love with this POS guy who once tried to come on to Erzette years before I met her. Erzette said one thing, POS guy said another and she believed him. Suffice to say years later, I enter the picture and the friend is still hung up on him even though aside from f'ing they were not really ever official. Maybe the friend was jealous about our relationship or maybe because I called the POS, a POS to her face.

2. Friend 2, was a druggie who got digitally manipulated by her dealer in a seedy club in Newark. I thought it was best if they cut ties.

3. Friend 3, one of Erzette's best friends for years. Constantly told Erzette how they were best friends. Gets married, chooses another for maid of honor which is cool with Erzette because she didn't want the responsibility. But friend kept on saying how it should have been Erzette. I kinda put my 2 cents when we all were at dinner if she really wanted Erzette as MOH she should have said something. Then friend get's pregnant and chooses someone else to be godmother. This person was only recently back in her life after years of not talking. Reason, her mother made the decision. I really stressed the high importance of friendship on Erzette so maybe subconsciously she made the decision. It was both their faults, the friend for not treating Erzette like a friend should and also Erzette who never vocalized her feelings.

 

[ultrasuperduckman]

I had a bestfriend. We wrote comics together. Were in a band. Had movie ideas. It was Dante and Randal all the way.

We both shared an apartment. Well my girl left me and I was feeling bitter about life. I got drunk a few times (suprise!) and acted like an idiot. One night I come home and he had all his stuff packed saying he was moving out.

I told him that I understood WHY he wanted to movie but that he should understand that we both were going half in on the rent and that it was a week before it was due, and that he should stick it out for another month before he movies.

He didn't say much but, "Duuuuuuude," and "Maaaaaaaaan" and then left. Everytime I saw him afterwards I gave him **** about it. Not really in a mean way just as a "guy" thing to do. I mean when you make arrangments with someone to split everything down the middle, you don't move out a week before rent is due. Right?

Anyways, we stopped talking really. He and my old friends HEARD about some stupid things that happened in another city and I guess decided to call it quits. I tried to call them for two months and none of them (even my cousion) would not answer their phones. All because of some stuff that they heard about.

I don't really let it get to me these days. I got the hype

 

[PyroChamber]

Maybe it's just me, but after you have a falling out with friends do you ever sometimes question why you need friends in the first place? Like if this is what happens when you have friends then why even bother?

 

[ultrasuperduckman]

I don't look at it so much like that, as I have tended to make new friends since and care for them deeply.

But at the same time I can survive now with no one at all.

 

[BillyZaned]

This guy named Steve, I was friends with him at work... and then we started hanging out.. and he was cool at first.... I hung out with his friends, he hung out with mine.... then was all became a bigger group of friends (Jared was included in this)..... But, as time went on, Steve got a little annoying... constant lying about stuff... his constant spending of money just to show up other people... for instance, if I bought a new TV, he had to buy a bigger one... if I bought a car, he bought a new truck.... it was like this for awhile...

then later, everything became about him... he had to be the center of attention... if someone was getting attention from a girl at a bar, he would go and ridicule them infront of said girl.... he was a cock blocker basically....

needless to say, I stopped hanging with him after awhile, then... when I went of on Jared about the YEEEAAAAHHHH stuff, those two became really good friends... and still are....

 

[Erzengel]

Maybe it's just me, but after you have a falling out with friends do you ever sometimes question why you need friends in the first place? Like if this is what happens when you have friends then why even bother?

No. I understand your question but I use to be a believer in that people don't change but they really do as they get older.

I mean if you question why you need friends after a falling out, why get into a relationship after you have a bad breakup?

Most of us need friends, I think it's healthy. Sure sometimes things just don't work out between 2 people but that's how you weed some of them out.

 

[BillyZaned]

No. I understand your question but I use to be a believer in that people don't change but they really do as they get older.

I mean if you question why you need friends after a falling out, why get into a relationship after you have a bad breakup?

Most of us need friends, I think it's healthy. Sure sometimes things just don't work out between 2 people but that's how you weed some of them out.

friends, by my defenition... are like a good pair of jeans.... it can take a little bit to break them in... but as time goes on, you guys fit together perfectly.... but as time goes on, snags happen, and eventually, you have to get rid of them...

 

[enterthemadness]

alright, I know I'll get blasted for this.... my friend Eric, good firend, not best... was in a accident during our senior year.... he lost one of his legs, one arm, and part of his other hand....

his girlfriend was hot, and was always were flirty, but never did anything because she was dating Eric... well, she had some people over, but he couldn't come due to his injuries... well, a few cocktails later, I talked her into breaking up with him over the phone, so she cold have guilt free sex with me right after...

she did, we did... he found out later, haven't talked since....

Survey says!

Spoiler

******* OF THE CENTURY!

 

[BillyZaned]

Survey says!

Spoiler

******* OF THE CENTURY!

yeah, I know, I know.... young dumb and full of ***.... and I know it's not an excuse... dude was a cool guy, I shouldn't have done that to him.... but, it takes two to tango, and yes, me and her ended up dating a little bit that next summer, it didn't make up for the friendship I lost...

the girl, Kim, was really a hoe.... she went off to college, and we kept in touch... anytime she came back, we hooked up... i even went up there once, and that's when I found out she wasn't only hooking up with me, but she was known as the campus bike, everyone gets a ride.... she had slept with over 30 guys just there, in less then a year.... so, in a way, even though I screwed over Eric, it probably was for the best...

 

[enterthemadness]

yeah, I know, I know.... young dumb and full of ***.... and I know it's not an excuse... dude was a cool guy, I shouldn't have done that to him.... but, it takes two to tango, and yes, me and her ended up dating a little bit that next summer, it didn't make up for the friendship I lost...

the girl, Kim, was really a hoe.... she went off to college, and we kept in touch... anytime she came back, we hooked up... i even went up there once, and that's when I found out she wasn't only hooking up with me, but she was known as the campus bike, everyone gets a ride.... she had slept with over 30 guys just there, in less then a year.... so, in a way, even though I screwed over Eric, it probably was for the best...

And in the end, you take a great risk at a STD and she takes a great chance at catching HIV. Getting a STD is like getting candy at Halloween with a blade in it.

 

[BillyZaned]

And in the end, you take a great risk at a STD and she takes a great chance at catching HIV. Getting a STD is like getting candy at Halloween with a blade in it.

thats why after I found out about her past endevours, I stopped talking to her... she has tried messaging, even as recently as a year ago... but, I never had any interest

 

[enterthemadness]

thats why after I found out about her past endevours, I stopped talking to her... she has tried messaging, even as recently as a year ago... but, I never had any interest

You should have asked her to get tested for ****. Then when the results come back positive send this text.

well, been fun, but I gotta pull out of this.

 

[Casius--J]

yeah, I know, I know.... young dumb and full of ***.... and I know it's not an excuse... dude was a cool guy, I shouldn't have done that to him.... but, it takes two to tango, and yes, me and her ended up dating a little bit that next summer, it didn't make up for the friendship I lost...

the girl, Kim, was really a hoe.... she went off to college, and we kept in touch... anytime she came back, we hooked up... i even went up there once, and that's when I found out she wasn't only hooking up with me, but she was known as the campus bike, everyone gets a ride.... she had slept with over 30 guys just there, in less then a year.... so, in a way, even though I screwed over Eric, it probably was for the best...

30 guys in a year??? Thats a lot for lifetime, nevermind a year!!

 

[enterthemadness]

30 guys in a year??? Thats a lot for lifetime, nevermind a year!!

Guess you could say she's pretty popular.

 

[BillyZaned]

30 guys in a year??? Thats a lot for lifetime, nevermind a year!!

I've heard stuff about her since... I guess she's engaged now... to a guy with three kids.... she dropped out of college.... and I guess, she has her own spot at planned parenthood... I guess she has got multiple abortions.... ain't jokings, pretty sad