Weird end to a friendship

[KillerMcQueen]

I think at least a few of these anti-RockSP sentiments are actually film-ophiles or typesetters who secretly are disgusted with anyone who doesn't watch all the credits. Or they dream of being a 'director of photography' or know the 'gaff' or are cousins with the 'key grip'.

Hype-folk, don't be prejudiced. RockSP sounds like a typical 20-something dude interacting with a dude. He ain't going to play nice guy.

Or maybe some people think leaving a friend to walk home in the middle of the night over something as petty as film credits is a pretty horrible way to treat a friend, or anyone really, I would never seriously consider leaving one of my friends behind over something like that, I might joke about it if I'm in a bad mood, but I wouldn't actually do it.

 

[I Am The Knight]

Weird end to a "friendship".

 

[Mysteryman]

I was surprised some people actually stayed during the credits of Logan.

I have heard that some people are doing that and I am just baffled.
What are they waiting for, a pair of Adamantium claws to pierce through the dirt?

 

[RockSP]

Another "weird end of a friendship" story:

Years ago I worked part time at Toys R Us. Another guy started working there...let's call him "Nick". We became cool with each other even though we were very different people: I was in my early 20s, he was somewhere in his 30s. I don't drink alcohol or smoke weed, he did so with a passion. He was a really big bulls****er and class clown type who was constantly looking for attention and constantly hitting on our female coworkers, whereas I'm the lowkey type. But dude was hilarious and he seemed to like my sense of humor as well.

Anyway at that time TRU was remodeling lots of their stores around the country. The previous year I participated in a few of them and on one of those trips I'd met this cute girl named "Candy". Her major physical flaw was her teeth...I don't know the proper term for it, but both her top and bottom rows protruded out like someone had punched her in the teeth from inside her mouth, lol. There was mutual interest but in the end nothing really happened between us. Well the remodels were starting up again and this time Nick came along with me to do some of them. Candy was at the second one we went to.

I told Nick about my previous encounter with her. He decided he was going to "hit it". Unlike a year before Candy had a boyfriend this time. It obviously wasn't a serious relationship as she flirted nonstop with both of us, but mostly with Nick. He was the more exciting one between the two of us, I guess...plus he was "fresh meat".

So a couple of weeks into the remodel I had to leave early because I was starting a full time job. Nick stayed to finish that one and do another one. Eventually Nick comes back from the remodels, and a few months pass. I was still working at TRU part time but I didn't see him as much because my schedule changed due to my new job. One day we are both at work at the same time and Candy comes up in our conversation and I make a comment about her ****ed up teeth.

Nick: LOL! I didn't care about her teeth, I just wanted to f*** her.
Me: Oh, you got with her?
Nick : Uh..nah...um...that is...
Me: ???

For some reason he thought I would be upset that he had sex with her. It was very strange. I mean we're all adults. He had a girlfriend. Candy had a boyfriend. I was an innocent bystander in all of this, lol. Yes I was sexually attracted to her too but it's not like I was in love with her. So he didn't care about screwing around on his girl but for some reason wanted it to be a big deal that he bumped uglies with a girl that both of us were slightly interested in? I could see if she was my girlfriend, but she wasn't. Plus she lived hours away and I hadn't laid eyes on her since I left to start my new job.

So I basically had to break down to him what I just said up above but it's like he couldn't believe me. After that he was always weird/awkward at work and we never hung out anymore outside of work.

 

[DeadPresident]

It's starting to sound like you're just bad with people.

 

[RockSP]

LOL...not sure how that story can in any way be perceived as me being bad with people. But I'm sure you can pull up some statistics on it.

 

[DJ_KiDDvIcIOUs]

Me thinks I smell thread of the year? Alas, burning so bright so soon often leads one to forget how bright thou shined 11 months ago. The interwebs move to fast I say.....

/scene

 

[I Am The Knight]

 

[jaqua99]

Is this entire thread is just a massive troll attempt? Either that, or he's a guy who may have missed out on social norms. Because this doesn't come off as just stubbornness, his rationalizations seem very much like cognitive dissonance, even distorted.

Any chance he's just pulling a fast one? If he's not, I feel for the guy.

 

[Filmfan93]

In either case, RockSP is completely in the wrong here and it blows my mind how he can be so careless and deny any amount of responsibility for what happened, never mind the fact that he considers it a "weird" and even "funny"...says a lot about his maturity and level of self awareness. But it's obviously for the best; he saved that guy from having to deal with any more of his crap. Unbelievable. If you are driving, you have a responsibility to get people to and from the destination safely. Ditching someone who put their trust in you (in the middle of the night no less) is about one of the worst and most irresponsible things you can do as a driver; it doesn't matter the reason.

Agree 100% with this. And the fact that he doesn't even realize that what he did is morally wrong makes me think how many people are walking the streets out there, doing far, far worse things than what he did and believe they are in the right doing so?

 

[Boy Scout]

I wouldn't have left my friend, but I'd have been pissed if they'd insisted on staying when I, the driver, said multiple times that it was time to go. If someone else drives you somewhere, you're on their time. If you don't like it, drive yourself or catch a cab.

But yeah...I wouldn't have actually left my friend.

 

[XtremelyBaneful]

i wonder how things are going

 

[hopefuldreamer]

It's starting to sound like you're just bad with people.

This.

RockSP - these people are not your friends.

And I seriously doubt that your perspective of this situation is clear, based on your inability to see your own part in the previous event either.

Are you sure there was mutual interest at any stage between you and this girl? What makes you think that? Or is it possible it was always a one way thing, and that stung? Maybe causing the kind of resentment that would make you continue to put her down for her one physical flaw, both to 'Nick' and us and whoever else you've discussed this with.

Are you sure you reacted oh so totally fine when you found out you're co worker, who you think negatively of based on your description of him, sealed the deal with her where you couldn't? Are you sure there wasn't any awkwardness on your part that put 'Nick' off speaking to you again?

I'm dubious...

 

[RockSP]

^^LOL! Sorry dude. Trying to connect that last story with the OP because of your E-anger over my so called "inability to see my part" in the OP is just funny. It's not like these incidents happened back to back. One was years and years ago. It's like saying if you broke up with a girl when you were 15 and then you broke up with another girl when you were 28, you are bad with women.

You'd literally have to make stuff up (like you just did) to make that last story in any way about me. Not sure where you're getting I have negative feelings toward Nick from. My description of him wasn't negative...just truthful.No matter how you try to twist it, his reaction to me being okay with him having had sex with Candy made no sense.

1) If it was because he felt guilty: why feel guilty? He and I were cool with each other but it's not like we were best friends. Hell, we'd been hanging out for less than a year. Maybe he should've felt guilty about cheating on his girlfriend, but he cheated all the time, lol. So feeling "guilty" about it toward another guy makes no sense. Unless that guy was Candy's boyfriend.

2) If it was because he was upset that I wasn't jealous: that's just a pandora's box of weirdness and childishness that I won't bother to try to understand.

 

[Enriquespy]

Yes yes. Is the others who are in the wrong. yes...

 

[Weather Witch]

This thread is pure gold. t:

I once lost a friend with the following text message:
Her: What are you doing?
Me: Googling how to get a life.

Somehow she took that personally and refused to talk to me for ages. Still not sure if I understand why.

 

[I Am The Knight]

 

[Immortalfire]

This thread is pure gold. t:

I once lost a friend with the following text message:
Her: What are you doing?
Me: Googling how to get a life.

Somehow she took that personally and refused to talk to me for ages. Still not sure if I understand why.

She wanted you.

 

[Midnyte_Sun]

Why would you make your friend of 20 years to walk home? If you wanted to do the same thing, you wouldn't mind walking home in the middle of the night?

 

[Weather Witch]

She wanted you.

I'm gay.

Why would you make your friend of 20 years to walk home? If you wanted to do the same thing, you wouldn't mind walking home in the middle of the night?

To be fair I've done worse to friends of 20 years. Though it did seem a tad unnecessary yes. t:

 

[Finarfiniel]

Another "weird end of a friendship" story:

Years ago I worked part time at Toys R Us. Another guy started working there...let's call him "Nick". We became cool with each other even though we were very different people: I was in my early 20s, he was somewhere in his 30s. I don't drink alcohol or smoke weed, he did so with a passion. He was a really big bulls****er and class clown type who was constantly looking for attention and constantly hitting on our female coworkers, whereas I'm the lowkey type. But dude was hilarious and he seemed to like my sense of humor as well.

Anyway at that time TRU was remodeling lots of their stores around the country. The previous year I participated in a few of them and on one of those trips I'd met this cute girl named "Candy". Her major physical flaw was her teeth...I don't know the proper term for it, but both her top and bottom rows protruded out like someone had punched her in the teeth from inside her mouth, lol. There was mutual interest but in the end nothing really happened between us. Well the remodels were starting up again and this time Nick came along with me to do some of them. Candy was at the second one we went to.

I told Nick about my previous encounter with her. He decided he was going to "hit it". Unlike a year before Candy had a boyfriend this time. It obviously wasn't a serious relationship as she flirted nonstop with both of us, but mostly with Nick. He was the more exciting one between the two of us, I guess...plus he was "fresh meat".

So a couple of weeks into the remodel I had to leave early because I was starting a full time job. Nick stayed to finish that one and do another one. Eventually Nick comes back from the remodels, and a few months pass. I was still working at TRU part time but I didn't see him as much because my schedule changed due to my new job. One day we are both at work at the same time and Candy comes up in our conversation and I make a comment about her ****ed up teeth.

Nick: LOL! I didn't care about her teeth, I just wanted to f*** her.
Me: Oh, you got with her?
Nick : Uh..nah...um...that is...
Me: ???

For some reason he thought I would be upset that he had sex with her. It was very strange. I mean we're all adults. He had a girlfriend. Candy had a boyfriend. I was an innocent bystander in all of this, lol. Yes I was sexually attracted to her too but it's not like I was in love with her. So he didn't care about screwing around on his girl but for some reason wanted it to be a big deal that he bumped uglies with a girl that both of us were slightly interested in? I could see if she was my girlfriend, but she wasn't. Plus she lived hours away and I hadn't laid eyes on her since I left to start my new job.

So I basically had to break down to him what I just said up above but it's like he couldn't believe me. After that he was always weird/awkward at work and we never hung out anymore outside of work.

I legitimately have no idea what any of this story means or what point it's trying to make. Other than the fact that you've reduced some poor girl who was just trying to be friendly to you and this other utter *****ebag by the sounds of it to 'hot with ****ed up teeth'. Nice.

 

[Weather Witch]

I legitimately have no idea what any of this story means or what point it's trying to make.

I thought it was an episode of How I Met Your Mother.

Other than the fact that you've reduced some poor girl who was just trying to be friendly to you and this other utter *****ebag by the sounds of it to 'hot with ****ed up teeth'. Nice.

Yeah that wasn't pretty.

 

[XtremelyBaneful]

i really don't understand why hardcore cursing is not allowed on this forum seeing as how everybody including the administrators do it

 

[C. Lee]

Why would you make your friend of 20 years to walk home?

It was all part of an elaborate joke that went wrong. What started as a lark wound up with murder and a lame attempt at an alibi using our site.

 

[RockSP]

I legitimately have no idea what any of this story means or what point it's trying to make.

It means what is written there. The only "point" is that it's an example of a "weird end to a friendship" which is the thread title. The guy in the story seemingly couldn't wrap his head around the fact that I wasn't mad about their sexual encounter, even though them having sex had nothing to do with me and him hanging out.

Other than the fact that you've reduced some poor girl who was just trying to be friendly to you and this other utter *****ebag by the sounds of it to 'hot with ****ed up teeth'. Nice.

Lol...what's the difference between me saying she had screwed up teeth and you calling that guy an utter *****ebag?