What a Serious B***CH!!

[Mrh7448]

Don't take this the wrong way, because I'm really not trying to attack you, but perhaps your friend is better off this way if you're unable to step outside your own issues regarding his marriage and just let him be happy and be supportive of that. Friends who don't back each other once a final decision has been reached, regardless of whether they agree with it or not, don't usually last as friends very long, anyway.

jag

No it's alright. I've been trying to rise above this and the whole time he's been with her I didn't say a thing, probably part of the problem, I'm sure. If it means the end of something so be it.

I can't support his marriage and I'd rather not go then go and have any kind of tension going on at all. If he seemed really happy I would be much more content to let it go, even if I didn't like the women, unfortunately that doesn't seem to be the case which is why I feel it's such a mistake.

I had another friend that I hadn't said anything with when he got married despite the fact I didn't think it would work and he was making a mistake, and that ended in a bitter divorce after a year of them being together. That's why I feel strongly about this situation.

I knew people wouldn't agree with me and I know that my friendship will end, funny thing is I know if he gets married it's going to end anyway though a slower death.

Thanks for your input and thoughts though it's appreciated even if I don't agree with some of the things you said I see your point and that's why I'm having a hard time with this. Kinda torn between the two sides.

 

[Erzengel]

Like I said you are adults I don't know why you are afraid of the "tension". They will be so busy with their wedding honestly I don't think they'd have time to worry about you. You don't even know how your little intervention with him has affected anything. You are jumping to conclusions and making childish decisions.

 

[Equint77]

speaking of *****es... where's holly?

 

[Darthphere]

speaking of *****es... where's holly?

Crying in a corner.

 

[Mrh7448]

Like I said you are adults I don't know why you are afraid of the "tension". They will be so busy with their wedding honestly I don't think they'd have time to worry about you. You don't even know how your little intervention with him has affected anything. You are jumping to conclusions and making childish decisions.

My discussion with him obviously effected him since he didn't talk to her after his brother talked to him about his issues as well. So if what I said started him thinking.

This is also the reason I haven't done anything yet, but since she's written to me I can't just let the whole thing drop as there is something going on and I would prefer to have it in the open before the wedding then seeing it come to a head. Which is why I didn't respond to her e-mail because I know I would say something I would regret. I am trying to stay above the whole thing, but for some reason this time it's just really difficult for me, I'm not normally the type of person to jump to conclusions or make snap judgments on anything.

 

[Equint77]

Crying in a corner.

what did you animals do to her?

 

[Erzengel]

You are jumping to conclusions. You think by attending their wedding there's going to be tension.

 

[Mrh7448]

You are jumping to conclusions. You think by attending their wedding there's going to be tension.

Well considering I'm in the bridal party and I believe he's making a mistake. I kinda figure there's going to be something there. Mind you it all might be moot since they may not want me there now anyway, that's why I have to talk to him again and find out really what's what

 

[Erzengel]

Then why don't you focus on that 1st step instead of worry about not going. And next time you talk to him one on one only btw, just say I'm sorry if I might have upset you, I was just concerned but I will support whatever you want to do."

 

[Darthphere]

Ok, suck it up. Support your friend, address your concerns, support your friend and most of all be his damn friend. Hes an adult, he knows what hes getting himself into, all you need to do is stick by him and hope for the best.


Close/Delete/Ban.

 

[jaguarr]

Ok, suck it up. Support your friend, address your concerns, support your friend and most of all be his damn friend. Hes an adult, he knows what hes getting himself into, all you need to do is stick by him and hope for the best.


Close/Delete/Ban.

I can definitely say that any friend of mine who would say "I don't like who you're marrying and I'm going to boycott your marriage even though you asked me to be a part of the wedding party" would get the boot from the guest list and from my life.

jag

 

[Hades]

speaking of *****es... where's holly?

I locked her in my basement.

 

[Darthphere]

I can definitely say that any friend of mine who would say "I don't like who you're marrying and I'm going to boycott your marriage even though you asked me to be a part of the wedding party" would get the boot from the guest list and from my life.

jag

Same here, its not the right way to go about it.

 

[Sabretooth]

One day all of your friends will leave you for their wives and start families. I say get over it and get used to it as fast as you can.

 

[DBella]

This thread makes me wonder who is the real b1tch or maybe there is more than one.

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

dramadramadramadramadramadramadramadramadramadrama

 

[Darthphere]

This thread makes me wonder who is the real b1tch or maybe there is more than one.

Im the real *****.

 

[DBella]

Im the real *****.

You wish!

 

[Sabretooth]

You wish!

Prove to us you're the *****.

 

[Darthphere]

You wish!

Damnit!

 

[Wilhelm-Scream]

There're a lot of authentic b****es on the Hype.

 

[DBella]

Prove to us you're the *****.

This thread is not about me, alright!! Now go to that corner and shut up!

 

[DBella]

There're a lot of authentic b****es on the Hype.

You should know.

Anyway, back to what this thread is about. No offense but I think the threadmaker is just being a baby about all this. He doesn't seem like much of a friend. If he's my friend, I'd take him off my guest list. Sorry.
You may believe that your friend is making a mistake by marrying this woman and you may be right, but he's a grown man so let him make his decisions for himself. You may not like his wife-to-be, you don't have to, but at least show him that you'd be there for him when he needs you. That's what friends are for. Don't let a woman ruin your long friendship.

 

[Mrh7448]

Then why don't you focus on that 1st step instead of worry about not going. And next time you talk to him one on one only btw, just say I'm sorry if I might have upset you, I was just concerned but I will support whatever you want to do."

It was initially one on one until my friend (who's known him as long as I have) came over and joined in.

 

[Sabretooth]

This thread is not about me, alright!! Now go to that corner and shut up!

Not until I get spanked by you.