Either trolling is to be condemned or trolling is acceptable. You can't have it both ways. Instead of engaging in conversation you're engaging in trolling insults. You can't condemn trolling insults against Anita, and then use trolling insults on people that happen to have disagreements with Anita. It's hypocrisy.
Anyway,
I'm sifting through some of my old stuff (this is a subject I've talked about a long time ago) to illustrate some of the honest criticisms that can be had when viewing Anita's videos.
Some simple examples.
Anita uses terms like subject/object to point to dehumanizing connotations, I remember a girl gamer called InuitInua pointed out that Anita's use of this term made no sense as the term 'object' in philosophy has no dehumanizing connotations and 'subject/object dichotomy' had nothing to do with what Anita was talking about.
You can look for yourself how Anita uses the term subject/object dichotomy in 10 minutes in the first video she did. How Anita uses the term bears no resemblance to how the term 'subject/object dichotomy' is used in philosophy.
You can read here on the subject/object dichotomy in philosophy.
http://www.thegrandpatchwork.com/subjectobject.htm
She pulled her own definition out of thin air to lend a false credibility to her arguments.
Even setting that aside, that we would want to help people that lack agency doesn't mean we think less of them, it isn't necessarily dehumanizing at all.
One way to interpret the relationship between a hero and a damsel is that the hero simply cares, has empathy. I think that Anita mixes up her own subjective opinions for objective fact.
Ico is given as a negative example of the trope; yet in Ico, you cannot progress through the game 90% of the time without Yorda and *spoilers* SHE saves Ico's life at the end of the game. Can Yorda really be said to have no agency? When you listen to Anita's commentary without being able to see the box of the game or the game play footage, it bears little resemblance to the actual game, in fact I think many gamers wouldn't be able to guess that its Ico she's talking about at all.
Anita implies in her first video some sort of link between game violence and real life violence but doesn't back it up with any study or research. The core of her argument on this point really falls apart without scientific data that shows a causation. The sources she does list are easily interrogated - for example, in her 2nd video to back up her argument on 'normalization of violence' the source she uses doesn't even mention games - NOT ONCE does the source mention games, but it is centred around romance novels.
http://www.brown.uk.com/brownlibrary/WOOD.htm
She uses other people's Let's Play videos and doesn't give them credit.
Plenty of legitimate criticisms to be had of Anita's videos.