I remember reading one hilarious review of TASM 2 that started off like this:
"What is
The Amazing Spider-Man 2 about? It's about the story of Peter Parker, who through many trials and tribulations, finally manages to kill his girlfriend."
That's not how it was worded verbatim, but that was the gist of what the reviewer said. I remember snorting upon reading that.
The writing for these movies have been a trainwreck, especially in TASM2. We don't see Peter looking back fondly at Uncle Ben at all (in fact, everything he says about him sounds bitter; terrible dialogue at that post-graduation scene with Aunt May), and every time he mentions Captain Stacy, it's all about how it affects HIM. It's always all about Peter and his boypain, not about his loved ones.
Hell, even in the first movie after Captain Stacy's death, and Gwen shows up at his doorstep, he says "
I can't do this.
I can't do this!" Memememememememememe. Peter hasn't learned a thing throughout the course of these movies. If he has, the writing has certainly done a poor job at showing it.