I guess it seems to me sometimes that Hollywood is subltley saying that gay mariage won't work in the long run. I don't want that to be true, or any more true that the rest of us, you know? It's like if that were true, than all the naysayers about gay marriage are in some way proven right. I much prefered A Single Man, where a deep and loving gay marriage/reationship was shown to be a solid and lasting thing, just that one of them died. It said to me (and hopefully to others) that just becasue you're gay you CAN have something good and solid and lasting, not fleeting.
Except when his partner died he wasn't allowed to attend the funeral. And he was driven into such a horrific depression that he was ready to commit suicide. How is that better? Yes, they stayed together for twenty years, but in the end he ended up in a much worse space than the two women in
Kids did.
Their problems where very common to ANY married couple -- one stopped seeing the other one and took her for granted. The other one wasn't feeling appreciated and desired. We all want to
feel love and
be loved by our partners. Sometimes we aren't. Sometimes we do stupid things with people who notice us for the first time in a long time. It's life.
Having said all that,
A Single Man was one of my favorite movies of 2009. Beautifully acted and shot. Very depressing, but slightly hopeful at the end. I adored it. And what an amazing series of performances!
My sensitivity on this is becasue when I went through adult Christian training, my teacher was adamant that gay marriage, especially amongst men, could never be succussful. I disagreed strongly with him and I don't like anything that might prove the fellow right. Now you guys actually are gay and would know more about this than me so I'd respect your opinion. I guess I just like the idea of you all being out there with someone you love for a long time, not just going from one relationship to the next never being satsified. Call me a romantic, if you will, but I like to have some sort of faith that God made you this way so you could be happy, not lonely and tormented forever.
Only people who want to be lonely and tormented forever are going to be that way. It's whatever vibe and feelings of yourself that you put out there that you receive back. If all you're taught to think about yourself and grow up to think about yourself is that you are a sex-crazed, self-torturing and disposable commodity, then, guess what, the only kind of people you will attract in your life are those that will take advantage of those things. It has nothing to do with gender-preference.
The relationship in
Kids doesn't prove him right. Or wrong. It just proves that marriages take time and work. Again, regardless of how the marriage is structured. If anything,
Kids proved that gays are just like the rest of us. Our marriages and families are just like heterosexual ones. We're all people cut from the same cloths.
I think it bothered me because I wanted the gay couple to stay solid throughout the whole thing. I don't like movies that suggest that a gay couple can't stay monogomous without strain.
