Apologizing for something you can’t simply apologize for

[Sloth7d]

It's clear there is only one thing you can do now, in your position. Join the dark side, and learn to use the dark side of the force. Then you can achieve unimaginable power to revive your friends dead mommy, thus resolving this whole conflict.

 

[Nirvana]

Dude, you're friend is an ass. If I were him I'd probably just avoid talking to her ever again.

 

[amazingfantasy15]

I have this friend, well more of an acquaintance really but well he recently told me a story about something he did recently asking me for advice on how to proceed. I told him I'd get back to him.

(not really relevant)
First things first. In order to understand what happened it's best to understand the man. He's 21, named Jordan and has just finished his first year of university. He was raised in a hard-core Christian home and came home to find out that his parents are getting a divorce due to his fathers behavior. Apparently his dad had an affair with a woman whom attends the same church as him. Now I'm not telling you this to make it seem like what he did was okay...

Now Jordan has always been socially awkward, I had a law class with him back in high school and that's how we met. He was quiet and kept to himself. He did a presentation against the legalization of gay marriage and quoted the bible in it... being that I'm not religious I thought this was kind of strange. But after talking to him online I kind of got to know him and realized that despite his slight bigotry he's an alright guy.

(the actual thing)
Anyway what happened is Jordan was talknig with a girl at the library who he is a n acquaintance of sorts with but not really a friend. And I guess they see each other there all the time but she wasn't there last time so he asked her why and she said:

"my mother died"


...

now here's the thing....

Jordan laughed

that's ****ed-up eh. He said "are you serious....? (she didn't say anything)..." "then he stopped laughing and, well since she didn't say "yes I'm serious" he assumed she was joking and said "whoa".. he then left.

Turns out her mom is dead and Jordan wants to know how to apologize. Keep in mind mother's day is this SUNDAY (tomorrow) where I live. and this happened Thursday.

I have no advice for him, maybe you do.

Don't know why you needed the long post the only part that mattered is he/you laughed about a situation that is really tough for someone. Parents getting divorced is nothing like a parent dying, so it's irrelevant. Also especially since it's so soon afterwards, the wound is very much open. As a person who has lost their mom, don't expect this girl to forgive you/your friend, I would've punched you in the face if you said something like that to me. 7 years later and my dad being happily remarried (and being happy about that myself), this time of year is still tough.

 

[Odin's Lapdog]

He shouldn't apologise, all sorts of things happen in life and you shouldn't hold them against people if they don't think you are being serious about it.

he laughed because he didn't know, it's no big deal.

He should just carry on as normal and try not to make a big deal about it.

worst case scenario, he should tell this chick he lit a candle for his mom and her family on mother's day.

End Of.