Being single sucks

Erzengel said:
Have you tried women with low self esteem with father issues? :huh:
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Honestly? Yes, my "ex" Amanda.

She had come into my work a couple times, I thought she was very attractive, but never hit on her. When I quit, and got a new job in the same mall, I found out she worked there, so I started working with her. She had a boyfriend, so I never made a move on her, but her and I were always flirty. I just figured she was just having some fun. So I would make fun of her, pick on her, and act like I wasn't interested.

Little did I know that indeed, she wanted me, bad, and she made it perfectly known to me one night when we had like a 14 hour phone conversation. She had low self esteem, and MAJOR daddy issues, as well as a lot of other issues.

Long story short - she led me to believe that her and I would be together, that she would break up with her boyfriend. She always told me how much she loved me and wanted to be with me, but that she loved him too and didn't know what to do. When I would try to be affectionate back, she pushed away. When I would back off, and "let her go", she'd always come right back.

Until finally she decided to break it off for good.

I had some... "fun" for lack of a better term, but there wasn't anything with any real potential there. It was a lot of heartache, constantly battling with her, feeling like I was in a competition for her affections with the other guy. Nothing about the situation was any kind of productive, except the fact that I got to fool around with possibly the hottest girl I've ever met in my life.
 
Nell2ThaIzzay said:
Honestly? Yes, my "ex" Amanda.

She had come into my work a couple times, I thought she was very attractive, but never hit on her. When I quit, and got a new job in the same mall, I found out she worked there, so I started working with her. She had a boyfriend, so I never made a move on her, but her and I were always flirty. I just figured she was just having some fun. So I would make fun of her, pick on her, and act like I wasn't interested.

Little did I know that indeed, she wanted me, bad, and she made it perfectly known to me one night when we had like a 14 hour phone conversation. She had low self esteem, and MAJOR daddy issues, as well as a lot of other issues.

Long story short - she led me to believe that her and I would be together, that she would break up with her boyfriend. She always told me how much she loved me and wanted to be with me, but that she loved him too and didn't know what to do. When I would try to be affectionate back, she pushed away. When I would back off, and "let her go", she'd always come right back.

Until finally she decided to break it off for good.

I had some... "fun" for lack of a better term, but there wasn't anything with any real potential there. It was a lot of heartache, constantly battling with her, feeling like I was in a competition for her affections with the other guy. Nothing about the situation was any kind of productive, except the fact that I got to fool around with possibly the hottest girl I've ever met in my life.
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Cool that you had some fun, too bad the circumstances sucked, being the "other guy". Seems like she only wanted what she couldn't have too. Woohoo, some stupid girl that likes to play a bunch of games.
 
BillyZaned said:
^that's great! not the death thinking part... but that you two are that compatable

hoenstly, sick of people and their excuses as to why they can't find anyone to form a bond with it....

If I can do it... considering the **** I went through in HS... anyone can
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I don't see a need in my life to "form a bond" with anyone, other than being civil at work.
 
amazingfantasy15 said:
Cool that you had some fun, too bad the circumstances sucked, being the "other guy". Seems like she only wanted what she couldn't have too. Woohoo, some stupid girl that likes to play a bunch of games.
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And that's all I ever get - the girl that wants to play games.

The girl that wants to be all nice and flirty with me, but when I want to ask her out for a date, or to kick it, or whatever, all of a sudden wants to act like I am completely out of line for thinking such things.

It's the main reason why I have no confidence. Except for a few occasions, which I can count on 1 hand, girls always act like I am completely out of line for having any kind of interest in them beyond being classmates / co-workers, whatever. That I am somehow wrong for being attracted to them.
 
Nell, stop thinking about that damned girl. I guarantee you that she isn't thinking about you wherever the hell she is. Your... thinking about her is counterproductive and might actually harm your chances of future relationships (if how much you talk about her on here is any indication). Like I said before, you are a great catch! Maybe you just haven't been looking in the right places and at the right kind of women.
 
lol katie i really never think about amanda. i only brought her up because the comment that erz made had perfect relevence.
 
BillyZaned said:
must suck man... I've never had the problem... and being married now... just living the dream...

this weekend, I work Saturday, and came home to a hot meal, and a bottle of wine.... the wife had the little one asleep.. me made love, aftewards, she laid in my arms, and we just talked... very magical...

On saunday, since it was a nice autumn day... we took the little on to a park, and watched him play... we then had a nice lunch, then went to the pumpkin patch, so our son could pick out a pumpkin... we were throwing each other in the the freshly fallen leaves, and later she sat on my lap while we shared some hot apple cider....

we then went home and made dinner together... playfully smearing food on each others face.... we made a fire, and cuddled together untill we both fell asleep...

this morning, I was taking a shower and she suprised me by jumping in...

she's coming up to work this afternoon to bring me lunch...

relationships are awesome... sucks to be you
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:lmao: You're such a *****e!
 
Erzengel said:
For everyone here is replies with, "I don't mind being single.", would you prefer not to be? :huh:
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right now, i really don't think so. single is a good mindset for me right now so i can focus on other things, but i wouldn't necessary push the prospect away if it came to me
 
Nell2ThaIzzay said:
And that's all I ever get - the girl that wants to play games.

The girl that wants to be all nice and flirty with me, but when I want to ask her out for a date, or to kick it, or whatever, all of a sudden wants to act like I am completely out of line for thinking such things.

It's the main reason why I have no confidence. Except for a few occasions, which I can count on 1 hand, girls always act like I am completely out of line for having any kind of interest in them beyond being classmates / co-workers, whatever. That I am somehow wrong for being attracted to them.
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That's cause you only have eyes for the girls who WANT to play games. :oldrazz: It's not the dumbest thing to do - guys obviously gravitate toward the girls who give them any sort of attention, especially if it's initially flirty. But it's not true that that's the girl you're always stuck with.
 
We all subconsciously crave drama.
 
I love having what I think I can't have, and once I have it, I don't want it anymore.
 
Anita18 said:
That's cause you only have eyes for the girls who WANT to play games. :oldrazz: It's not the dumbest thing to do - guys obviously gravitate toward the girls who give them any sort of attention, especially if it's initially flirty. But it's not true that that's the girl you're always stuck with.
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Maybe not stuck with, but it seems like that's all I ever find.

Like I said, I can probably count on one hand the number of girls I have met who didn't play games, and were up front with me about their feelings. Shoot, I've even been able to have lasting friendships with a couple of them.

Unfortunately, they seem to be very few and far between :(
 
terry78 said:
We all subconsciously crave drama.
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i do not crave drama at all

but i think there's a tiny part of us all who secretly crave attention at some point or another
 
I don't think it's a secret...
 
it's a secret who we crave this attention from sometimes :)
 
I never truly understood, how exactly does someone know what type of person they can and can't get?
 
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