Yes... somebody peed in my syrop this morning...
I've been an on-going Spider-Man reader since 1975... which means I had a good 12 years of a single Spidey prior to the wedding, and then 20 years of a married one, and now 1 year of being single again...
So then here's my thinking. While you've read all the years of his being married, you first read his single days and had 12 years to grow to love that rendition. So for you, you'll always have that fondness to that time period. So him becoming single, resurecting Harry, Flash back, etc. is all a nostalgic trip for you, and I'm assuming for the rest of the old fans who think this is a good idea. You don't have the experience of ALWAYS having MJ there to support him, help him, etc. So for you, it's just a nice swing back to what made you fell in love with the book, whereas for people like me it's removing a central aspect of what made Spider-Man so relatable and great. And not only that, you have those 12 years of solid spidey material before the OMD started messing stuff up. For people like me, we have to face the unfortunate fact that everything we read is now altered and questionable and we aren't even certain what's in continuity and what isn't thanks to the shoddy explanations and such.
And even to go deeper than that, for people like me who have had no moral compass in their lives, I had to rely on people like Spider-Man, as sad as it is, to teach me what was right and what wasn't. Then he goes and does the crap he does in OMD and ruins every bit of morality he has. Though I'm old enough now to know that it's no big deal, that kid in me that still looks at Peter Parker as the ultimate good guy now looks at him as the ultimate hypocrite, and when Marvel thinks that's not a problem, then they've already lost sight of the character that I fell in love with.
Having said all that, I can understand why Marvel Comics Inc, as well as JQ, think that Spider-Man simply works better as a single guy... heck, the cartoons & movies portray him as such, and while many older married fans watch those movies/tv shows, he does strike a chord with all the nerdy goth "wanna-be asperger" kids who all like to think that they are different... it's why I liked Spidey as a kid... I honestly felt like I could relate to this hero.
They use him as a single person because everything starts with the origin story, and he was single in the origin. However, in the cartoons and Movies (granted, I've not seen the new cartoon) MJ is always right there, though not married yet (and they did get married in the 90's cartoon). And I actually don't see how he works better. In fact, now he's just like the hundreds of other single guys in comics. What makes him any differant from the Human Torch, or Nova, or Ricochet, or whoever? Now he's just one in a million and not at all anything special.
And anybody who was reading the book at the time knows that the wedding was a publicity stunt because Stan Lee was doing it in his strip... there was no major "bonding" of the two prior to the proposal... they were very good friends and she was the first of Peter's friends to know his secret life, making them closer I guess... but if they really wanted to head towards the nuptuals, they should have given us a few years of "engagement" issues and let things really flow naturally...
I know this. Like I said, I read them. However, their timeframe for fixing it quickly and pretending it never happened was back then, 20 years ago. Not today when it's a cemented part of Spidey's history in the minds of who knows how many readers. Due to how long it's had to build, it deserved a better send off and sadly, Joe Q and his people decided that wasn't necessary and gave us crap. Obviously those of us who do consider their union so important weren't necessary enough for them to care about or consider. THEY WERE GETTING THEIR SINGLE SPIDEY BACK

YAY!!!
In any event, I like MJ a lot, and I know I'll see her character again... there was a lot of good in the 20 year marriage, and some yawners, but I like to read Amazing SPIDER-MAN, not Amazing MARY JANE, and I don't agree with you that she's a quintessential requirement to his stort... yes, she's an important supporting cast member, but not a requirement.
But again, I think this is coming from someone who had 12 years without her. For those of us who have grown to know Spidey with MJ at his side, she really is as big a part of his character as his abilities. Without her he really does just feel dim and flat. I've skimmed and read a few issues here and there at the comic shop and I just can't get into him now. He's very generic. For me, MJ is what gave him depth. He was a hero, a fun guy, but also a family man, but young enough to still be cool.
I like the new direction, even though like most people have already stated, I thought OMD sucked donkey balls... the stories are refreshing without rehashing the stuff from the 70's... if anything, the soap-operatic storytelling format of the 70's seems to show in the new direction, and I think that's great... as opposed to the boring decompressed storytelling formula made for easy tradepaperbacks...
I agree that I hate the tpb formats, but that really was my only problem. My favorate pasing was when storylines could be in single issues or 2 issue arcs. 3 issues were pretty big deals and 6 part stories were the huge important tales. As for the soap-opera stuff, if I wanted that I'd watch a soap opera. For me, if it's not MJ it's fake.
And btw, something you said from an earlier post, you'd be investing 9 bucks per month... not 12 bucks...
Couldn't remember if it was 3 or 4 issues a month, but there's also a one shot or two, plus the Spider-Man Family thing, etc. So I was close.
But yeah, overall, I tend to find that those who are really enjoying BND are typically those who either 1) Read Spidey before he was married, or 2) are fairly new to Spidey and haven't grown attached. I think everyone who I've talked to who are from my generation, hate it. And just about all of them have dropped it entirely.
So (and I say this with respect) you can criticize those of us who are so strongly against this, our 'hatred' of Joe Q and Marvel due to it, but I don't think you have a point of reference to know how we feel in regard to this, or at least how I feel. To you, they gave you back your glory days, but for me, he's just erased all the tales that made me fall in love with the medium to begin with.