Confront your fears...

[04nbod]

Death

I'm enjoying life too much to die. I'm afraid of what comes after death. I'm a Christian and all but until I recieve proof of God's jamboree in the sky; I'll have to conider the possibility that I get put in the ground after I die and maggots eat me. That's both scary and boring.

i feel exactly the same way- and spiders- why do they need all thoses legs

 

[DBella]

I'm really scared of getting old. The aging process itself, getting closer to death....yikes.

I'm also afraid of spiders and ANY type of bee sends me running.

I'm scared of permanently losing the ones I love most.

I'm scared of dying alone.

I get visits from Spiders every now and then. I don't have the heart to kill them since they remind me of Charlotte O) so I just pick them up, throw them outside, only to see them back again the next day. *sigh*

The fear of permanently losing the ones you love most. I used to have that... still do, but I had to deal with it when my father passed away. Now I fear of losing my Mom and my brother.

Fear of dying alone. Everyone dies alone. Do you mean, dying with no one beside you or close to you? I figured when I'm dead, the stench of my decomposing/decomposed body will be enough to attract my neigbor's attention.

 

[BRUTAL]

Yeah I'm not worried about overcoming those fears because fears are natural and they make you who you are. If you take away your fears then you would probably end up doing stupid things on a pretty regular basis, I believe fear is the brain's defense against self-harm. Psychologists will tell you that there are 3 NATURAL INBORN fears that EVERY person is born with. I just find it odd when people claim to fear nothgin because 99.99999999% of the time they are lying to get attention.

 

[Apollo]

i'm afriad of people, you never know what a person can do to you

 

[AndThePickles]

Fear of dying alone. Everyone dies alone. Do you mean, dying with no one beside you or close to you? I figured when I'm dead, the stench of my decomposing/decomposed body will be enough to attract my neigbor's attention.

By dying alone I mean dying after my husband has died (in old age so it's not like I would get re-married or anything) and I have no friends and family left alive, etc.

 

[DBella]

By dying alone I mean dying after my husband has died (in old age so it's not like I would get re-married or anything) and I have no friends and family left alive, etc.

O I see. That'd be my story as I'm sure I'll live in a nursing home with no family and no friends.

But seriously, that fear is understandable but if that's the situation (which I doubt will happen), what can you do about it? It'll be sad but at least you can die with the memories of you husband and family and friends that once shared your life.

 

[jaguarr]

I am pretty much completely fearless except for snakes and neo-cons, which scare the holy living hell out of me, if even irrationally. They're the same thing, practically, anyway, so I'm really only afraid of one thing on this planet.

jag

 

[AndThePickles]

O I see. That'd be my story as I'm sure I'll live in a nursing home with no family and no friends.

But seriously, that fear is understandable but if that's the situation (which I doubt will happen), what can you do about it? It'll be sad but at least you can die with the memories of you husband and family and friends that once shared your life.

I guess that's part of the reason the fear exists.....I have no control over it.

 

[Gotendbz-2]

i'm afriad of people, you never know what a person can do to you

Me too. I hate people.


I really like spiders though. I never kill them, I just put them outside.

 

[Hades]

Stabbed and being buried alive

 

[DBella]

I guess that's part of the reason the fear exists.....I have no control over it.

YOu're not plagued by that fear, are you?

 

[DBella]

Stabbed and being buried alive

Being buried alive doesn't go well with my claustrophobia.

 

[AndThePickles]

YOu're not plagued by that fear, are you?

Nah, not really. Occasionally I do find myself being afraid of the unknown and not having control over things, but I wouldn't say I'm plagued by it.

 

[enterthemadness]

don't laugh...


Praying Mantis

oh god. It just looks scary and ugly. I can't eat pizza if I am thinking of the mantis, because the slice looks like a damn mantis head.

And no laughing...you wouldn't laugh if it was 15 feet tall.

 

[BRUTAL]

don't laugh...


Praying Mantis

oh god. It just looks scary and ugly. I can't eat pizza if I am thinking of the mantis, because the slice looks like a damn mantis head.

And no laughing...you wouldn't laugh if it was 15 feet tall.

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... I lol'ed

 

[Gotendbz-2]

Being buried alive doesn't go well with my claustrophobia.

Your afraid of Santa Clause?

 

[Gotendbz-2]

don't laugh...


Praying Mantis

oh god. It just looks scary and ugly. I can't eat pizza if I am thinking of the mantis, because the slice looks like a damn mantis head.

And no laughing...you wouldn't laugh if it was 15 feet tall.

Praying Mantises are cool! I like them too!

 

[Kyalesyin]

Let me just say that your openness and willingness to talk about your ordeal are most admirable. Though I don't have any stories as "interesting" as you; I try to be 99% open about everthing in my life. People who hold on to secrets end up festering.

Sorry to hear about your attack, miscarriage, and death(that's weird to type). Glad you got over that though.

Its ok. Its still weird sometimes when people who don't know say "I am so gonna kill you for that." since I have the ultimate flip off for it... "Sorry. Already dead."

Wasn't the only thing that drove me to suicide, but it was a fair factor in it... can tell I was fifteen though. Honestly looked like there was no end in sight and all that. Took a hospital stay [specialist psych] and a lot of therapy but I made it. I speak out now for abuse survivors and stuff like that now. You'd be amazed how many people won't speak out because they think they're the only one, or they don't know how to articulate what happened.

Yeah I'm not worried about overcoming those fears because fears are natural and they make you who you are. If you take away your fears then you would probably end up doing stupid things on a pretty regular basis, I believe fear is the brain's defense against self-harm. Psychologists will tell you that there are 3 NATURAL INBORN fears that EVERY person is born with. I just find it odd when people claim to fear nothgin because 99.99999999% of the time they are lying to get attention.

I never saw fear as a natural thing. I'm pretty sure all the stuff I was scared of as a kid, I learned. My mother wasn't scared of rats. As a kid, it never bothered me. She is terrified of flies. As a kid, I couldn't be in the same room as one.

Fear is definately a natural defense, but why should we put up with an irrational fear when we can take control of it and use it? Fear of heights I can understand- its all based in not feeling safe. Fear of cotton wool [a classic from my chemistry class] is totally irrational and may as well be worked out.

I'm not saying I was never scared of anything. I used to be. It took hard work to get over it. I can still get shaken. I got followed home the other night and it scared the crap outta me... until it turned out the guy lived across the street. Most fears can be seen under those terms.

 

[Valerie_f4]

My fears are defined by feelings. I have a fear of not feeling in control or losing control. I have claustophobia. I have a fear of drowning but that was resolved. I have a fear of dying unloved, but not the fear of death. Those are my only fears, mostly all my others all have been resolved somehow.

 

[Kyalesyin]

I never got claustrophobia either. When I'm stressed I curl up in my wardrobe, under the bed or I squeeze into my blanket box. The smaller, warmer and darker the space the better. It used to be the airing cupboard when I was a kid. What is so scary about small tight spaces? I love them.

 

[Valerie_f4]

I know what you mean Kyalesyin. But I think this is different, When I was little I was swimming and I couldn't breathe. I was laying on the bottom on the bottom of the pool.

 

[Kyalesyin]

I can't swim... never been scared of the water though. I just never got the chance to learn.

 

[Colossal Spoons]

Its ok. Its still weird sometimes when people who don't know say "I am so gonna kill you for that." since I have the ultimate flip off for it... "Sorry. Already dead."

Wasn't the only thing that drove me to suicide, but it was a fair factor in it... can tell I was fifteen though. Honestly looked like there was no end in sight and all that. Took a hospital stay [specialist psych] and a lot of therapy but I made it. I speak out now for abuse survivors and stuff like that now. You'd be amazed how many people won't speak out because they think they're the only one, or they don't know how to articulate what happened.

That's craziness. The UK is a lot more dangerous than I thought.

 

[Kyalesyin]

That's craziness. The UK is a lot more dangerous than I thought.

Dangerous how? Safer than a lot of other places. It wasn't like it was a stranger out the back of a bar. I knew him on and off as a friend of my cousin Mike [one of the few excommunicate members of my family, usually refered to as '*******'] and I was at a party of a friend of a friend. I had a little much to drink and by the time I realised I was in trouble it was a little late and I couldn't fight back or scream on account of the knife. I wasn't exactly a virgin by that point thanks to the ******* himself... stuff just came to a head a few months later and I went for the pills

 

[samurai black]

I have a morbid fear of sharks. Thing is i've never had any encounters. I never feel at ease in open water. I think my fear stems from reading/researching too much as i kid. When i was younger, i had a fascination with sharks and read everything i could find. It totally wiped away any ignorance i had about the world's oldest killing machine and ruined me for life.