Could you date someone of an opposing political persuasion?

[Babs Gordon]

Exactly, Terry I am all about having long conversations with the one I love and if we can't do that without someone getting upset or hurt then it's probably not going to work out.

 

[chamber-music]

As long as they are not a Nazi or something I don't mind what poltical party they like.

 

[Fried Gold]

I think people that say it wouldn't affect their relationship have to realize that a relationship is more than just having fun and sleeping together. You're going to have deep conversations with each other, otherwise it ain't really a relationship, it's just a **** buddy. I'm serious about a girl, we are going to talk about religion, politics, culture stuff, etc. at some point in time.

Yes, but anyone who's going to row, lose sleep and break off a relationship based soley on their partners political beliefs I (which, ultimately, doesn't really add up to much more than whose name they tick at the polling station), probably shouldn't be getting into relationships in the first place. I think it's different if you were involved with a politician, but for two everyday people, it shouldn't really matter as relationships are built on much stronger foundations than both agreeing on the illegalistion of smoking whilst driving...

 

[Lord Valumart]

As long as they are not a Nazi or something I don't mind what poltical party they like.

nazis are kinky devils...

 

[kane9321]

I'm a democrat and my wife to be is a staight up right winger..yick.I value my girls opinion(even though shes always wrong..lol). I love her no matter what

 

[chamber-music]

nazis are kinky devils...

Sure........until they Gas you!

 

[Machx72]

I have trouble dating, period... Let alone choosing to date someone of a certain background or standpoint.

In all seriousness, though, I really couldn't care less what she believes in [to an extent]... So long as she's not trying to cram it down my throat. Same goes for religion.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

I think people that say it wouldn't affect their relationship have to realize that a relationship is more than just having fun and sleeping together. You're going to have deep conversations with each other, otherwise it ain't really a relationship, it's just a **** buddy. I'm serious about a girl, we are going to talk about religion, politics, culture stuff, etc. at some point in time.

i agree, but politics won't be in any of my conversations. for the pure fact i can care less about politics. religion and culture are the only topics that can hold my interest.

and this is what dating is for babs, to go out and get to know the other person's opinions. you make it sound like you're just going to jump into a relationship and ask the hard questions later.

 

[Babs Gordon]

oh please. i'm not going to nail someone to the wall... almost ever. how did this become a conversation about ME? i shared my experiences on this topic. nowhere did i mention the other things that my relationships were founded on because they didn't relate to this topic. you can go ahead an assume that my relationships are based on my politics or political leanings if you like, but that's just not true. i'm asking about a certain part of relationships i've been in. one of those times i got chewed out by someone i cared for very much for just believing what i believe and i'd like to never go through that again. so i'm asking what other people think about politics and relationships.

i think you're being a bit naive, GAH.

 

[Machx72]

I think people that say it wouldn't affect their relationship have to realize that a relationship is more than just having fun and sleeping together. You're going to have deep conversations with each other, otherwise it ain't really a relationship, it's just a **** buddy. I'm serious about a girl, we are going to talk about religion, politics, culture stuff, etc. at some point in time.

I wouldn't jump that far into it, dude... On the rare occasion I do date someone, whether or not we talk politics or religion is up to whoever does or doesn't wanna bring it up. I've never slept with anyone, and I've also dated very highly religious girls [I'm not particularly religious myself] without even so much as hearing the word "religion" come out of their mouths... But I take my relationships seriously.

Now the one girlfriend that told me she thought cheating was okay so long as the cheater was drunk while he/she was doing it... That's the kind of stuff that would annoy me. Religion and politics? Not so much, so long as they keep it to themselves [or, if they talk to me about it, they do so without trying to convert me... I'll give 'em a freebie or two].

Exactly, Terry I am all about having long conversations with the one I love and if we can't do that without someone getting upset or hurt then it's probably not going to work out.

I really see less and less of those long, interesting conversations from people these days, to be quite honest. Most people care solely enough about getting what they want to say out of their own mouths, and after that's done, they're done with the conversation. Now, I'm not saying you're one to do this, I'm simply saying I'm seeing less and less of people like the ones you're referring to out in the world these days. Most the ones I've been around wanna drink, ****, and talk about that, instead of talking about interesting topics.

I dunno... I never get mad about conversations like that just so long as they don't overstep certain boundaries [which really aren't that much], but I have trouble finding people who aren't really that sensitive. I'm one of the "say-what's-on-my-mind" kind of people, and a lot of the things I say shock the hell out of most others. While I'm friends with many females, it seems girls don't like dating guys like that [either that or I'm just fugly].

It seems like bandwagons are getting bigger and bigger when it comes to political and religious beliefs and views, though, and conversations about those topics scare the balls off of more and more people these days... Probably because of the "Politically Correct" censorship.

 

[Mr Sparkle]

Yes, but anyone who's going to row, lose sleep and break off a relationship based soley on their partners political beliefs I (which, ultimately, doesn't really add up to much more than whose name they tick at the polling station), probably shouldn't be getting into relationships in the first place. I think it's different if you were involved with a politician, but for two everyday people, it shouldn't really matter as relationships are built on much stronger foundations than both agreeing on the illegalistion of smoking whilst driving...

beliefs are an important part of who we are.
I'm sure you wouldn't date someone with opossing views, that simple, no matter if you think you would. relationships are built on differences and simmiliraties, but they have to be complimmentary and political belifies when they exist are almost always at the forefront of people's minds.
I once dated a girl that was smoking hot, loved awesome music and told the funniest jokes.

she was also a racist, a big honking chunk of white supremacy.

I couldn't take it, even though she had no problem with me.
same could apply to political views.

 

[Sandman138]

How does a white power princess end up boning a wetback?

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

oh please. i'm not going to nail someone to the wall... almost ever. how did this become a conversation about ME? i shared my experiences on this topic. nowhere did i mention the other things that my relationships were founded on because they didn't relate to this topic. you can go ahead an assume that my relationships are based on my politics or political leanings if you like, but that's just not true. i'm asking about a certain part of relationships i've been in. one of those times i got chewed out by someone i cared for very much for just believing what i believe and i'd like to never go through that again. so i'm asking what other people think about politics and relationships.

i think you're being a bit naive, GAH.

if i read your post correctly, did'nt you bug him about it? seems like you asked for it.

and no im not being naive. politics don't play a big part in my life nor is it a criteria i look for in a mate.

 

[Babs Gordon]

no you're being a bit naive in that you're assuming that politics is what all my relationships were about. i never bugged him about politics. i always figured it would be a tender subject with him and i wanted to avoid it. i made light from to time the fact that he was a republican and i was a democrat, but i didn't provoke him into tearing my beliefs apart. it still makes me mad to this day.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

no you're being a bit naive in that you're assuming that politics is what all my relationships were about. i never bugged him about politics. i always figured it would be a tender subject with him and i wanted to avoid it. i made light from to time the fact that he was a republican and i was a democrat, but i didn't provoke him into tearing my beliefs apart. it still makes me mad to this day.

but its a big part of it,no? would you date a guy who really did'nt care about politics? or did'nt really see the point on your efforts on trying to change the world?

i think you're being naive on that front

btw when he tore you're beliefs apart, did he make some valid points?

 

[Babs Gordon]

i'd date someone who was apathetic. i'd date someone who had opposing opinions too (and have... three times). the point is that in order for it to work, they have to respect mine. that's what i'm trying to say.

to be honest me and my ex of 4.5 years very rarely spoke about politics although given time he started to develop more liberal views as a result of his time with me. our relationship was about friendship and awesome intramural sports, comics, mutual friends... haha not much else. i'm surprised in retrospect that it lasted as long as it did. but hey it was nutured in the artificial environment that is college.

the point is that i like to have common ground somewhere. historically it hasn't been in the political arena for me. usually the common ground has to do with the way we like to spend our time, the stuff we love, the way we live our lives or grew up.

 

[GoldenAgeHero]

i'd date someone who was apathetic. i'd date someone who had opposing opinions too (and have... three times). the point is that in order for it to work, they have to respect mine. that's what i'm trying to say.

to be honest me and my ex of 4.5 years very rarely spoke about politics although given time he started to develop more liberal views as a result of his time with me. our relationship was about friendship and awesome intramural sports, comics, mutual friends... haha not much else. i'm surprised in retrospect that it lasted as long as it did. but hey it was nutured in the artificial environment that is college.

the point is that i like to have common ground somewhere. historically it hasn't been in the political arena for me. usually the common ground has to do with the way we like to spend our time, the stuff we love, the way we live our lives or grew up.

would you make it a habit at bring up political debates,when the other is'nt interested?

 

[Babs Gordon]

i'm pretty non-confrontational. i don't like debates as a general rule. i like conversations but i hate when it turns into 'trying to prove one another wrong'. that is the worst.

 

[Babs Gordon]

but its a big part of it,no? would you date a guy who really did'nt care about politics? or did'nt really see the point on your efforts on trying to change the world?

i think you're being naive on that front

btw when he tore you're beliefs apart, did he make some valid points?

no he wasn't debating with me. he was telling me that i could never be anything to him because i valued things like teaching SCIENCE in science class not religion and because i think people are mature enough to make their own reproductive decisions without the government telling them what to do and because i spend a lot of my time trying to be conscious of the resources i use and buy organic food and so on and so forth. no... it was never a debate with him. he didn't even want to debate with me. he just wanted me to know how wrong i was. no valid points, just rip-apartage. it's one of the worst memories i've got in my cache of bad memories. keep in mind this is someone that i'd grown to care a great deal for over three months.

 

[SuperFerret]

I'm apolitical, so if I didn't date people that don't share my political veiws I'd never date. Then again, I never date as is, so go figure.

 

[mrvlknight21]

I dated a great girl who was very liberal. I just couldnt get past it, we had a few arguments that stemmed from our different beliefs and it always gnawed at me. For me, I don't want to do anything like that again. Keep in mind I am too conservative for most people anyways.

 

[Fried Gold]

beliefs are an important part of who we are.

I said political beliefs. If we're talking belief in general, then yeah, obviously there some things that may cause umbrage but I'm not going to dismiss a relationship because she supports the smoking ban, or is pro-abortion etc.

I think to do so is silly.

 

[Fried Gold]

no he wasn't debating with me. he was telling me that i could never be anything to him because i valued things like teaching SCIENCE in science class not religion and because i think people are mature enough to make their own reproductive decisions without the government telling them what to do and because i spend a lot of my time trying to be conscious of the resources i use and buy organic food and so on and so forth. no... it was never a debate with him. he didn't even want to debate with me. he just wanted me to know how wrong i was. no valid points, just rip-apartage. it's one of the worst memories i've got in my cache of bad memories. keep in mind this is someone that i'd grown to care a great deal for over three months.

In fairness, I think that's less to do with 'political persuasion' and more to do with him just being a dick.

 

[Master Chief]

Yep.

It helps not being that into politics.

...I hope if I find a chick that opposes, she's the same.

 

[Babs Gordon]

In fairness, I think that's less to do with 'political persuasion' and more to do with him just being a dick.

Haha you're right that he's a total *****e... but I kind of feel like anyone with extreme beliefs is going to be *****ey to defend themselves-- liberal or conservative.

You're right. Maybe that just makes them all *****es.