Dating: How Big of an Age Gap is "Too Much"?

[Cunning Stunts]

It all depends on the age group we're talking about. For example, now, I'd probably date someone who was close to thirty, and when I'm almost thirty, I'd probably date someone that was closer to my age as well (I'm twenty). That said, when I was fifteen, I most definitely wouldn't have dated a five year old, and I sincerely doubt a twenty-five-year old would have dated me.

 

[DBella]

As Cunning Stunts stated above, it depends on the age group. When I was in my teens, I dated boys from the same age group, no more than a year older than me. When I was 20, I dated a man who was 10 years my senior. As it turned out, we didn't have much in common but for physical attraction so that didn't last long.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I'm 22, youngest I would go is 18, and that's only if they are really, really mature for their age.

Oldest I would go...? Depends on how well they hold up I prefer older women, they have more experience you know what i'm saying When I was 19 I had regular sex with a 27 year old, that was very cool But we weren't dating or nothing, just some no strings attached fun!

 

[DBella]

I'm 22, youngest I would go is 18, and that's only if they are really, really mature for their age.

Oldest I would go...? Depends on how well they hold up I prefer older women, they have more experience you know what i'm saying When I was 19 I had regular sex with a 27 year old, that was very cool But we weren't dating or nothing, just some no strings attached fun!

So what happened? She stopped wanting you once you're not in your teens anymore?

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I don't know, I think she just got bored of me We still speak now whenever we see each other, so there is no hard feelings or nothing like that.

Haven't seen you around in a while Bella, how are you?

 

[Majic Walrus]

As long as both people are consenting adults age gaps are irrelevant. If I'm 29 and she's 59 and we're really into each other then... Who cares if she's 30 years older than I am. We like each other.

 

[Mrh7448]

Simple Question:

How big of an age gap in dating is considered "too much"?

Personally, I would prefer to date someone who was a year or two older or younger than me, tops. However, while I would prefer a year or two older/younger than me, it really doesn't matter too much as long as we aren't over five years apart. Yeah, "love has no bounds" and all that jive, but that just seems a bit weird to me when a woman is married to some guy who is almost or over ten years older than she is and vice-versa. High school and the first year of college set it in my head that even dating somebody who is a grade below or above you is a little...awkward, so a huge age gap would just make it worse for me.


Discuss!


[This is not a thread that condemns large gaps between significant others or anything like that, so to those who fit that category and to those that don't, when somebody (me, included) states their preference, don't take it as a jab or them putting their beliefs above others' beliefs. Nobody is condemning anyone. These are all opinions in here.]

To me it's never been an question of actual physical age. My fiance is 25 I'm 35, a difference of ten years. It's the maturity level, she's more mature than a lot of girls that age and well let's face it I'm a big kid at heart. So we meet somewhere in the middle.

While there are certain cultural gaps with our relationship our views on religion, politics, and other things are quite similar so it actually works for us. We also have similar wants for the future so again it just works.

To me it's never so much a matter of age but rather thoughts and desires. If we were at different stages, if she was still in the partying stage while he is in the settle down stage it wouldn't work (or vice versa) it's all matter of perspective and where you are in your life more than anything else.

When I was actually looking I was looking only within a five year range, above or below, but here I am with someone ten years younger and I'm happier than I've been in a long time. Too many people miss opportunities by putting on stupid rules that aren't necessary. If you like someone I say go for it regardless of age (as long as it's a consenting adult of course), gender, creed or anything else.

 

[terry78]

Sometimes, you just crave some 18 year old booty. Well, 19 to give yourself a margin of error.

 

[mrvlknight21]

The formula we use (if the girl is younger than us) is half your age (the guy's age), plus 7

X/2 + 7 = lowest age for the female
X=man's age

For example there is a guy who is 30, he can date a 22 year old, but not any younger than that.

This also prevents any child molestations...for example:
a 20 year old cant date younger than 17.

But as the guy gets older, the gap opens up more. I mean a 40 year old can date a 27 year old using this formula...thats not too bad.

 

[Darthphere]

Personally, I found it creepy when a senior would date a freshman. Or even worse, all those freshman girls who claimed to be dating a college guy. After that age range, it's all good IMO. 23 year olds dating 50 year olds, whatever.

 

[Victarion]

I'll pretty much **** anything with a vagina regardless of age.

Surely you have an age preference?

 

[The Sarge]

Are you just upset because you're her "nice" friend that she doesn't look at like that even though you think you can make her happier than that guy?

No.
I don't hang around those girls, because I find being that dude sucks.

 

[Darthphere]

Surely you have an age preference?

Well yeah, if you're legal, I'm gonna hit it.

 

[simplysuperhero]

I'm 33 and my wife is 24. It all depends on the people involved (maturity, character, common interests) not the age difference between them.

I agree. Good post.

Thinking about this more, it's not about age that can enhance compatibility (since that's what we're talking about here). It's got a lot to do with how comfortable you are with yourself before you meet that person and how comfortable that person is about him/herself before meeting you. If not, it'll show up in the relationship.

It's also about being comfortable with the one you're with, comfortable enough to let them grow as a person and for that person to be comfortable with you growing as a person too. In other words, giving each other room to grow trumps age, interests, etc.

 

[BlackLantern]

Surely you have an age preference?

Im behind....I don't get the Pedobear thing

 

[Nirvana]

A lot of people I've dated have been older than me. One girl I dated was four years older than me. I don't think I really care about the age, as long as they're legal.

 

[Captain_BluTac]

I don't think any age gap can be "too much" I mean nowadays most people don't act their age anyways. case in point my first boyfriend when I was 15 was 49 and he acted just like any guy my ageand he was one of the best guys I've ever dated, the only big difference was that his hair was going grey and he had a kid.

 

[SsM]

I almost dated a woman that was 15 when I was born.

 

[terry78]

I don't think any age gap can be "too much" I mean nowadays most people don't act their age anyways. case in point my first boyfriend when I was 15 was 49 and he acted just like any guy my ageand he was one of the best guys I've ever dated, the only big difference was that his hair was going grey and he had a kid.

I can't tell if that's you being ironic or not.

 

[Captain_BluTac]

I can't tell if that's you being ironic or not.

not...

 

[BlackLantern]

I don't think any age gap can be "too much" I mean nowadays most people don't act their age anyways. case in point my first boyfriend when I was 15 was 49 and he acted just like any guy my ageand he was one of the best guys I've ever dated, the only big difference was that his hair was going grey and he had a kid.

that's.....different

 

[Captain_BluTac]

that's.....different

Not really, plenty of guys I know go for an older partner.

 

[Ace of Knaves]

When they are 15?

 

[BlackLantern]

that's called statutory rape here in the US

 

[Ace of Knaves]

I think it is over here as well. 16 is the limit.