Dating: How Big of an Age Gap is "Too Much"?

[Warhammer]

Simple Question:

How big of an age gap in dating is considered "too much"?

Personally, I would prefer to date someone who was a year or two older or younger than me, tops. However, while I would prefer a year or two older/younger than me, it really doesn't matter too much as long as we aren't over five years apart. Yeah, "love has no bounds" and all that jive, but that just seems a bit weird to me when a woman is married to some guy who is almost or over ten years older than she is and vice-versa. High school and the first year of college set it in my head that even dating somebody who is a grade below or above you is a little...awkward, so a huge age gap would just make it worse for me.


Discuss!


[This is not a thread that condemns large gaps between significant others or anything like that, so to those who fit that category and to those that don't, when somebody (me, included) states their preference, don't take it as a jab or them putting their beliefs above others' beliefs. Nobody is condemning anyone. These are all opinions in here.]

 

[Alexia Dark]

I'm considering seeing someone who is 28, and I just turned 20. That said, it's not exactly like I'm looking for marriage, here .

 

[Adenjo]

I think the age gap thing depends on what actual age the two people involved are at any given time...

Example.
I'm 37 my other half is 30.. Which is cool.

However..
When I was 17... She waas 10.. Which to be honest back then would have been pretty much uncool.. And rather Illegal.

 

[Wiseman]

When I was younger I dated women that were up to 15 years older then me. But I'm at the point in my life where I won't date anyone that I don't see a future with so 4 or 5 years difference in age, older or younger, is my limit

 

[Prison Mike]

I, personally, would date someone within a year or two of my age. Probably youger than me...though I love older chicks too. But yeah, I agree with Warhammer.

 

[Mdizzle]

"dating" vs. randomly hooking up...I think there's always that older man fantasy, but whether it would actually pan out dating-wise is another thing. If it's something more or less serious/committed, I prefer older. These types seem to be at the same place in life intellectually as me. Never had the experience of dating more than 5 years older, but I'd be open for it.

As for hooking up with the older man, it can either be all that it's cracked up to be, or else a total failure (i.e. he's 45 and hasn't had sex for 5 years).

 

[Warhammer]

I think the age gap thing depends on what actual age the two people involved are at any given time...

Example.
I'm 37 my other half is 30.. Which is cool.

However..
When I was 17... She waas 10.. Which to be honest back then would have been pretty much uncool.. And rather Illegal.

As far as that is concerned, both should be out of high school. After people graduate from high school, they reach a new maturity level and a new lifestyle begins for the said person. A college student dating a high school student is a little fishy unless...maybe...it was a college freshman dating a high school senior and even then, it's a bit awkward to me. In high school, I was one of those dudes that looked down on seniors dating freshman. It was more of manipulation and easy p**** for the most part.

 

[The Squirrel]

I'm 22 and I couldn't see myself dating someone who was 25 and that's only a three year difference.

 

[Mdizzle]

I'm considering seeing someone who is 28, and I just turned 20. That said, it's not exactly like I'm looking for marriage, here .

Exactly, hooking vs. "dating" more seriously....as the age difference goes up, one is usually more feasible than the other

 

[katie_girl09]

My upper limit is about 5 years. My lower limit is about 2 years. Sorry, I don't wanna go too far under because I find that women mature faster than men, so dating a much younger man is asking for trouble unless in exceptional circumstances.

 

[Drakon]

I dated a woman who was about 6 years my senior, and it kinda worked out, but in the end, there was too much going on in her life for it to really work. I usually tend to gravitate towards older women, and when I try someone my age, it doesn't work out.

Personally, I think it's all about being rational. Like Adjeno said above, the age gap for one grouping isn't the same for another.

 

[Warhammer]

"dating" vs. randomly hooking up...I think there's always that older man fantasy, but whether it would actually pan out dating-wise is another thing. If it's something more or less serious/committed, I prefer older. These types seem to be at the same place in life intellectually as me. Never had the experience of dating more than 5 years older, but I'd be open for it.

As for hooking up with the older man, it can either be all that it's cracked up to be, or else a total failure (i.e. he's 45 and hasn't had sex for 5 years).

I wouldn't mind hooking up with a 30 year old or beyond as long as she was attractive/fine. For me, age doesn't factor into hooking up because a few booty calls or "friends with benefits" with no strings attached between two mature adults doesn't require it. Of course, if that's what you meant by hooking up. If you didn't, I am sorry for missing the ball completely.

 

[KALEL114]

I'm 33 and my wife is 24. It all depends on the people involved (maturity, character, common interests) not the age difference between them. As long as it's legal of course.

 

[Mdizzle]

I wouldn't mind hooking up with a 30 year old or beyond as long as she was attractive/fine. For me, age doesn't factor into hooking up because a few booty calls or "friends with benefits" with no strings attached between two mature adults doesn't require it. Of course, if that's what you meant by hooking up. If you didn't, I am sorry for missing the ball completely.

Nah we're on the same page here. The random tappage with the older person is doable, but a bigger age difference could be disruptive for a more committed relationship I think. Depends on the ppl I guess, where you are in life, your views, maturity, etc.

 

[knowsbleed]

Dating and relationships... I would put an age limit.





Casual sex... legal is legal is legal.

 

[Warhammer]

Nah we're on the same page here. The random tappage with the older person is doable, but a bigger age difference could be disruptive for a more committed relationship I think. Depends on the ppl I guess, where you are in life, your views, maturity, etc.

Yep, six billion people on this planet equals a whole lot of difference. Anything can work. Just based on purely preference before meeting someone, I am thinking age would make things less disruptive, like you said.

 

[Majik1387]

No more than 10 years.

 

[Spidey-Bat]

Half your age plus 7

 

[terry78]

If you two go out to a store and she wants to pick up the most recent Camp Rock merchandise, she might be a bit too young for you.

 

[The Sarge]

I have a female friend that's 19 years of age- the guy she's seeing is 38.
That's right, he was her age when she was born.
I haven't met the guy but I find it rubs me the wrong way. I haven't given her **** about it because I know she definatly gets enough of it, and that what I say won't change her mind. If she asks I'll tell her it's creepy, but she seems smart enough to assume most people find it disturbing.

 

[Wiseman]

I have a female friend that's 19 years of age- the guy she's seeing is 38.
That's right, he was her age when she was born.
I haven't met the guy but I find it rubs me the wrong way. I haven't given her **** about it because I know she definatly gets enough of it, and that what I say won't change her mind. If she asks I'll tell her it's creepy, but she seems smart enough to assume most people find it disturbing.

Are you just upset because you're her "nice" friend that she doesn't look at like that even though you think you can make her happier than that guy?

 

[E-Man]

It all depends on the person's maturity level. If they can't get past the age factor, then anything beyond sex isn't worth it. If they truly don't mind dating someone much older or younger than them that's cool. It's easy to see how age can get in the way with a huge gap. There is just a different mindset to being a certain age. Even people who are mature for their age don't understand how older people think, and vice versa.

 

[Darthphere]

I'll pretty much **** anything with a vagina regardless of age.

 

[Spidey-Bat]

I'll pretty much **** anything with a vagina regardless of age.

or size?

 

[Sawyer]

10 years older, at any age I am. Younger.... I dunno, it depends. Right now, since I'm about to turn 19... I'd say 16-17 would be the youngest I'd go. When I'm thirty... maybe 20. I dont know. I'm not good with math.