"Dateless" Attractive Women

[twylight]

I've seen females that look like straight gargoyles get attention.

That's the last time I go with you to the club.

 

[GunBlade]

Am I the only one who sometimes think it's total b.s. when an attractive woman says that men don't ask her out or approach her?

Not to say it isn't true, because some men do get intimidated when being around attractive women (hell, I do sometimes); but other times I think what they're really saying is men that THEY LIKE aren't asking them out, not that men don't approach them period.

Yes I know a couple. Drop dead gorgeous but never been in a relationship.

 

[danielisthor]

*smack* =P

You got skills though. They're intimidated by your moves.

I'm intimidated by the fact she's a Nubian Goddess.

 

[SoulManX]

I'm intimidated by the fact she's a Nubian Goddess.

Im not

 

[Babs Gordon]

Whether I talk to a guy or give out a number has to do with how intriguing they are. Looks aren't as important as being really friendly, genuine, confident and interesting. They do factor in though, no human being can deny that.

 

[Erzengel]

I set up an elaborate distraction to seperate the woman from the rest of her female herd. Than when it's time is right I slowly stalk the girl until it's the time to pounce.

 

[zanos]

I don't give guys who hit on me at the bar the time of day. Granted, I've had a boyfriend almost the entire time I've been going to bars.

I'd run away from a guy who walked up to me with flowers and champagne and spewed off "romantic" ramblings if I didn't know him.
I would think that the cute guy talking to me every day in class was hitting on me if we weren't already friends.

There was this guy in one of my classes who pretty much stared at me all class, and then finally towards the end of the year, during the class break he walked up to me and asked, "Are you Japanese?" I still can't tell if that was supposed to be a pickup line or not. Either way, I acted like a ***** and he never tried to speak to me again. Still stared though. Anyway.

I didn't mean to stare. I just really needed to know if you were japanese or not.

 

[GunBlade]

Physically attractive doesn't mean people are all over them.

Neither does it mean person who is considered unfortunate looking can't find a date. I know guys that have minds and personalities I find very attractive but physically, they're not my type.

Basically, it all comes down to the individual. Whether they're willing to overlook the physical for more important things is up to them.

 

[terry78]

That's the last time I go with you to the club.

Quit stalking me. Besides, I don't do the club scene...I was just there for a hooker anyway.

 

[kainedamo]

I think that when it's the club/bar scene many women put on their "sharon stone" persona and try to act as stuck up as possible and forget that they are regular human beings just like the men they tend to try and put down. They become extremeley picky and snobbish and most times miss out on great guys. Before i was married, i met plenty of attractive women in the club/bar scene. But it does take someone with a strong personality to overcome that. And in class, it's not the sharon stone persona but "martha stewart"(pre-jail) persona so it's not the real them either. I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket, or the dry cleaners, car wash, the park (dog walking). A place where she isn't suspecting a request

I completely agree with you. It is IMPOSSIBLE to pick up girls in clubs. I've lost count of the amount of girls who said they had a boyfriend. And then, sometimes, you look over and see a total *****e hit on them and he scores. And I'm like, just because he has floppy hair and doesn't have acne he's better than me??

 

[kainedamo]

Whether I talk to a guy or give out a number has to do with how intriguing they are. Looks aren't as important as being really friendly, genuine, confident and interesting. They do factor in though, no human being can deny that.

It's my experience that guys that are extremely confident when it comes to talking to girls they don't know are smarmy and fake. Like Andy Train, a guy that was my arch nemesis for awhile. He was my arch nemesis, 'cause he was a complete ******* and yet nearly everyone else thought he was fantastic - especially girls. Most people literally worshipped the ground he walked on, but there was a few people that could see right through him. He's smarmy and fake.

 

[Asteroid-Man]

please, I can pick up any biatch

 

[SoulManX]

please, I can pick up any biatch

Way to go Casnova

 

[britrogue]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your **** are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.

 

[twylight]

Quit stalking me. Besides, I don't do the club scene...I was just there for a hooker anyway.

You're the one who called me a gargoyle.

 

[SoulManX]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your **** are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.

Yes my gender can be down right rude....for that Im sorry it happens to you.

 

[Fried Gold]

LOL The only reason anyone goes to nightclub is to get AIDS, not to find a meaningful relationship.

 

[Fried Gold]

Yes my gender can be down right rude....for that Im sorry it happens to you.

 

[Childlike Wild]

I would say the best chance men have at being able to talk to the "dateless" attractive woman is somewhere neutral, like at a supermarket...

A guy came up to me in the grocery store last Saturday night. (Yes, I was shopping on Saturday. It's an exciting non-single life I lead.) I'm staring at the boxes of tissues, and he asks me first what music I'm listening to (iPod), and then if I've met anyone in a grocery store.

I said no, and the answer remains no. I'm not your grocery store ****e, guy.


PS: It's the quality of the men doing the asking. It's not a turn-on to see them looking at you like you have "SEX" written on your forehead.

 

[kainedamo]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your **** are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.

Christ, where do you live??

Actually, I think you'd get jerks like that anywhere

But I think guys like that are a minority. They're just rude pigs that are insecure about themselves so they have to be *******s to get some laughs from their buddies.

 

[SoulManX]

Christ, where do you live??

Actually, I think you'd get jerks like that anywhere

But I think guys like that are a minority. They're just rude pigs that are insecure about themselves so they have to be *******s to get some laughs from their buddies.

One bad apple...

 

[November Rain]

I'm attractive, and I'm single. I wouldn't say that nobody ever hits on me, but unfortunately, I really have no interest in guys who just come up to me and go "God, your **** are huge!"
Nobody ever comes up to me anymore and just "talks" to me, like I'm a human being. I just get shouted remarks about the size of my chest and publically asked "Fancy a shag?" by total strangers. It really gets me down. The problem is, most guys aren't gentlemen anymore. I don't expect all the door opening crap, but to be spoken to with a little bit of class would be nice.

Generally I find that if you approach men and set the tone for the conversation, you don't get this problem or even when you catch these previously over spoken men on a one-on-one where they aren't trying to impress their friends with male bravado they can be fairly different.

also no one likes to hear this but do you think the way you dress perhaps may have something to do with it? Do you wear clothes out that significantly point out your cleavage more than other garments?

It's not really an issue if you do, but if some men who genuinely like you see you reacting to other men whatever thier method of approach is, they are less likely to try. Nobody wants to go up and talk with a moodypants.

you are ultimately in control of what type of response you get out of people and you have the power to change it. When you go out, you have a right to enjoy it and feel just as sexy as everyone else, don't be forced into a pidgeon hole by loud mouthed men who are only looking for a reaction.

 

[kainedamo]

I don't think it's very fair how, when it comes to the dating game, women are far more superior than men.

Men do all the "hunting". Girls can have their pick. Men HAVE to come across as interesting, charming, and confident all in the first conversation he has with the woman. If he can't do that, the woman instantly considers him not good enough to give him even the time of day. Women can afford to be picky (often TOO picky, which oddly enough means they end up with a-holes) and men cannot afford to be picky at all.

A good example of women being what I consider too picky is here in this thread from a couple of examples the women have given.

Girls, you have to understand this. It takes balls - massive, massive balls - to approach a girl. Any girl. If she's attractive, then his cajones must be insanely large. And 9 out of 10 times, you shoot us down. Shattering our confidence for another year, until we work up our balls big enough to ask someone else out.

 

[Fried Gold]

I don't think it's very fair how, when it comes to the dating game, women are far more superior than men.

Men do all the "hunting". Girls can have their pick. Men HAVE to come across as interesting, charming, and confident all in the first conversation he has with the woman. If he can't do that, the woman instantly considers him not good enough to give him even the time of day. Women can afford to be picky (often TOO picky, which oddly enough means they end up with a-holes) and men cannot afford to be picky at all.

A good example of women being what I consider too picky is here in this thread from a couple of examples the women have given.

Girls, you have to understand this. It takes balls - massive, massive balls - to approach a girl. Any girl. If she's attractive, then his cajones must be insanely large. And 9 out of 10 times, you shoot us down. Shattering our confidence for another year, until we work up our balls big enough to ask someone else out.

Agreed.

 

[November Rain]

I don't think it's very fair how, when it comes to the dating game, women are far more superior than men.

Men do all the "hunting". Girls can have their pick. Men HAVE to come across as interesting, charming, and confident all in the first conversation he has with the woman. If he can't do that, the woman instantly considers him not good enough to give him even the time of day. Women can afford to be picky (often TOO picky, which oddly enough means they end up with a-holes) and men cannot afford to be picky at all.

A good example of women being what I consider too picky is here in this thread from a couple of examples the women have given.

Girls, you have to understand this. It takes balls - massive, massive balls - to approach a girl. Any girl. If she's attractive, then his cajones must be insanely large. And 9 out of 10 times, you shoot us down. Shattering our confidence for another year, until we work up our balls big enough to ask someone else out.

you've never been approached by a woman, have you?